Honestly, what do you think of someone who is skinny/out of shape at a gym and weight lifting.

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    Jan 20, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    I first started out working out at home with some light weights. I went from 100 pounds to 130 where I am right now in a year, and I plan to keep on going. After having done a lot of reading and research on bodybuilding and nutrition I found enough courage to join a gym but I've always been embarrassed about how pathetically skinny I looked struggling with my sets lifting low weights. I'm a lot more confident now and care less about other people because I realize everyone has to start somewhere. Reading through this thread it gives me a peace of mind knowing that I'm just being way to self conscious so thanks everyone icon_smile.gif
  • Beastmode

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    Jan 20, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    You are in there giving it a go and that says great things about you already. Focus on yourself and the best you can be.
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    Jan 20, 2013 6:14 AM GMT
    I could give a damn who is working out. The thing that bothers me most is idiots doing circuit training hogging 3-4 machines icon_evil.gif
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    Jan 20, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    I have watched skinny guys just starting out put on muscle and look better than guys that have been going to the gym for years! You'll do just fine.
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    Jan 20, 2013 6:21 AM GMT

    I really respect those who are secure enough with themselves to actually go to a gym and try to improve their lives.

    I was a fat kid, teenager and young adult, so the idea of me stepping into a gym with all of those hard, toned and muscular men terrified me to death. When I started to finally get in shape in my early twenties, I did it on my own by running at night because I was too embarrassed to be seen running during the day time. I would go to the local high school and run around the track at night so no one would see me. I eventually lost enough weight where I would actually join a gym, but even then I was extremely self conscious about my looks.

    So again, when I see some really overweight person working out at the gym in broad daylight pumping and sweating away like no one else is there, I think back to my own overweight days, and say you go gurl! icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 20, 2013 6:22 AM GMT
    Bustamante saidI could give a damn who is working out. The thing that bothers me most is idiots doing circuit training hogging 3-4 machines icon_evil.gif


    Lol... That is annoying! Especially when you think they're done and they run from across the gym just to say they're still using it. Smh icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 20, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    I always get so insecure working out with people around me, especially guys who are bigger / lift more. Until recently I never worked out other than at home. Even now the workout facility I'm at is really small (apt complex room). It still messes with my sets, ie I won't push myself as hard lifting the weights so I don't make a fool out of myself struggling to do those last couple of reps. Though I guess I could counter that with doing more drop sets instead.
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    Jan 20, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    don't care what other people think of you so much.

    I hang out with fatties and I don't care. They treat my emotions well and to me that's more important.

    i imagine they think all sorts of things. anything from 'that dude is cute!' to 'eww he looks like a bitch' to thinking you are boring. But you are none of those things, and everything- at the same time.

    i'm not saying that a nice body isn't impressive btw, of course it is! but I also know how to put it in perspective. icon_cool.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 20, 2013 2:13 PM GMT
    Hey Josh, first, congrats for taking the step and being so serious about the gym scene!

    "What other people think" is overrated. You are there for "your" improvement.
    If you are concerned about the use of the equipment, make sure you have trainer assistance before you get started. We have people (especially right now) who are morbidly obese. I'm sure those people are far more intimidated than "a skinny guy", but regardless, we all had to learn initially.

    I'm confident.. you will be.. as soon as you learn some of the machines and get used to the place. Make the effort.... I think you will be rewarded!

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    Jan 20, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    what matters most that a person is at the gym trying to improve themselves. We all had to start somewhere so i would never judge someone especially when there are many who won't make the effort. I will often encourage people i see struggling too get themselves in shape.
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    Jan 20, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    The main reason people don't like out of shape people in the gym is that as newbies they tend to break the gym etiquette so much more often.

    The most important thing is that when someone asks you how many sets you have left, understand there are only 2 answers a nice guy gives:

    1, "Just one more set" (two more is ok-ish)
    2, "I have a few more, do you want to swap sets?"

    If you want to use the equipment someone else is on, ask how many sets they have left instead of saying "You have been using that for ages" or staring at them.

    I have made loads of friends at the gym just by following these rules, looking friendly and saying hi to regulars.
  • FRE0

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    Jan 21, 2013 7:42 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidA balanced plan (not just chest and arms but your whole body) will serve you better.

    Nobody that is serious about working out gives a shit about you at the gym as long as you aren't in the way, pick up the weights, and behave properly. You simply aren't that important.

    Quit worrying about what the folks there think and get your butt in motion.


    That reminds me of a disgusting experience that I recently had at the gym.

