If yer looking on Grindr for ANYthing else than what WE ALL know it's for...your making a HUUUUUGE mistake.
The social climate of NYC has changed drastically over the years.
There was a time that Gay Men went to Gay bars to meet other Gay Men. That was really the only reasonably safe option and it was understood that that was part of the reason we went there.
Bars now are very different. It is mostly groups of guys going together to talk amongst themselves -- and the uppitty dudes in some sort of perpetual snit who simply sit and text message all night while looking incredibly bored and angry.
The real idea is to meet as many people as you can and keep GOING OUT. it is about networking to some degree. And it is a numbers game. The more people you know...the more people you will meet...the more places you will be invited to...the more opportunities to meet Quality Gay Dudes.
Truth: there is no one place to meet a guy in one night and live happily ever after.
Some nights you will strike out entirely.
Some nights you will go home with 35 phone numbers.
Enjoying the process is the most important step!!!