Rudeness!!! Not thanking people after they write nice thing about your pic.

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    Aug 03, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    Hapuna said
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    JackKash saidi use the hotlist as a reference tool for men i like and want to ogle after later... and prehaps connect with. I never expect them to do anything with that info. It's nice to know they appreciate it.. but it is just rude to expect them to reply. It's actually a bit arrogant. It's also very passive aggressive. Which indicates other issues. Guys who get upset when they don't get the response they want are often insecure and clingy in their relationships.


    Rude expecting them to reply? All I want is a "thx". It takes 3 secs or less. Srly.

    It's like saying thank you when someone holds the door for you, do you acknowledge that? Or do you just walk on by like they're supposed to do that in the first place, without even acknowledging their prescience? Huh?


    I think americans are really spoiled when it comes to the idea of "customer service" which in ways extends to our daily lives. First of all.. it's psychologically unhealthy to expect anything from anyone. It doesn't jive with reality. Secondly, an act of kindness is something given.. there are no laws that say you must be kind.. rather kindness does afford you possibilities with other people you ordinarily would not have. Being kind is subjective. And it's in your sole discretion. Meaning You make up what is kind and is just. And an incentive to be kind would be that people will treat you differently.

    No one has to smile back to you. But it's nice when they do.

    No one has to say thank you. Nice when they do.

    Manners are not mandatory.


    If i open the door for someone.. i am doing such because in it is in my nature. I do it always. It's knee jerk. But never will i confront or get pissed that someone didn't say thank you to me. It almost sounds disingenuous. As if I am only doing something nice to be noticed. Or be patted on the back. If that is your goal in doing anything "good" then don't do it because your efforts are lost and vain.

    This leads back to the compliment giver. A compliment is usually genuine..without expectation of gain.. when it is not... it is most likely false or made to gain something. If you hit up a guy on your hotlist and expect him to say thank you without thinking of his time or maybe he does not like you (which is tough but it is his right) then for me you are being somewhat passive aggressive and a tad bit manipulative. And i would not trust you at all to begin with. You could have sent a message to the guy and said you were hot. when he did not respond you could have sent a message to him and asked if he liked you.. but instead yo post his profile on a thread.All of this behavior is unattractive. and you might want to rethink it. That's all.


    Just like you said manners are not mandatory so I can do whatever I please and that includes posting their profiles on here.

    This is exactly what is wrong with the world today. People have no sense of gratitude whatsoever. I hate people with sense of entitlement


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    Aug 03, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    JackKash said
    Hapuna said
    JackKash said
    Hapuna said
    JackKash saidi use the hotlist as a reference tool for men i like and want to ogle after later... and prehaps connect with. I never expect them to do anything with that info. It's nice to know they appreciate it.. but it is just rude to expect them to reply. It's actually a bit arrogant. It's also very passive aggressive. Which indicates other issues. Guys who get upset when they don't get the response they want are often insecure and clingy in their relationships.


    Rude expecting them to reply? All I want is a "thx". It takes 3 secs or less. Srly.

    It's like saying thank you when someone holds the door for you, do you acknowledge that? Or do you just walk on by like they're supposed to do that in the first place, without even acknowledging their prescience? Huh?


    I think americans are really spoiled when it comes to the idea of "customer service" which in ways extends to our daily lives. First of all.. it's psychologically unhealthy to expect anything from anyone. It doesn't jive with reality. Secondly, an act of kindness is something given.. there are no laws that say you must be kind.. rather kindness does afford you possibilities with other people you ordinarily would not have. Being kind is subjective. And it's in your sole discretion. Meaning You make up what is kind and is just. And an incentive to be kind would be that people will treat you differently.

    No one has to smile back to you. But it's nice when they do.

    No one has to say thank you. Nice when they do.

    Manners are not mandatory.


    If i open the door for someone.. i am doing such because in it is in my nature. I do it always. It's knee jerk. But never will i confront or get pissed that someone didn't say thank you to me. It almost sounds disingenuous. As if I am only doing something nice to be noticed. Or be patted on the back. If that is your goal in doing anything "good" then don't do it because your efforts are lost and vain.

    This leads back to the compliment giver. A compliment is usually genuine..without expectation of gain.. when it is not... it is most likely false or made to gain something. If you hit up a guy on your hotlist and expect him to say thank you without thinking of his time or maybe he does not like you (which is tough but it is his right) then for me you are being somewhat passive aggressive and a tad bit manipulative. And i would not trust you at all to begin with. You could have sent a message to the guy and said you were hot. when he did not respond you could have sent a message to him and asked if he liked you.. but instead yo post his profile on a thread.All of this behavior is unattractive. and you might want to rethink it. That's all.


    Just like you said manners are not mandatory so I can do whatever I please and that includes posting their profiles on here.

    This is exactly what is wrong with the world today. People have no sense of gratitude whatsoever. I hate people with sense of entitlement


    Pfffttt



    and you tried so hard.icon_twisted.gif


    LMFAO at least I'm not TRYING TO BE HARD ya know??

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    Aug 03, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    Certain to be coming soon:

    "OMFG! I hotlisted this guy, gave him some pic comments, he said, 'thx.' So then I asked him 'how is your day going?' and he said NOTHING! I mean, the NERVE of some people! I was simply curious about his day!" icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    dayumm saidCertain to be coming soon:

    "OMFG! I hotlisted this guy, gave him some pic comments, he said, 'thx.' So then I asked him 'how is your day going?' and he said NOTHING! I mean, the NERVE of some people! I was simply curious about his day!" icon_lol.gif


    That is not true.

