Jul 15, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
I can relate to the advice not to be creepy and you can meet people you would never meet by being forward, especially if there's an age difference. Example - a guy in my gym mid 20s, extremely good-looking and ripped. I noticed his lifting technique - excellent form and very smooth. Forced myself to not stare. Couple of days later he was at the gym same time, and he happened to be a couple of benches away from me. Between sets he called to me said he was thinking of starting to log his workouts the way I do - I carry a small notebook. Anyway, we started talking. Very friendly, east to talk to. Over a period of a few weeks we ended up working out together. It was extremely motivating for me, and I had some knowledge he appreciated. We both have dogs. He suggested we hang out so our dogs could play. A while after that he left the area because he was accepted to an elite military training program. Point is - if I was actively looking, or cruising, I'm sure it would have been a turn-off. It turned out to be a good experience.
Pretty much this. One of my friends you guys would probably drool over- not going to lie. We met at the gym, sharing the shoulder/deadlift machine and basically long story short, we've had many a party together and I even got a second job selling my travel location spring break packages to college students. If I had the balls to cruise him (which I still don't) then I would have squandered away something cooler trying to hook up with a completely straight guy.
So this definitely requires a "you cruise you lose".