JackKash saidi use the hotlist as a reference tool for men i like and want to ogle after later... and prehaps connect with. I never expect them to do anything with that info. It's nice to know they appreciate it.. but it is just rude to expect them to reply. It's actually a bit arrogant. It's also very passive aggressive. Which indicates other issues. Guys who get upset when they don't get the response they want are often insecure and clingy in their relationships.
Rude expecting them to reply? All I want is a "thx". It takes 3 secs or less. Srly.
It's like saying thank you when someone holds the door for you, do you acknowledge that? Or do you just walk on by like they're supposed to do that in the first place, without even acknowledging their prescience? Huh?
I think americans are really spoiled when it comes to the idea of "customer service" which in ways extends to our daily lives. First of all.. it's psychologically unhealthy to expect anything from anyone. It doesn't jive with reality. Secondly, an act of kindness is something given.. there are no laws that say you must be kind.. rather kindness does afford you possibilities with other people you ordinarily would not have. Being kind is subjective. And it's in your sole discretion. Meaning You make up what is kind and is just. And an incentive to be kind would be that people will treat you differently.
No one has to smile back to you. But it's nice when they do.
No one has to say thank you. Nice when they do.
Manners are not mandatory.
If i open the door for someone.. i am doing such because in it is in my nature. I do it always. It's knee jerk. But never will i confront or get pissed that someone didn't say thank you to me. It almost sounds disingenuous. As if I am only doing something nice to be noticed. Or be patted on the back. If that is your goal in doing anything "good" then don't do it because your efforts are lost and vain.
This leads back to the compliment giver. A compliment is usually genuine..without expectation of gain.. when it is not... it is most likely false or made to gain something. If you hit up a guy on your hotlist and expect him to say thank you without thinking of his time or maybe he does not like you (which is tough but it is his right) then for me you are being somewhat passive aggressive and a tad bit manipulative. And i would not trust you at all to begin with. You could have sent a message to the guy and said you were hot. when he did not respond you could have sent a message to him and asked if he liked you.. but instead yo post his profile on a thread.All of this behavior is unattractive. and you might want to rethink it. That's all.