Bottoming and the condom broke (I think)

  • jayatl56

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    Jul 25, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    hi everyone. I'm new here and saw that there was this thread do here goes.

    A couple of weeks ago a guy I've seen a few times and we were having sex. He put on a condom I gave him (very average in size) and lubed up. He came but continued thrusting until I came. He pulled out and I saw the condom with cum in the receptacle but not a lot. I commented that it wasn't a lot and he smiled said he masturbates too much. Anyway, I got up to wash off and wiped myself with my t shirt and went to the shower. I took the showerhead off and washed my crack and saw what looked like a string of cum in the water. I picked it up and it certainly had the consistency of cum and of course I panicked. He swears he's negative and was pissed that I panicked and reacted by questioning him. He said that he told me once before he was negative and why would be lie about it.

    The next day I took the clothes from the hamper to wash and remembered that t shirt was there. It was crispy and smelled of cum where I wiped myself. (Maybe it was mine; I don't remember wiping my belly but maybe I did)

    I talked to a doctor friend who said that if he said he negative he more than likely is and that cleaning myself the way I did and not having any blood etc put me into an extremely low risk position.

    I'm only curious to know what you guys think of all of this.

    Thanks for your time.
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    Jul 25, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    55 years young.. but still i say it was one time.. have fun.

    But i do get it... hiv/aids prevention is important, but it was a unpreventable mistake so if your that worried... get a check up. If not, then don't.

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    Jul 26, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    wow thats a shame.

    first of all, you should only rely on medical advice from doctors - not random strangers in an online forum.

    secondly, for medical emergencies, you need to act quickly. a post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is available for high risk situations where exposure to HIV is either confirmed or highly possible. but this PEP needs to be administered within 72hrs of the exposure.

    if you're really worried, the only thing you can do now is to go for an HIV test. pending the result, you should go back for an additional follow-up test 3 months from the date of exposure. this covers the window period that it could take for your body to develop antibodies in response to the exposure to HIV.

    i guess i wonder why you don't trust the guy you slept with, especially since he told you he's negative? did you check the condom to see if it was broken? other than the cum you found in the shower, did you shit out any other cum into the toilet?

    its times like this that every question mark in our sexual past becomes a possibility. and at this point, we really understand the fear of mortality, and the value of a healthy life.

    anyways, don't dwell on the past. there's nothing you can do about the past now. but you can plan for the future. get tested, find out the result. re-test in 2-3 months to confirm results. you might not be able to do anything about the past, but you can actively manage what happens to you in the future.
  • jayatl56

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    Jul 26, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    Thanks for the notes, guys. I saw the condom and it didn't look torn at all and like I said the receptical had cum in it. So I have no idea what that was that came out of my butt. Maybe it came over the top as he continued thrusting and it was on the outside of my butt? I'll get tested in a few weeks and go from there but so far the people I've discussed this with - one is a doctor and the other heads a HIV group - said the same thing - it appears to be a low risk event.