Honestly, what do you think of someone who is skinny/out of shape at a gym and weight lifting.

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    I don't judge other people that are there trying to better themselves...unless they don't put their shit away. If I trip over your 20lb dumbbells because you left them strewn across the floor, then I will probably start judging ;)
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    Flamesoul saidYeah, that's a question I wasn't brave enough to ask up here. I was/still am always woried about what people think about me when I go to the gym, since I'm fat and stuff...

    But it seems that other people mostly either don't care and don't think about it,

    or they think that it's a good thing that I'm trying to become healthier.

    I'd imagine it's the same for everyone ?


    I was really paranoid about what other people thought when I first started going to the gym. Now, I don't care. Just focus on what you're doing, be courteous, and kick some ass.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    Starting Strength is a great book! Good for you that you are doing some research. I spent ages in gyms without knowing jack shit (and not getting any results). Bunch of videos here: http://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Deadlift_Videos

    People I notice in the gym:
    1) guys who are not in great shape but keep coming to the gym (Yeah!)
    2) guys who are in great shape or just plain gorgeous (Yeah!)
    3) guys who are in great shape or just plain gorgeous but work out with awful ROM or use the Smith machine (I judge but would probably still do them)
    4) people I know from other places (Hiya!)
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    I think great for them getting started! Don't ever worry too much about the other people around you at the gym and what they think. Having started my workouts being grossly overweight I got alot of stares, but who cares? Your there to better yourself not to win a who looks like they belong most contest, so just workout hard and focus on your own improvement.

    Good luck and don't be afraid to ask questions etc Josh, lots of people at the gym, here, etc are willing and friendly about sharing advice.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    isrred saidI don't judge other people that are there trying to better themselves...unless they don't put their shit away. If I trip over your 20lb dumbbells because you left them strewn across the floor, then I will probably start judging ;)


    Oh yeah, I fucking judge all those fuckers.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    Josh,

    Proud of you. icon_biggrin.gif

    Guys who know about fitness and more big muscle guys than you realize know what it takes, and many were super fat or really small and thin to start. Ask questions. I understand you are shy, just don't worry. Look like you want to know. Guys will be glad help you right up to the most muscular, sometimes if you don't ask. Just make sure they know what they are saying, which is easier to figure out as you get more advice from lots of people on working out. You will find some guys don't care or don't talk, and others like to work with you. It helps you to get to know people, too, at least as acquaintances at the gym.

    Unfortunately, some guys at the gym are definitely conceited, rude, or have on and off mood swings. Others have distorted self concepts because they are muscular, or they think they are! This is just a group of people to ignore. They are powerless because most people are usually not like this. Fit or muscle gods, if you get to know them, they may tell you about what they need to work on and see it as a work in progress just like you. It's your gym as much as theirs, and you are at the gym for the same reason. Most people understand this.

    Guys at the gyms range from thinner than you to obese of all ages, in shape and out of shape. You look in shape and want to gain muscle. You are just right to go the gym and lift weight aside of any other guy not matter how muscular he is. You are doing the same thing.

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    I think good for them. I'm still pretty skinny myself so some of us are in the same boat.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    Being a newbie at my age and extremely overweight it was very hard for me emotionally to go to the gym. I bust my butt every time I'm there though. I'm not there to impress anybody. I'm there because that is where the equipment I need is. It's hard to not care what people think, but it is important to see tomorrow, so screw the selfish people! I'm loosing weight and standing taller already and it's only been 4 weeks. I am looking forward to the post 6 weeks where this truly becomes a lifestyle!
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    showme saidEverybody has to start somewhere. If anything, "good on ya, mate.". Unless you're hogging a piece of equipment, Then "god why isn't this guy done already!?!?!"


    the underlined is my thoughts if you're using something I use and I've done the rest of my routine already.

    You are there to improve yourself, and they (everyone else) is there to improve their-self. if the larger guys are intimidating you, get their attention in an appropriate way, stary with a flattering comment (like "you're impressively huge") and ask for some advice about an exercise, and they'll most likely turn into a person and smile. It's pretty amazing (and they'll help you by showing that exercise)
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    Been there, done that. And, I still feel pretty skinny at my gym compared to a lot of the guys, especially since I started working out with dumbbells. But, just stay focussed on your workout, like everyone else is trying to do, and stay committed to your own goals. Everyone's body is different, and we all have different strengths. Find yours, and go with it. You'll be inspiring others in no time!
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    You think too much....lol... Hey we were all like you once when we started. Either that or people that were over weight had the same feelings you do. We all wanted the same thing.... to look better and feel better ... that's the goal... so good luck to you. Give everyone a big smile and be happy.