    Because of the weather, instead of riding my bicycle to the gym, I used a stationary bike at the gym to warm up and get a bit of aerobic exercise. After about 15 seconds of pedaling, I realized that I had forgotten to take my T shirt off (I had a tank top on underneath) and that I had to stop, go back to the locker room, and remove it, to prevent excessive sweating. Then I began to think about what others would think if they saw me leave after only 15 seconds of pedaling. I became disgusted over my even considering something that irrelevant and still being unduly concerned about what others might think. It's really hard to get over that irrational mode of thinking.
  • wild_sky360

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    Jan 21, 2013 8:02 AM GMT
    I am inspired by transformations and the courage to begin them. There is a guy at my out of state gym who shows up every day and works his ass off. He told me he's lost 60lbs in 3 months, which just blew me away. He's a cute sweetheart too; gonna break some hearts when he achieves his goals.
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    Jan 31, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    I'm not hugely muscular but I workout when I see really fat people in the gym it makes me so happy that they are making a change!
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    Jan 31, 2013 2:00 PM GMT
    I think you're my hero, and I'd rather train you than someone who has been lifting successfully for twenty years.
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    Feb 18, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    What do you think of someone who is ill and at the doctor's office? What about a seemingly healthy person at the doctor's office?

    Exercise is important regardless of your body composition. I was 6'0 and 125 lbs in my freshman year of college when I signed up for a weight training class. Sure it was a bit embarrassing not being able to move as much mass as the other guys around me, but I wasn't there to impress others. I was there for myself. People generally won't hold it against you, and they'll more likely be encouraging than anything. If they do look down on you, they're either pathetic and aren't worth your time/consideration or else (as others have pointed out) you may be violating some of the common gym courtesies/etiquettes.
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    What almost everyone else said.. I respect anyone that is in the gym earning their own sweat, no matter if they are 100lbs or 300lbs. It's not about the place where you are now, it's about the journey. .....oh and be glad your are just skinny trying to gain. That is simple compared to having to lose fat and THEN build muscle. .
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    Skinny guys I usually just think "Cool, just another person working out."

    I will admit that there are certain times that I see guys that are overweight lifting weights and feel like someone should direct them to the cardio section.

    Before anyone jumps down my throat, let me clarify - I understand that the more muscle you have on your body, the more fat you will burn, so there are definitely heavier guys that you can tell have a good routine and incorporate lifting and cardio and have legitimately good programs going for them.

    I'm referring more to the dudes, and you know who I am talking about...that throw around massive, massive amounts of weight because they're so large, generally have poor form - and think that putting up big weight is the key to success.

    Flame on.
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    7Famark saidSkinny guys I usually just think "Cool, just another person working out."

    I will admit that there are certain times that I see guys that are overweight lifting weights and feel like someone should direct them to the cardio section.

    Before anyone jumps down my throat, let me clarify - I understand that the more muscle you have on your body, the more fat you will burn, so there are definitely heavier guys that you can tell have a good routine and incorporate lifting and cardio and have legitimately good programs going for them.

    I'm referring more to the dudes, and you know who I am talking about...that throw around massive, massive amounts of weight because they're so large, generally have poor form - and think that putting up big weight is the key to success.

    Flame on.


    They could get skinny without doing cardio (in fact it would be safer than using the treadmill and some cardio machines have weight restrictions) but they need to sort their diet out more than they need to be in the gym (not saying they can't do both). There were two obese guys at my old gym who would jack the weight up and laugh at the guy in front of them, I didn't like them much.
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
    Go for it! Everyone has the right to feel and look good.
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
    Good for them.
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    I think "you gotta start somewhere"
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    CuriousOne saidI think "you gotta start somewhere"


    ^^^^ this!!

    There is no reason why a out of shape person should be shunned from gym. Afterall, they are there to make a good change for themselves.
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    Feb 20, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    Whenever I see anyone at the gym, even the "barbie" I say Good for you for even coming.

    Then they do nothing and I hate them. Same with the cruiser loser.

    But you know what, even when I see a bigger person, or an old lady, or a guy much more fit than me jogging or walking down the street I always say Good for you, out-loud sometimes to myself.

    Love people who try to better themselves!
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    Feb 21, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI'm going to begin weight lifting/bulking soon as I want to get my chest and arms bigger. I have never touched a weight in my life. I've simply doing isometric and bodyweight exercises to get the results I have now. I'm currently 5'7 and 142 lbs.

    I'm going to do SS (Starting Strength) as that's most recommended, and try to bulk the best I can. I'm researching form right now so I don't fuck something up, but the whole idea of gyms creeps me out a bit.

    Hear me out, I'm usually pretty confident in myself and nothing is going to stop me of reaching my goal, but the last time I went to a gym I found myself pretty intimidated. Most were out of shape soccer moms and older guys, but a handful of people were huge, built, guys who could bench 3 of me. It made me wonder what they're thinking when they see a skinny guy like me hitting the weights right after them.

    So... this is for people who hit the gym often: What do you think of someone who is skinny/out of shape and starts lifting weights at the gym. Does it annoy you or does it make you proud for the person.

    Like I said before nothing will stop me from reaching my goal, and I can't control what others think. I just wanted to know what usual gym-goers think.

    Thanks,

    Josh


    I think a skinny guy working out is cool. Really.

    But if you're self-conscious, take comfort. Most of the guys will be too busy admiring their beauty in the mirrors to worry about you. ;)

    On a more serious note, you could always wear a sweatsuit until you get more comfortable being in a gym.