Like most guys here have stated...there is no "normal" A lot of the posters here are very young ( by my standards .I'm 55 lol). I only began to come out about 3 years ago.
I have gone thru the usual flurry of hookups that quite often accompanies a lifetime of denial and repression. Eventually that finally wears thin, and the thought that "I'm ready now for something different" resonates more deeply. Also, I live in a very small city distant enough from major centres to make developing a relationship more difficult.
However, through different avenues (including dating sites, by the way) I have met quite a number of guys who are acquaintances, friends, and good friends. It has taken some time, but it has been worth it. A network of support (of varying kinds) has really helped me. I plan to move to a major city this year at last. I will simply continue to follow my current strategy. It will be easier as I will be closer to other guys, and the opportunities for meeting them in mutually enjoyable group activities. I just hope to continue developing and deepening my friendship network. Many people describe their partner as their "best friend". At some point, you (and I) will find that person among our friends who will be that special guy. And it may happen in the most unexpected way.
Like another poster said: be good to yourself, and become Mr Right for yourself, don't try to find Mr Right. You will then be able to bring to a relationship the qualities, the pillars of strength that enable it to endure and flourish....in all the ways you dream of. Hugs