I want a boyfriend and I think my l.ife would be complete if I had one.

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    Aug 24, 2007 7:48 PM GMT
    Then you should seek one out.
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    Aug 25, 2007 11:43 AM GMT
    ya know..have to agree with most posters on this topic. You DO have to be happy with and love yourself, even before contemplating making someone else a meaningful part of your life, but buddy..despite what most have said, and I find this true for myself, as others have also...
    being with the right person DOES make you feel complete.
    Before I met my boyfriend(working on relationship to take to 'partner' stage), I loved myself and felt TOTALLY complete and sure of myself. It wasnt until i met him, that i discovered that there was a part of me, never before discovered. A part that was not totally complete. A part that was just waiting for the right person to fill it.
    Now, when we are apart, it feels as if a chunk of me is missing. He is that chunk. And before meeting him, i never even knew there was anything out of place. And he feels the same.
    so, good luck, buddy. Become totally complete with yourself, love yourself...and then find that someone that makes you totally whole. Or, as in my case, let that special someone just drop into your life out of the blue, with no design or plan, whatsover.
    You know, sometimes, love at first sight does happen and the chemistry is instant, its not just in the movies....it happens in real life. I know.
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    Sep 20, 2007 12:50 AM GMT
    I agree with GQJock. Don't expect a boyfriend to fill a void. I haven't had a boyfriend who I really connected with, until recently and I found him because I discovered that I can be happy with being single. I read this self help book called The Boyfriend Within and it had practical exercices that worked for me. I sort of evaluated my self worth and after I had the confidence to realize that I am a catch and I am fine on my own, I started a relationship with someone I have known for a couple years but never bothered talking too before.

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    Sep 20, 2007 1:34 AM GMT
    It's a very subjective thing...we all crave having someone in one point of our lives. It's normal, its what makes us human.

    If you think you're ready then look for someone, dont expect it to come to you. I know it's cliched but there are plenty of people out there to meet...just takes a little confidence in you, and people who have confidence are more likely to be sexy than someone who isnt.

    However, there is also the age old thing where when you want it you dont have it, and when you do have it you dont want it...
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    Sep 20, 2007 3:11 AM GMT
    Can a partner make you feel complete? mmmmm -- don't think so. At least, not for me.

    I had to feel complete before he came along - and now that he's here, I feel as though the two of us are greater than the sum of the parts.

    Am I making the distinction clear? I believe you have to be ready to be alone and happy - then when someone special comes along, you can transcend that happiness....

    That's how it was, and is, for me.

    - J.
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:02 AM GMT
    I don't know if a guy can complete me. I really don't. I have been presented with more opportunities than I know with which to do. I didn't always feel pretty. I didn't always feel like I am finally gaining this strength to climb my personal mountain. if I fall, I get back up. if I get hurt, I heal. do I need someone else to tell me what's what? do I need to have someone there each night I come home? do I need a travel buddy? do I need him to be there to talk out my personal issues? to all: no. I don't need any of that; I am and have learned to be my own boyfriend.

    I admit that I am completely ignorant to the dating scene/dating game that these guys play out there. if I say that I'll call, I call. if I say that I like you, you can best bet I do. if I say that I am willing to work with you on just about any issue you've got (because I have issues of my own), I'm going to be there as best I can. none of this two week wait time. none of this oh, my phone died ... again business. can I be intimidatingly blunt? hell yes. am I learning to be more gentle and less of a dick? all the time. I realize that having a guy in your life could be great, but there is also the necessary context of actually feeling something when he and I speak to each other; there needs to be some sort of chemistry. for me, and call it what you'd like, I'd also like to look at my potential guy and want to f the days away for weeks on end ... I want to be turned the hell on by his side glances ... I want there to be an understanding that when we're together, regardless as to where we are, when he reaches down and gropes me ... it's because he knows that what's between my legs is all his and he can play with his boy as he pleases.

    a boyfriend is not necessary, but it seems like so many wait for it. so many people make themselves sick for an ideal that may or may not be entirely their own. I don't think there's a one; I'll just say it. I'll know if I'm willing to put up with a guy and if he's willing to put up with me after time has passed between us. I'll know if I can count on him through a series of conversation ... not if he makes me cum; I can do that on my own. I don't want to be ' sick ' waiting for something that may never come my way ... but I surely don't want to push away any distinct potential that gets under my skin and into my thoughts.

    if he is the sun and I the moon, then I don't suspect we'll see each other all too often. but if he is like rain and I a sapling, then I can use his loving heart to germinate and grow as a person. it will then be natural for me to do the same for him.

    Don't say no your breakfast tears are gone
    Resist or let go, you're borderline withdrawn
    Down, unlit from the bottom there is a misfit
    Better than it looks, better than it looks ...
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:06 AM GMT
    Surfwarrior saidUntil you accept yourself, whole heartedly and completely, you will not allow anyone else to accept you.

    Love thyself and love will find you.

    There are many struggles in this world, but the one that rages on inside in each of us is the hardest to win.

    Beautifully said!
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:18 AM GMT
    oh oh everyone heard you this time , the tooth fairy, chucky the doll, legions, the matchmakers from hell, fag hags kicked to the curb, large fake Chers with a need to dominate needy folk like you, the alternate universe, satan...just to name a few....be careful what you yearn for....are you sure you want one or is that the penis talkin?
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:19 AM GMT
    Well stop postin and wishin for one to fall out of the sky and go look for one....jeez is not that hard
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:23 AM GMT
    Never thought I would see it, but it has come to pass.......

    A nearly 3 year old thread was resurrected.
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    Mar 09, 2010 7:41 AM GMT
    oh honey...it takes balls to admit that...cause you know a lot of us are thinking that...but honestly, you don't need a boy to be complete..you just need a boy to hold your hand when you go to the supermarket on sundays, scratch your back, and make you cum...you are complete.