    One point though.... all those old guys... the only way they can improve bone density is through weight bearing exercise. They've definitely have to be in the gym.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    Im doing the same too. I am 5' 5 and 125lbs. I've been lifting weights 4-5 times a week. I just need someone to be my trainer or workout buddy that knows a lot about weights.
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    I was really intimidated when I first started going to the gym. I think it's really common. Now that I've been a regular for several years I realize that my anxiety was completely silly. I'm just as impressed and happy for out of shape people who are trying to get more fit as I am of the muscle god types.

    I can't overstress the need to apply appropriate etiquette though. It really is annoying when people leave 300 lbs on the equipment and expect lesser mortals to put the extra weights away.
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    I used to think the same. But just like everyone says, everybody has to start somewhere. I paid for my gym and I'm not going to let a built guy say that I don't belong there. Hell, pay me the amount I paid for my gym monthly and I'll go to some other gym if it bothers him that much hehe.
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    I'll start using the gym at work and report back icon_biggrin.gif

    I doubt I'm going to find it intimidating though because I don't have a problem with comparing myself to other guys. They weren't born like brick shit houses anyway so I'm sure they know what it's like to be a beginner.

    Anyway, if they cop an attitude about it, well, I don't give a fuck so whateveryo icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    BiBoston saidI think it is awesome!

    Exactly what I thought in my head when I saw this post.

    Don't let ANYONE intimidate you and make you feel uncomfortable for trying to better yourself. Everyone has to start somewhere. Keep at it!!!
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    I worked out a pretty busy gym for many years. There was a very heavy woman on the treadmill sweating bullets every time I went. There may have been a lot of muscle guys there, but that woman inspired me the most.
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    Aug 03, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    When I see people who are just starting to workout I have a lot of respect for them. It takes a lot to put yourself in that position of not giving a shit what other people think. I've been there.
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    If you are too busy peeking at other guys at the gym then you are most likely not have a good workout...stop staring and get to work
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Everyone was skinny/out of shape at some point with the exception of the genetic freaks who are naturally muscular. I highly doubt anyone would be annoyed by skinny people working out.
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    You have as much right to be there as anyone else who pays their dues. Go to it, Josh!
    Maybe find someone to go with yo as a lifting partner?
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    I say congratulations on them wanting to be better for themselves or whatever the reason is. I'm usually too busy dealing with my own work-out to even notice or care but if I happen to see someone like what you described at my gym then I quietly think to myself "Good for them".

    I'll never hate on someone who wants to be fit.
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    I don't give a crap who's in the gym as long you exercise proper gym etiquette.

    - put weights back
    - stay off your phone
    - don't hold lengthy conversations (while sitting on a piece of equipment)
    - wipe your sweat off
    - brush your teeth beforehand
    - use deodorant
    - no loud grunting
    - don't drop weights
    - wear appropriate gym attire
    - make sure others can't hear what's playing on your headphones
    - don't ask to work in then take 10 minutes to complete your set
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    It makes me proud because someone is actually doing something to achieve what they want. Whether it be healthier, lose weight, or in your case gain muscle. More power to them! I was a twig like 6 months ago and did something about it, now I think I'm better and I'm definitely more happy. Good luck to ya buddy!
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    Aug 03, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    I can relate to feeling uneasy when going to a gym for the first time.

    When I was a kid, my mother told me that I should wear something more substantial than a T shirt so that people couldn't see how skinny I was. All through high school, in physical education I was the last one chosen for teams. I also had a problem with being bullied. I wanted to take up weight lifting to correct the problem, but my father saw no point in it and because I was totally dependent on my parents, there was nothing I could do about it.

    When I was 22 and living in Minneapolis, I did join a gym. At first I was very uncomfortable and thought that everyone would be staring at me and thinking that a skinny guy like me didn't belong in a gym. However, I got over than upon finding that no one stared at me or put me down.

    A few months after joining the gym, I overheard people at the beach commenting about my muscles. That made it clear that I had made the right decision when I joined the gym.