gay guy in the gym

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    Jul 15, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    socalfitness said
    I can relate to the advice not to be creepy and you can meet people you would never meet by being forward, especially if there's an age difference. Example - a guy in my gym mid 20s, extremely good-looking and ripped. I noticed his lifting technique - excellent form and very smooth. Forced myself to not stare. Couple of days later he was at the gym same time, and he happened to be a couple of benches away from me. Between sets he called to me said he was thinking of starting to log his workouts the way I do - I carry a small notebook. Anyway, we started talking. Very friendly, east to talk to. Over a period of a few weeks we ended up working out together. It was extremely motivating for me, and I had some knowledge he appreciated. We both have dogs. He suggested we hang out so our dogs could play. A while after that he left the area because he was accepted to an elite military training program. Point is - if I was actively looking, or cruising, I'm sure it would have been a turn-off. It turned out to be a good experience.


    Pretty much this. One of my friends you guys would probably drool over- not going to lie. We met at the gym, sharing the shoulder/deadlift machine and basically long story short, we've had many a party together and I even got a second job selling my travel location spring break packages to college students. If I had the balls to cruise him (which I still don't) then I would have squandered away something cooler trying to hook up with a completely straight guy.

    So this definitely requires a "you cruise you lose".
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    Jul 15, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    Well first off, let me say, "welcome to RJ"... I think we long term members should always take the initiative to say that .. hope you will find the site helpful!

    Like most gyms, we have gay guys at the YMCA and I've had some tell me via Facebook or some other social means, "I know who you are"... I'm friendly, but focused and sometimes, honestly, don't pay that much attention to who might be noticing me or not. I think to talk to this guy you are interested in, isn't that much of a sweat:

    One, if he works on specific equipment on a regular basis, go over and work with one of the machines he uses, but of course, "seem to have some problems with the adjustments. If he is nearby, ask him if he can help you and explain that you haven't used this equipment much and you've noticed him using it. Ask him a few questions about the best way to use it and make sure to shake his hand and give him your name. Good start.

    Two, if you see him out somewhere, othere than the gym, step up to the plate and say hello... I've done this several times with guys (and women) and am always very friendly. I've seen several of the gym guys in the grocery store... I say hello, saw one at another YMCA branch here in Wichita... immediately commented to him. (and now we wave and say hello all the time). I'm not interested in these guys, other than to be friendly. Just do the same!
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    Jul 15, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    Some of you are interpreting the #YCYL message too far; all Firebrand is saying is: You can be friendly, just keep in mind many peeps are there to workout, not to be hit on; also, to NOT be a creeper by staring/frequently glancing at them or constantly trying to hit someone up with personal conversations.

    Just use your intuition and social tact.
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    Jul 15, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    Studinprogress saidSome of you are interpreting the #YCYL message too far; all Firebrand is saying is: You can be social, just keep in mind many peeps are there to workout, not to be hit on; also, to NOT be a creeper by staring/frequently glancing at them or constantly trying to hit someone up with personal conversations.

    Just use your intuition and social tact.


    I would agree, if you talk to the guy there in the gym, be brief, make it about the equipment or exercise at hand, introduce yourself and move on (that that moment).
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    Jul 15, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 said
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    Excuse me. What's wrong with living near Walton's Mountain?


    If Ike Godsey is your idea of eye candy, nothing at all.

    I've never watched The Waltons. I just live near them.
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    Jul 15, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    Snoop_Dawg_Cranky said
    Studinprogress saidSome of you are interpreting the #YCYL message too far; all Firebrand is saying is: You can be friendly, just keep in mind many peeps are there to workout, not to be hit on; also, to NOT be a creeper by staring/frequently glancing at them or constantly trying to hit someone up with personal conversations.

    No, that's not what he's saying.
    He's saying "if I can get other people to acknowledge this stupid slogan I thought up, perhaps my miserable, insignificant life will acquire a tiny shade of meaning,"

    It won't, you know, but that's the idea.


    Lmao hey but it rhymes haha
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    Jul 15, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    Snoop_Dawg_Cranky said
    Studinprogress saidSome of you are interpreting the #YCYL message too far; all Firebrand is saying is: You can be friendly, just keep in mind many peeps are there to workout, not to be hit on; also, to NOT be a creeper by staring/frequently glancing at them or constantly trying to hit someone up with personal conversations.

    No, that's not what he's saying.
    He's saying "if I can get other people to acknowledge this stupid slogan I thought up, perhaps my miserable, insignificant life will acquire a tiny shade of meaning,"

    It won't, you know, but that's the idea.


    Let's not give Firebrand too much credit. "You cruise, you lose" is not Firebrand's creation. It's a meme that is frequently used in gay forums, and has been for ages.

    RealJock's Encycolpedia Dramatica page doesn't even claim it came from Firebrand or RJ. It merely states that certain RJ members use the phrase/meme ad nauseam. I LOL'd when I read Firebrand's reference:

    https://encyclopediadramatica.se/index.php?title=RealJock

    "You Cruise, You Lose

    YouCruiseYouLose.jpg, RJ's border-line (yet still wholly lame) meme, is frequently spammed by FrostedFlakes (also known as Mission: MySpace), highlighting the hazards of getting laid out of bitterness since he is forever alone. The reason it is a border-line meme is due to the fact that the only person who actually uses the meme is FrostedFlakes, but since this constitutes to over 9000 of his posts and 90% of the total amount of posts on RJ.

    The image is posted in threads regarding gym cruising, which, to rabid Republican Firebrand, is an unforgivable sin. Most people ignore the image and continue their daily herp(es) transmission in the gym sauna after their workouts."
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    Jul 15, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    credo said
    Grow up, boy.

    Why would you make such a hateful, ignorant comment? You wouldn't know tact if it punched you in the face.

