NONONOYES. Thank you for your deep truthful reply. But even though you never thought you would never be married with kids you were playing with the fire to get burnt. I myself always knew I would never be a father. Now I am 50 I may well be receiving the benefits as my life is in a contented place, with little regrets to look back on, because my life has always been my own; fatherhood never took that away.
But we don't all get to be my age with the same blessings, or the contentment in life, because we can not go back and change things.
You are lucky, your four children embraced you after you were truthful with them, many are not so lucky, as their own past actions may of created that, as they may of needed to show compassion, understanding or even just acceptance when they did not; thus it come back to bite them on the bum when they come out Per se. If my Pa even come out for swinging both ways, I may well of beaten the shite out of him, I certainly may well of at least walked away laughing at him; all because of his past actions. My Pa also got told: you made your bed now lay in it; how my Pa's pride got in the way of many things.
But I look back at my parents now, and see many things. I am so grateful I never had any children, for when I was younger being a gay man was the most important thing in my life, and it would of come before my child. Were others here pride, want of acceptance and advancement would of come first. Now I would make a great father as my sexuality is just a part of me and does not define me as a whole, as I am now also able to see many other aspects about me and I'm not just a poofter;; a Bona Fide Homosexual. I am also one of the good guys in the community; I work and live.
I have and still do work with youth and children, well in fact people of all ages. But we can not like them all the same. So I accept them for their differences, and I have many great professional working relationships with people from all walks of life. It's what I would like to apply to parenthood, if I had kids; as you did, and now you receive the rewards; be blessed.
But sadly many parents take the easy way out and dismiss the children they like least, and give 100% to those they have bonded with.
I feel the actions and reactions of parents who have lived and been seen as straight people in a hetrosexual relationship while their children were growing up. Then one day want to bee seen as gay men in a homosexual relationship, must be devastating for many children, and these children do not always embrace their parents lifestyle choice. Thus the parent rejects that person they created and the situation too.
How must they feel if it was a child they full loved, yet the one they rejected supported them?