Do you ever feel ignored on RJ?

  • Montague

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    Jul 07, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    I've noticed even if you get ignored on the forums it seems like a ton of hot dudes who don't post in the forums will hit you up and start conversation! hah
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    Jul 07, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    SkinnyBitch SaidI think you said I was ugly a long time ago. I might be wrong, it's hard to keep track of all of them.icon_lol.gif
    Did I call you ugly? I think I would've used a more creative outlet than just calling you ugly.

    Did you do something to ruffle my feathers?
    Honestly have no idea what thread it was in. I wouldn't even know what to look up. I was hoping you would remember and verify it haha.

    onaquest, thanks. And also (in a dramatic voice) "What, you don't recognize it so NO ONE will? You think you speak for EVERYONE? QUEEN BEE ONAQUEST makes it so!" (j/k)

    Montague saidI've noticed even if you have abs and get ignored on the forums it seems like a ton of hot dudes who don't post in the forums will hit you up and start conversation! hah
    Fixed, dear.
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    Jul 07, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    I do, but I don't have anybody to blame for that but myself. I don't post to many forums, and I am always so busy I do not have time to be on here for long periods of time. If I posted to more forums and spent more time on here I probably would not feel ignored
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    Jul 07, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    You get out of RJ what you put into it. The forums fly at a furious pace when a lot of people are online. You have to put some effort into it if you want to keep up. A lot of the people complaining here don't really get ignored. They just don't participate much.
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    Jul 07, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    I'm just a ghost on here. I can't even post a chat.
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    Jul 07, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    I think it can help those that feel ignored to pick a catchy screen name and stick with it.


    Also, just agreeing with the OP or saying something like "hot!" or "woof!" doesn't make you exactly stand out....
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    Jul 07, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidYou get out of RJ what you put into it. The forums fly at a furious pace when a lot of people are online. You have to put some effort into it if you want to keep up. A lot of the people complaining here don't really get ignored. They just don't participate much.


    I call BS. I participate fairly often. Though I can't be on RJ for long periods of time, I have a healthy post count between this account and my first one that I started in 2008 (about 6000 when I deleted it last year, if I remember correctly). No one really has much to say in response to my posts unless I start my own thread. Even then, the thread seems to die out within a page and usually from inane conversation that has nothing to do with the original topic.

    And honestly, I've posted thread topics that seem to fizzle out pretty fast, but when someone more "popular" or hotter starts the same topic, the participation jumps. It sucks, but such is the way of the jungle.
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    Jul 07, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI think it can help those that feel ignored to pick a catchy screen name and stick with it.


    Also, just agreeing with the OP or saying something like "hot!" or "woof!" doesn't make you exactly stand out....


    <---tried it brah...doesn't work
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    Bromoflexual saidI call BS. I participate fairly often. Though I can't be on RJ for long periods of time, I have a healthy post count between this account and my first one that I started in 2008 (about 6000 when I deleted it last year, if I remember correctly). No one really has much to say in response to my posts unless I start my own thread. Even then, the thread seems to die out within a page and usually from inane conversation that has nothing to do with the original topic.

    And honestly, I've posted thread topics that seem to fizzle out pretty fast, but when someone more "popular" or hotter starts the same topic, the participation jumps. It sucks, but such is the way of the jungle.


    I don't think I've interacted with you, so I can't form an opinion about your posts. Some people post without saying anything that can be responded to. I have a super high post count from talking and playing around with a lot of different people. You can't say that I'm one of the hot guys who gets attention based on his looks. Clearly, I'm not. I get attention because I engage people. I was virtually ignored for my first few months here. I came out of my shell more, and that's when I started talking to more people. I'm not saying it's easy, but people have to put in the effort. You also have to talk to a lot of different people before you find the ones you "click" with. I try to be friendly with almost everyone, but I don't always have the right chemistry with people to keep the conversation going.
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    All by myself... Don't wanna be all by myself...ANYMORE!
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    I don't know how people on certain forums get so many posts. I mainly stay in the chat room instead of the forums.
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
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    I don't think I've interacted with you, so I can't form an opinion about your posts. Some people post without saying anything that can be responded to. I have a super high post count from talking and playing around with a lot of different people. You can't say that I'm one of the hot guys who gets attention based on his looks. Clearly, I'm not. I get attention because I engage people. I was virtually ignored for my first few months here. I came out of my shell more, and that's when I started talking to more people. I'm not saying it's easy, but people have to put in the effort. You also have to talk to a lot of different people before you find the ones you "click" with. I try to be friendly with almost everyone, but I don't always have the right chemistry with people to keep the conversation going.


    I do post cute/dumb little one-liners here and there, but for the most part, I usually post something relevant to the thread conversation.

    So this insinuates that you've put in more effort than I have? It's a possibility. It's also a possibility that I just don't "click" with many people here or that people aren't interested in "clicking" with me. Two recent cases in point: 1) my original post on this very thread got no response at all and 2) the two videos I posted on the audio/video thread got one response a bit further down the page, while some new posters with single or double-digit post counts get 5+ responses immediately.

