First of all, thank you everyone for your responses! I've enjoyed reading them.
For the people who just think I'm a narcissist, maybe I should make a few things clear.
I grew up a chubby, pimply, nerdy queer kid who was bullied not just for being gay, but my appearance. If you were to talk with most of my friends, they would tell you that I'm the first one to talk down my looks, or not even admit to having them. Lately, I'm trying to give credit where credit is due. I work hard on my body and take care of myself, and that has resulted in me becoming more physically attractive. Do I believe I'm the be all end all of beauty, ABSOLUTELY NOT! In fact even writing down that I was attractive in this post, made me uncomfortable, because I never want to become that guy who thinks he's God's gift to gay men.
I think my favorite post was the Halo analogy with the rocket launcher.
FuriousGeorge saidI'm going to draw out an analogy you may find wise, absurd, amusing, or possibly all of the above.
I'm a big Halo fanboy (the first-person shooter, for you geezers). It has the usual armory: pistols, assault rifles, grenades. Every once in a while, a rocket launcher pops up. You would think that possessing the rocket launcher would be an awesome thing, but usually the guy who grabs the rocket launcher spends all of his time obsessing: "Should I use it now? Is this a big enough target? I don't want to waste rockets!" Ya know what usually happens to that guy? He accidentally walks off a cliff without ever firing a single rocket. Meanwhile, the rest of us were having an awesome time with our simpler weapons, blowing fuckers away with our plentiful bullets.
THAT was the point I was trying to make. In my experience, looks seem to work against a really good looking person. Either all they look for in a partner is looks, or all people see in them is a conquest, or good fuck.
When I bring this up to people, they ask me why I don't just date someone I don't find attractive. I also have a problem with that. I want to date someone I find attractive, but I don't want that to be the only thing that's there. Is it wrong to hope for someone I find attractive, as well as someone who isn't just about looks?
That's what I'm talking about when I say I don't want to settle.