Dating: Older vs younger

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    Jul 10, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    I had often dated younger than myself, convinced that most of the nicer, educated, grounded men of my age were taken or somehow involved. I kept running into younger men with all sorts of issues and finally decided that dating anyone is a waste of time, of any age.
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    Jul 10, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    It depends, some young guys can be very mature when it comes to a relationship and some older guys can be total whores. You cant just go around with a "greater than" sign in your head, it makes no sense whatsoever. If you are attracted to someone and you can make a connection with this person you shouldnt diss him based on a stupid number, border line superficial.
  • fitartistsf

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    Jul 10, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Parallax said(first time posting here and just set up a profile recently, so excuse the absence of detail in profile with pictures, etc.)

    I tend to identify with older guys alot more than guys in their 20's - I'm an old soul perhaps. All these kids nowadays with their digital books, and wacky haircuts... icon_wink.gif ...

    In all seriousness though, I just tend to like more classically inclined guys alongside the look of a mature "silverfox" or whatever you want to call him.

    Only in the last few years I've come to identify myself as a gay man. One of the reasons I was initially so reluctant to accept it all was that because I wasn't in any way attracted to guys my age, I felt I somehow "wasn't gay"; I felt that being attracted to guys in their 40's, 50's and sometimes even 60's was just some phase. When I eventually garnished enough courage to start meeting older guys I quickly realised it wasn't a trend, and that it is completely possible to go to the movies, visit museums and have great sex with an older guy. Older guys can be great so long as they're comfortable with their age and not trying to be something their not.

    Sayig that, I'm certain there are guys out there who would be my age that target older guys solely for their money, comfort etc. so there certainly is a stigma. For the record, WE'RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT! icon_smile.gif


    This sounds like a nice guy...
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    Jul 10, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    From what I can tell it seems like the younger guys seek older and the older seek younger... win win for everyone haha
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    Jul 10, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Adonis_001 saidFrom what I can tell it seems like the younger guys seek older and the older seek younger... win win for everyone haha


    seems to be true
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 10, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Not too bothered, usually within fifteen years of me, especially on the younger side.

    Having said that, most of the guys I`ve been involved with recently have been older (55-65).
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    Jul 10, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    Older for sure
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    Jul 10, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    A little older from 31-38 ish, I think that younger guys in their 20s up to 30 are still trying to figure out what they want career, dating and all of that! I've been there already, done some of that and an older matured guy will probably mesh well with me.
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    fitartistsf said:
    "Younger... never been comfortable dating or being with guys my age or older... personally, I like how a younger guy looks... if right out of HS or College, and was/is in sports or physically active, they are usually still in great shape. Almost all the guys my age now, are fat, bald, grey hair (even on the body, yeeeeecccchhh), and wrinkled... Younger guys are still good looking, tight, defined, etc.... that being said, the only thing I share with guys my age, or older, is that we grew up together in the same world... we share social, political, musical, theatrical, culinary, and other commonalities of being at, or near the same age."

    I agree, I know it sounds superficial but young guys just look better, I find them much more stimulating both physically and how they make me feel emotionally.
    I also agree with fitartistsf that most men my age and older are really out of shape, they don't put an effort into looking good, working out and staying in shape. I am at the gym week in and week out at least 5x per week. i like the way it makes me feel and I like the physical results. I may be 45 but I am going to try and stay looking as good as possible as long as possible. i refuse to become a middle aged couch potato!

    Now, even with all that effort, I'm still wondering where are all the younger guys in Chicago who are looking for older? I am not finding many.
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    fitartistsf saidYounger... never been comfortable dating or being with guys my age or older... personally, I like how a younger guy looks... if right out of HS or College, and was/is in sports or physically active, they are usually still in great shape. Almost all the guys my age now, are fat, bald, grey hair (even on the body, yeeeeecccchhh), and wrinkled... Younger guys are still good looking, tight, defined, etc.... that being said, the only thing I share with guys my age, or older, is that we grew up together in the same world... we share social, political, musical, theatrical, culinary, and other commonalities of being at, or near the same age. But I do look for a younger guy that is what is described these days as, an "old soul"... someone with interests, or hobbies that are not limited to his age group. I was that way... growing up, even before graduating HS, I had interests in history, music, the arts, politics, social aspects of society, etc., that were beyond my 18 years... so I continue to look for someone younger to settle down with... I know he's out there somewhere, LOL.....


    this is some fucked up shit! And you wonder why you and guys like you continue to be alone.