    I don't follow up after I hear "thx"
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
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    dayumm saidCertain to be coming soon:

    "OMFG! I hotlisted this guy, gave him some pic comments, he said, 'thx.' So then I asked him 'how is your day going?' and he said NOTHING! I mean, the NERVE of some people! I was simply curious about his day!" icon_lol.gif


    That is not true.

    I don't follow up after I hear "thx"


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    Aug 03, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    GordonLee90232 saidI always write a thank you even if they send something that is not so nice because at least it is the nice thing to do.


    You are right I made a nice comment on your pictures and you thanked me right away that was so kind of you I can't imagine you would be so nice and polite and prompt if someone said something that wasn't nearly so nice lol.
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:55 PM GMT
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    Hapuna said
    dayumm saidCertain to be coming soon:

    "OMFG! I hotlisted this guy, gave him some pic comments, he said, 'thx.' So then I asked him 'how is your day going?' and he said NOTHING! I mean, the NERVE of some people! I was simply curious about his day!" icon_lol.gif


    That is not true.

    I don't follow up after I hear "thx"

    Jesus. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Alrighty....so the rule is "if E-who had the fake pics and still pretends he lives in Hawaii comments on your pic, you MUST say "thanks" back within 30 minutes or you're an evil bastard. And anyone who actually responds to a "thanks" by starting up a convo, expecting them to respond in obligation, then running and complaining to RJ forums if they don't, is an idiot.

    Wow, am I ever glad we got all THAT sorted. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Aug 03, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    dayumm said
    yourname2000 said
    Hapuna said
    dayumm saidCertain to be coming soon:

    "OMFG! I hotlisted this guy, gave him some pic comments, he said, 'thx.' So then I asked him 'how is your day going?' and he said NOTHING! I mean, the NERVE of some people! I was simply curious about his day!" icon_lol.gif


    That is not true.

    I don't follow up after I hear "thx"

    Jesus. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Alrighty....so the rule is "if Virg (that's actually ma real name)-who had the fake new artistic pics and still pretends he lives in Hawaii comments on your pic, you MUST say "thanks" back within 30 minutes or you're an evil bastard. And anyone who actually responds to a "thanks" by starting up a convo, expecting them to respond in obligation, then running and complaining to RJ forums if they don't, is an idiot.

    Wow, am I ever glad we got all THAT sorted. icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Yes! Yes! Yes! I'm glad we got that sorted out. Please follow this rule in future
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    Hapuna saidI hot listed you and took the time to write you a kickass photo comment and I know you viewed my profile but no thank you no reply no nothing. That's it I am taking you off my hotlist and deleting all the comments.




    REALLY ?
    Is this the most important thing in your life ?

    Do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail that you get in your email ?
    How about all the unsolicited phone messages ?

    How about all the unsolicited mail that the Post Office delivers to you ?
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
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    Hapuna saidI hot listed you and took the time to write you a kickass photo comment and I know you viewed my profile but no thank you no reply no nothing. That's it I am taking you off my hotlist and deleting all the comments.




    REALLY ?
    Is this the most important thing in your life ?

    Do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail that you get in your email ?
    How about all the unsolicited phone messages ?

    How about all the unsolicited mail that the Post Office delivers to you ?


    It is the highlight of the day for a person that lonely. They consititute their only penpals. Hence the overwhelming need for validation for unsolicited comments from behind a mask.

    Not creepy at all.
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
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    Hapuna saidI hot listed you and took the time to write you a kickass photo comment and I know you viewed my profile but no thank you no reply no nothing. That's it I am taking you off my hotlist and deleting all the comments.




    REALLY ?
    Is this the most important thing in your life ?

    Do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail that you get in your email ?
    How about all the unsolicited phone messages ?

    How about all the unsolicited mail that the Post Office delivers to you ?


    Thanks Webster.. a voice of reason.
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
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    Hapuna saidI hot listed you and took the time to write you a kickass photo comment and I know you viewed my profile but no thank you no reply no nothing. That's it I am taking you off my hotlist and deleting all the comments.




    REALLY ?
    Is this the most important thing in your life ?

    Do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail that you get in your email ?
    How about all the unsolicited phone messages ?

    How about all the unsolicited mail that the Post Office delivers to you ?


    Well, then get rid of the hotlist function altogether!!! We don't need it!!!!
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
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    Hapuna said
    Webster666 said
    Hapuna saidI hot listed you and took the time to write you a kickass photo comment and I know you viewed my profile but no thank you no reply no nothing. That's it I am taking you off my hotlist and deleting all the comments.




    REALLY ?
    Is this the most important thing in your life ?

    Do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail that you get in your email ?
    How about all the unsolicited phone messages ?

    How about all the unsolicited mail that the Post Office delivers to you ?


    Well, then get rid of the hotlist function altogether!!! We don't need it!!!!

    Why? The world doesn't bend to faceless trolls. Just because you don't like the feature, doesn't mean you get to take the ball and go home.

    "Grow the fuck up already" seems to be the universal feedback. You can shit-back all ya want but you're missing an important point: this bullshit immaturity just makes you dull on RJ, but in real life it makes you unhirable, undateable, and unfriendable. People will tell you you're a stupid douche on here. But in real life people will just compartmentalize you out of their lives.

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    Aug 04, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    OK, I already told JackCash that if I was available I'd be all over that with butter and sauce. tha hell do you need from me? I ain't spreading these muslos cuz they all locked up.
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    Sep 02, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    We run into these problems when we expect something in return !..

    If you do something 'nice' for someone..and are upset that they didn't do something 'nice' for you..What you did in the fist place was not truly..'nice'

    Welcome to "The Land Of Rejection" folks..! icon_biggrin.gif