    A mind that operates like yours tends to lead its body down the wrong path; if you don't already have an STD, you're well on your way to contracting one.


    LOL MAD LIBERAL IS MADDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

    Why are liberals so spiteful when people say things that go against their legitimately fucked worldview?
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    Jul 15, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    credo said "You cruise, you lose" is not Firebrand's creation. It's a meme that is frequently used in gay forums, and has been for ages.


    I thought of it though

    #YCYL
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    Jul 15, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    In the gym, just let him workout. If you see him in a bar or out in the parking lot, different story.
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    Jul 15, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Firebrand saidI death-glare at them to try to get them to stop


    LOL! Is that even scarier than the "scary devil videos"? icon_lol.gif


    We need to make "scary devil videos" a meme icon_twisted.gif (not that the videos themselves aren't already)
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    Firebrand said
    credo said
    Grow up, boy.

    Why would you make such a hateful, ignorant comment? You wouldn't know tact if it punched you in the face.

    A mind that operates like yours tends to lead its body down the wrong path; if you don't already have an STD, you're well on your way to contracting one.


    LOL MAD LIBERAL IS MADDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

    Why are liberals so spiteful when people say things that go against their legitimately fucked worldview?



    Funny that you "brand" others as liberals when you have in other posts admitted to picking up guys at the bar and you and your boyfriend having an open relationship. Speaking of STDs. Condoms don't protect against all STDs such a genital warts and such.

    They gym is for working out, but don't act all conservative because your not. Open relationships is a very liberal value.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    scholargrowingmuscle said
    Funny that you "brand" others as liberals when you have in other posts admitted to picking up guys at the bar and you and your boyfriend having an open relationship. Speaking of STDs. Condoms don't protect against all STDs such a genital warts and such.

    They gym is for working out, but don't act all conservative because your not. Open relationships is a very liberal value.


    Being a liberal is not just a set of beliefs. It is a mentality.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    Firebrand saidYou Cruise, You Lose = if you go to the gym for any purpose other than working out or seek to engage in suspect activity at the gym such as hitting on, groping, or having sex with others, your gym membership will be revoked and/or the homophobic straight dude you hit on will beat the piss out of you.


    Somebody who gets it.

    If you wanta' tell someone you're gay, fucking tell them. It's that easy. "I'm gay, but, I won't hold it against you if you're straight."
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
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    scholargrowingmuscle said
    Funny that you "brand" others as liberals when you have in other posts admitted to picking up guys at the bar and you and your boyfriend having an open relationship. Speaking of STDs. Condoms don't protect against all STDs such a genital warts and such.

    They gym is for working out, but don't act all conservative because your not. Open relationships is a very liberal value.


    Being a liberal is not just a set of beliefs. It is a mentality.


    Yes, and I am asserting that you possess that mentality when it is convenient for you. When it isn't convenient you disown it.

    The behaviors portray to true values system, not what you preach.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    scholargrowingmuscle said
    The behaviors portray to true values system


    Please use proper grammar. I honestly don't understand what you are trying to say here.

    Also, #YCYL. The gym is NOT a bathhouse!
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
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    Excuse me. What's wrong with living near Walton's Mountain?


    If Ike Godsey is your idea of eye candy, nothing at all.

    I've never watched The Waltons. I just live near them.


    My mother was a big fan, so we had to watch them every week.

    I would certainly love to live near the Blue Ridge Mountains or anywhere in the Appalachians though. Lucky you.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    A simple typo. If that threw you off, then your education has failed you. Truly educated individuals can compensate for something so simple to garner meaning.


    By the way, that is an effort to call attention to something other than the true topic at hand.

    You love to judge others, so you can feel superior.

    You have too much going for you to come across that way. So why do you?



    Also, I'll have to trust you on the bath house.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    scholargrowingmuscle saidA simple typo. If that threw you off, then your education has failed you. Truly educated individuals can compensate for something so simple to garner meaning.


    By the way, that is an effort to call attention to something other than the true topic at hand.

    You love to judge others, so you can feel superior.

    You have too much going for you to come across that way. So why do you?



    Also, I'll have to trust you on the bath house.


    I judge others when they are sleazy and grosssssssssssss

    Like seriously people need to be more judgmental and tell others to stop being sleazy and gross. I don't want to step in or sit on someone's cum in a sauna. A gym sauna is not an appropriate place for cum to be sprayed.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    I follow firebrand's posts to read ycyl.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Hell! If he looks good, give him a compliment. Straight/gay, all like to hear compliments. Gyms are for working out, not a place to cruise of play mind games.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:37 PM GMT
    Gmack saidI follow firebrand's posts to read ycyl.


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    Jul 15, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    I wasn't arguing that. It is very gross. However, you don't even ask questions before judging.

    Meeting a new person at the gym is one thing. Getting to know them as a person and something developing over time is one thing. Sex in the gym is gross and creepy. Staring with your mouth drooling is gross.

    I agree fully. You assuming that everyone is out to have sex in the gym and attacking without inquiry is just plain bullying others.

    If that occurs so much at your gym, it is time to change gyms. It is coloring your entire gym experience. I would be very uncomfortable having to deal with it if it is a prevalent as you say it is there.

    It almost seems sometimes that you like to bully others. I hope that is not the case and I have inferred inaccurately.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    scholargrowingmuscle said
    It almost seems sometimes that you like to bully others. I hope that is not the case and I have inferred inaccurately.


    Only butthurt people, creepers, and gross foreveralones
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    Firebrand said
    scholargrowingmuscle said
    It almost seems sometimes that you like to bully others. I hope that is not the case and I have inferred inaccurately.


    Only butthurt people, creepers, and gross foreveralones


    So what category does the OP fall under?