    Look at the guys on this site who are your age or older. Are they out of shape, fat and bald? It is insulting!

    For fucks sake some of you guys are real assholes! The possibility of finding a guy who is just out of diapers who will settle down with you is next to zero. Oh he wants a daddy and will hook up with you, do you think there will be a long shelf life for such a dysfunctional partnership?

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    Aug 19, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    my age -to 5 years younger and 10 years older.
  • Elekid239

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    Aug 19, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    Not much of a choice, in my case older. But I'd rather be with a 30 to 45 years older over a guy in their teens or twenties because the level of maturity, experience, and knowledge is greater, and they dont try to jump in my pants before I say my name...
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    Older and younger..
    Just be mature..Honest and Respectful!
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    Aug 19, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    Older, more genuine than most my age who usually are the hump 'em and dump 'em type.
  • jayatl56

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    Aug 19, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    fitartistsf saidYounger... never been comfortable dating or being with guys my age or older... personally, I like how a younger guy looks... if right out of HS or College, and was/is in sports or physically active, they are usually still in great shape. Almost all the guys my age now, are fat, bald, grey hair (even on the body, yeeeeecccchhh), and wrinkled... Younger guys are still good looking, tight, defined, etc.... that being said, the only thing I share with guys my age, or older, is that we grew up together in the same world... we share social, political, musical, theatrical, culinary, and other commonalities of being at, or near the same age. But I do look for a younger guy that is what is described these days as, an "old soul"... someone with interests, or hobbies that are not limited to his age group. I was that way... growing up, even before graduating HS, I had interests in history, music, the arts, politics, social aspects of society, etc., that were beyond my 18 years... so I continue to look for someone younger to settle down with... I know he's out there somewhere, LOL.....


    This ^^^ but the downside to this is that you meet a great guy who tells you he's not into partying and appears to be an old soul who is ready to settle down and enjoy a life together. including dinners, travel and theater. Then they realize a few years into the relationship that they missed out on things and tell you that they want to start going out - "with old class mates". They are really going out meeting other guys, telling them that their current relationship isn't working for them. One thing leads to another and they are moving on. You're back looking for another young guy. Circle of life!
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    Aug 19, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    older
  • hng90

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    Aug 19, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    I've tried once. He was 24 years older n attractive to me but it didn't work out. He was caring n very nice but i can't get over the fact that he's 24 years older and that's kinda wrong to me... so...
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    Aug 19, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    I would look for more emotionally maturity. One could be young or old.
  • luv2frot

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    Aug 20, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    Younger but not too much younger. I draw the line at 27 give or take a little. Developmentally and emotionally, younger than that and I just can't find that much in common.

    Age isn't necessarily a predictor of emotional stability but it's a good place to start.
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    Aug 20, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    Older
  • Beeftastic

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    Aug 20, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    I have always gone for guys my age or younger. I do date guys much younger than me too, I don't have much of a bias against age differences in that area. I've met younger guys that have their shit together more than some of my contemporaries. I really like the energy and enthusiasm that younger guys have, I always feel re-energized and connected with culture after spending time with some guys.

    Lately I have been into guys that are between 35 and 42. I've dated a few, and really like the experience. But it seems that I don't play much to that demographic because I don't meet many hotties in that age range that are into me.
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    Aug 20, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    OLDER! FOR SURE, so ummm...yeah, hey guys;D
  • Nakedman1969

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    Aug 20, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    My ages are 18-30 unless the guys my age good looking. Yes I maybe ugly and have an average body but why can't I go after the good looking 18-30 guys!!!! I get tired of getting turned away because of my looks.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Aug 20, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    i prefer guys closer to my age. i will never go out looking to date anyone younger than 28 years old. i will also never go out looking to date anyone older 50 to maybe 55. i am 38 years old so definitely would not consider even consider even having sex with anyone who is not older than 25 (sex only)
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    Aug 20, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    I try to be open minded, but it has always worked out to be older for me