Jul 13, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
They do study Death of a Salesman still, and you're right I don't want anger to take over my life or make me bitter (and I DEFINITELY dont want to die in an "accidental" car crash). But anger is a realistic response when someone you love and rely on so much reveals themselves to be spectacularly different from what you thought. It won't last forever but the OP should be prepared for the possibility of this reaction from his family. Whatever you do OP, be prepared for it to come to light. People rarely take these things to the grave and even if they do sometimes it doesnt stay there, especially if you act on these feelings. I'm not saying stay in the closet, thats a decision for you to make based on your own situation but I think people deserve to be happy and live an honest life, all of you. In the long run I think honesty is almost always the right choice, often much harder but in everyones best interest. In my case, I don't blame my dad for being gay, its the way hes conducted himself through this process that makes him feel like a different guy. Having younger children makes the decision much more complicated, the best advice I can give is whatever you do behave with integrity. Good luck.