    I know I sound butthurt and foreveralone. I'd be lying if I claimed I didn't feel that way to some degree. But I'm sure that I can't be the only person on RJ who's put in honest effort who's also feeling this way?
  • trl_

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    Jul 07, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    tbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y



    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    Didn't u sit next to me in social studies 2nd period? Lol
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    Bromoflexual saidI do post cute/dumb little one-liners here and there, but for the most part, I usually post something relevant to the thread conversation.

    So this insinuates that you've put in more effort than I have? It's a possibility. It's also a possibility that I just don't "click" with many people here or that people aren't interested in "clicking" with me. Two recent cases in point: 1) my original post on this very thread got no response at all and 2) the two videos I posted on the audio/video thread got one response a bit further down the page, while some new posters with single or double-digit post counts get 5+ responses immediately.

    I know I sound butthurt and foreveralone. I'd be lying if I claimed I didn't feel that way to some degree. But I'm sure that I can't be the only person on RJ who's put in honest effort who's also feeling this way?


    There's your problem right there! (I kid!)

    If my post count is higher than yours, then yes, I've put in more effort. It's possible that you don't click with anyone. I couldn't say for sure. Not everyone will fit in here. I'm surprised I've found anyone to talk to. Not every post will get a response. You have to keep trying, if you even care.

    No, you're not the only person who feels this way, which is the entire point of this thread. I'm simply offering my advice on how to change it.
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    It's not really that clique-y. How many people have you taken the time to get to know since you've been here?
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    I feel ignored... time to get laid! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    It's not really that clique-y. How many people have you taken the time to get to know since you've been here?


    I've tried to get to know about, I'm guessing, a few hundred. Though they mostly don't seem to want to do the same, or it doesn't get too far.

    Edit: I've been here since Aug 2008-ish FWIW.
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    TBH, I have no idea who you are. Also, it helps A LOT if you would post a face pic. I feel uneasy chatting with a person who I can't see....icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    It's not really that clique-y. How many people have you taken the time to get to know since you've been here?


    It is a little cliquey to me. But I don't agree that only the hot guys get attention here. There are plenty of guys on here that aren't exactly GQ models and they are very popular. Some people just need to find their voice. For better or worse, most people know about the Colonel even though God knows he's not a looker. But he has a voice, which is what you need to stand out.


    And people shouldn't be concerned about how many posts they have. Everyone here is entitled to be heard. Getnasty just joined and I actually find him a little entertaining. Because he has a voice. However catty and bitchy it may bel....icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said

    There's your problem right there! (I kid!)

    If my post count is higher than yours, then yes, I've put in more effort. It's possible that you don't click with anyone. I couldn't say for sure. Not everyone will fit in here. I'm surprised I've found anyone to talk to. Not every post will get a response. You have to keep trying, if you even care.

    No, you're not the only person who feels this way, which is the entire point of this thread. I'm simply offering my advice on how to change it.


    Not necessarily. One well-written and longer posts isn't necessarily "more effort" than 10 cute one-liners. Though, I'm not saying that those are the only kinds of posts you post. And even then, between this account and my old deleted account (which had many of the same pictures as this one), my post count came in at just under 7000...which isn't hugely different from your ~9600. And honestly, wouldn't you think anyone above a post count of ~5000 has "put in effort" anyway?

    Your advice is much appreciated, but doesn't necessarily apply to everyone (even in this thread). icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    ^ You've been on the site 4 years. I've only been on 1. That's what makes our post count so different. And most of my posts are playing around, but they are done in a friendly way.

    I'm not saying my advice is going to work for anyone. I can only tell you that I used to feel left out, I started making more of an effort, and now I don't feel that way anymore. I can't say that I know that many people on a personal level yet, but that takes time and a willingness to open up.
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    Jul 07, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    +1 on most everything. I posted several hundred times before I found my voice and started getting attention. You have to really interact with others, you can't just throw your opinions out there.

    Clearly it's easier the younger and prettier you are. The more popular youngsters can barely keep up with their messages. Me, not so much. Though I noticed a distinct uptick when I posted a couple of semi-revealing new progress photos. icon_wink.gif

    I do think it's really hard to get trusted with no photos, though. Not impossible, but very difficult. That said, even some verified and somewhat popular guys are complete fakes (you know who you are).




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    DudeInNOVA said
    trl_ saidtbh i feel like this site is clique-y

    i've been here for years and i don't think hardly anyone knows me lol


    It's not really that clique-y. How many people have you taken the time to get to know since you've been here?


    It is a little cliquey to me. But I don't agree that only the hot guys get attention here. There are plenty of guys on here that aren't exactly GQ models and they are very popular. Some people just need to find their voice. For better or worse, most people know about the Colonel even though God knows he's not a looker. But he has a voice, which is what you need to stand out.


    And people shouldn't be concerned about how many posts they have. Everyone here is entitled to be heard. Getnasty just joined and I actually find him a little entertaining. Because he has a voice. However catty and bitchy it may bel....icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 07, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    Finally the summer!!!! ^_^

    I really am looking forward to my 24th b-day I hope to get lots of blessings.
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    Iworkout saidFinally the summer!!!! ^_^

    I really am looking forward to my 24th b-day I hope to get lots of blessings.



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