Why Gays Hate Their Bodies

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    Aug 22, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    dancedancekj saidInteresting comment from the Gawker article:

    "I recently published a book on sexuality and fat, Fat Sex: The Naked Truth. I had throngs of people wanting to be interviewed about their experiences. Straight women and men, and lesbian women, that is. In the year I spent interviewing people I found one gay man willing to be interviewed. One. In looking for at least one gay man to interview I encountered some perspectives I only saw in the gay male community -- while in the straight and lesbian community there are preferences, and some people have issues with those preferences -- it's a mixed bag. In the gay male community there was nearly a fear to speak up. An invisibility that seems far worse than what straight women experience -- who are often quite invisible. Lucky I found one brave and very vocal soul. But he described a great deal of bigotry and pain. Very disturbing.

    Rebecca Jane Weinstein"


    i can totally believe this. Gay men CAN have the tendency to treat fat gay men like sirus side show freaks.. that's why "the bears" can be some of the most defensive "groups" ever. I was the door man for a "fat gay dance" party once.. I took over for an actual bear.. and in doing so i was treated with an instant hostility and unwillingness to open up to me.. a wall..and that extended to inside the club when i started barbacking for this Bear night club.. and soon enough the wall came down but it was explained to me that they get a lot of gawkers.. and a lot of hatred from fitter gay men..who instantly label a fat gay man as a slob or careless....and whatnot.
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    Double posting for some odd reason.
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    jerbear89 saidI read this somewhere else originally and I found it slightly humorous; maybe it was intended to be satirical? Some realistic viewpoints are embedded within an overdramatic and biased piece, I personally didn't take offense but actually related to lots of it (I'm a recovering fat kid). Maybe I didn't read into it as deeply as some of you, but either way it's a piece of opinion/perspective, not a doctrine. Relax icon_biggrin.gif


    yes. it was meant to be satrical and humorous in parts. It went over the heads of some.
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    Aug 22, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
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    jerbear89 saidI read this somewhere else originally and I found it slightly humorous; maybe it was intended to be satirical? Some realistic viewpoints are embedded within an overdramatic and biased piece, I personally didn't take offense but actually related to lots of it (I'm a recovering fat kid). Maybe I didn't read into it as deeply as some of you, but either way it's a piece of opinion/perspective, not a doctrine. Relax icon_biggrin.gif


    yes. it was meant to be satrical and humorous in parts. It went over the heads of some.


    I think it probably hits a bit too close to home for many people, as seen with some of the comments. His writing style is a bit confusing, it tends to veer in and out of sarcastic to somewhat serious, to tongue in cheek, to haha-not-really-joking tone. It doesn't come off as biting as it should be, if it were truly looking to be satirical IMO.