Bullies, Jerks, Violence. When do you intervene?

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    Jun 14, 2012 11:24 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
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    SkinnyBitch saidI didn't want to do it in the waiting room because people would be all "oh that's so nice isn't that nice" and I'd be expected to interact with the staff and patients.

    So I asked to speak with one of the people there in private, took out the case and left it with them before leaving.


    It's hard to explain bud but when I say against the crowd I mean as far as taking action. Many people would like to take action but if they see no one else doing so they may feel more inclined to not get involved. Compared to if they were alone they wouldnt feel much pressure.

    That's nice what you did. Would you still have done it privately if you saw other people doing it publicly?

    If they were getting thanked for it and had to talk to people I would have done it privately.
    It's the same as when we had garbage bags on the ground at our dumpster. Probly left my a senior who couldn't lift it. I waited until the middle of the night to take my garbage out so I could throw those bags in without being seen. And waited for people to leave before doing my gardening so I wouldn't get people asking questions or saying it was good that I was doing that for free.

    I don't want any attention, positive or negative!


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    Jun 20, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    T, you are very amazing. I don't even know when I would intervene if it were not happening to me. What sucks is when I see those videos where the bystander effect takes place, I feel like I'd be the same especially if there's a huge crowd of people there. Just watching the video, you'd think there'd be one person who'd do something. There are a few videos on youtube. Some situations aren't so terrible. There's also that show...."What Would You Do?" from what I've heard, they create some awkward situations and see if people would react and help the person in need or something.
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    Jun 20, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    vla8 saidT, you are very amazing. I don't even know when I would intervene if it were not happening to me. What sucks is when I see those videos where the bystander effect takes place, I feel like I'd be the same especially if there's a huge crowd of people there. Just watching the video, you'd think there'd be one person who'd do something. There are a few videos on youtube. Some situations aren't so terrible. There's also that show...."What Would You Do?" from what I've heard, they create some awkward situations and see if people would react and help the person in need or something.


    Thanks Emmanuel. Yeah "what would you do" is a very highly controversial show. Not only do they put awkward situations like teens buying beer, domestic violence, someone pretending to drop their wallet, but they always play out the scenarios to uncover potential biases like how would you react to domestic violence situation with a hetrocouple vs gay vs lesbian couple... or would you turn in a shoplifter if she was "hot" vs a girl whos average etc

    It can show the best and the worst in people