Using Condoms, he insisted not to.. why?

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    Jul 14, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    This very attractive guy on Grindr replied to my message sometime around 3 AM and woke me up. He said he is tipsy and needs a cuddle buddy but doesn't want to have sex..

    Anyways, he came over to my place and we cuddled and kissed and he fell asleep for a couple of hours, then he woke up again and we continued.. and he asked me to tease him, then asked for the head inside him, I wanted to use a condom but he insisted he doesn't need a condom and then he said he wants to feel me inside him.. and again not using a condom and he almost begged and .. I did it (I know), and he came after a few seconds.. I pulled out and came later (so I was inside him for just a few seconds)

    He looked totally healthy, hot, normal and clean.. I have two questions for y'all:

    1- Should I be worried? Have you ever seen a btm guy insisting on bareback?

    2- I don't wanna be too cynical about this.. but should I go and get tested immediately

    Honestly, for some reason I don't feel bad about this at all, it feels like somehow I am sure he was clean.. Just saying

    What do you think of this situation generally?
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    Jul 14, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    Safe sex means assuming every new guy is HIV poz. That's not only because guys lie about their status, but also because many honestly don't know they're poz, and wrongly assume they're negative. "Looks" tell you nothing about HIV status.

    Therefore, let's assume this guy was poz. Your risk as a brief top is fairly low. But you should be tested anyway, because every sexually active gay man should be regularly tested, preferably at 6-month intervals.

    The most commonly availabe tests won't detect HIV until 3 months after infection, when you do your first test. Then you test again at 6 months after contact, in case the HIV antigens were slow to develop in your body, or the first test gave a false negative, which can happen. And then you continue to test every 6 months thereafter, for the rest of your active gay sex life.

    I wish you the best. And please don't have unprotected anal sex again, OK?
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    Jul 14, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    You're taking a risk. What is at stake? Your life, and the lives of those with whom you get intimate.
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    Jul 14, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    Art.. : Thanks. OK. I am determined not to let this happen again.

    PS: This was my first time doing this and it's not gonna happen again, so I "am not doing" anything, I "did" a mistake.
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    Jul 14, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    Don't trust anyone who doesn't want you to use a condom.