People say the darnedest things!

  • Musicman91

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    Aug 15, 2012 7:59 AM GMT
    There is this girl who I know. Not really a friend more of an acquaintance but she is good friends with one of my good friends so I see her often. And she is very religious. I don't mind it but she just says somethings that rub me the wrong way. She says she is "open minded" but from some of the things she says it is hard to believe, Some of her more memorable moments:

    Somehow we got to talking about gay marriage, my one friend seems to like to bring up the fact I am gay to EVERYONE and then we got talking and my one friend said they were cool with it and this girl chimed in that she likes most of the gay people she has met but doesn't support or believe that gay marriage should be allowed because of the Bible.. We got into a debate of sorts nothing extreme but you could tell she was getting flustered,

    Another time we were talking about Kenan and Kel and how they aren't around anymore and someone said they saw Kel on a show where he played a gay guy and she said "Yeah I remember I didn't like seeing him like that." I said "Like what? A human being?" Her latest is she brought up the fact that her dad walks on campus at school because there are rainbow flags in certain areas with the gay/straight alliance on campus saying "My dad doesn't support gays at all I'm surprised he walks on this campus with all the gay rainbow symbols." I said it's a shame he doesn't and asked her what would have happened if people who weren't women didn't support women back when they were trying to vote or if people who weren't black didn't support the civil rights movement back in the 50's/60's?

    Overall she feels the need to always throw out there that she is open minded and all that jazz but if you have to constantly say you are you're probably not. I don't mind her overall and she can be cool sometimes but she definitely does not think before she speaks most of the time. Pointless thread but I needed to vent! Anyone have people in their lives like this??
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    Aug 15, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    Wow, she seems like she's the type to say that she's open minded to simply hide the fact that she's not.
    It's how this one guy in Australia was given a bad rap for being racist towards his workers and his response was "how am I racist, my maid is asian".

    She thinks with her saying "oh I'm alright with most of gay people" cloaks her judgemental statements.
    Again she might be unaware that's how she comes across, but it's still is irritating.

    Good on you though for keeping your cool and being polite and patient. Often people jump straight into heatedness and when someone is in that zone, nobody will listen to anything as they are already planning what to say next without actually hearing what's being said.

    I think you not judging her on her judgementalism (lol wow, weird sentence) actually makes you a really good example on actions speaking louder than words, hopefully she picks up on walking the walk and not just talking the talk.
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    Aug 15, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    My dad says he is open minded, but me not think so icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 15, 2012 1:46 PM GMT
    Anocxu said...Some people describe themselves for who they want to become...

    Yes, but also people say things for how they want you to see them.

    An xcousin of mine used to declare herself open-minded yet would say things like "you're gay because you didn't stay dead long enough between reincarnations to process into a real human being heterosexual; also I had a hell of a time getting her to stop using the word gay in the derogatory. Yet she'd brag about her gay family members and her gay friends.

    Honestly, she's so full of shit and even though I tolerated that for a long time, having been brought up since toddlers to love her, eventually she would completely screw me anyway. I don't know why being totally screwed came as such a shock to me. It's not as if I didn't have warning.

    If someone doesn't think you are completely 100% human with all human rights endowed, well, let's just say that I'm very nice to dogs, but I don't think they're human either. I used to tolerate that sort of shit in my life. Not anymore. I'll be nice to my neighbors who think me an abomination. I'll even be friendly, but I'd never consider them good friends. I've already seen where that path leads.