This girl asked me if I was gay

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    Aug 23, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    BiTennisJock10 said
    Dennis1992 saidI used to have people ask me that sometimes... I always said no but now not anymore, I'm like "Yeah bitch!! Whats up!?!?" and then I throw glitter in their face and jump on my big gay rainbow and ride it into the sunset... lol icon_razz.gif


    Hahaha can totally see that happening!

    It's just about learning to be comfortable with yourself. I remember when that question caused me so much anxiety that I would either lie or somehow try to avoid it ever being brought up. Now I could care less. I mean, I don't shout it from the rooftops but I feel no need to lie to anyone about...unless we're talking about family icon_eek.gif Lol


    I use to avoid it that topic altogether too. And I dont shout it from the rooftops either lol it would be funny though. climbing onto a rooftop of someplace like Walmart and screaming "I'M GAY!" ppl wpold be like :O "Dafuq?" I do like wearing little pride things though icon_smile.gif
  • Webster666

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    Aug 23, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    A long time ago, I used to do that, too.
    Then, I finally decided that, if they've got the balls to ask such a question, then I'll be honest with my answer.

    The people who ask, already know, anyway...
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    Simple answer: WHY DO YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO KNOW OR HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW THAT INFORMATION?
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    An easy reply to remember in this situation is:

    "Yes. Are you?"

    It always throws 'em without being too confrontational, and I've always found adult woman to be the worst at trying to embarass gay men about their sexuality. Older men don't seem to care much at all.
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    Ha thats nothing! I was at a Gay bar and I was asked if I was a Republican! I would say I look the part but, its rude! Maybe I am maybe I'm not! Somethings you don't ask complete strangers. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Cunt. icon_confused.gif

    I wish people would think before they speak.

    I was studying in a community center on base yesterday.. some old guy comes up and was like "I did not know G.I.'s could read. He he he"

    I was surprised he didn't say "black kids" ... or something lol
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    If she aksed she already knew so regardless what you say, next time chill, even u don't want to tell her, say "gay you mean happy? ya, I am a happy guy"
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    My answer to her would be "Are You"
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    It is a gutsy question, but Cosmo and other influences urge women to go for what they want. Women don't wait for us to ask them out, they just go for it and ask us. I've had attractive women nose around about that subject. They wonder why we're not hitting on them........so they're curious. I just say, "I sure am."
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    Aug 23, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidSimple answer: WHY DO YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO KNOW OR HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW THAT INFORMATION?


    +1

    Agreed. My suggested version is "Does it matter to you?"
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    ChangeofName saidIm pretty sure she already knew.. just being a cunt about it.


    Aress said
    ChangeofName saidIm pretty sure she already knew.. just being a cunt about it.

    Right there.


    LVmoto78That has happened to me a few times, by girls and guys. I think ChangeOfName is right- Girls already know, they just want to be a bitch about it.

    A kid at work asked me, when he first started; I said no, only because he caught me off guard and I didn't know him well, aside from the fact that I thought it was rude.

    Don't worry about it so much. People will ask. Say whatever you want to say, depending on the situation, and don't feel bad about it. If a girl asks you again, ask her if she eats gash


    ShellCunt.

    I wish people would think before they speak.


    Why is there so much hostility towards a girl who just asked a simple question that we shouldn't be ashamed to answer?
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    Dahas saidWhy is there so much hostility towards a girl who just asked a simple question that we shouldn't be ashamed to answer?
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:47 AM GMT
    you should have slapped a hoe icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    Being asked this question by a female co-worker 8 years ago was the event that finally dragged me out of the closet. I'd never been asked so squarely as an an adult and I just sort of blurted "yes." Best thing that ever happened to me. Haven't lied about it since. icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 23, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    You should have reacted all happy and excited and said:

    "Why Yes gurl .... Are YOU a lesbian??!!!!"
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    Aug 23, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    Hostility is what makes the world go round'

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    Aug 23, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    This above all: to thine own self be true,
    And it must follow, as the night the day,
    Thou canst not then be false to any man.

    Be true to yourself, thereby you can not be false to anyone.
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    Aug 23, 2012 8:32 AM GMT
    Boland92 saidI don't know why I lied it just caught me off guard. I'm not used to people asking me that.icon_redface.gif

    Next time it happens remember you're living in Fort Lauderdale per your profile, and apparently attending an area college. No reason to feel uncomfortable or hesitant to confirm being gay under those friendly circumstances.

    As far as being caught off guard, yeah, I've been asked out of the blue about being gay, though infrequently, and I know it can throw you off balance for a moment. My instinctive reaction is to treat it as unwelcome rudeness, not because of the gay issue, but for asking any personal question of a stranger.

    But depending on how I judge the other person's motives (innocent curiosity, hostility, busybody, threatening, etc), I may see an opportunity to present a positive gay image, or to turn the tables and make them feel uncomfortable, or whatever might be in the best interests of myself and the gay community.

    Assuming you're not trolling us, I think you might benefit from attending a gay pride event, of which we have several annually in the Fort Lauderdale area, including the Stonewall Parade. You may find it liberating. Learn to be confident and happy about being gay, if you aren't already, and incidents like that girl's question won't phase you at all, and you won't find yourself lying.
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:04 AM GMT
    BTW, this topic reminds me of a scene from the Angels in America TV miniseries, where the Mormon mother (Meryl Streep), who's confused by her own son's homosexuality and looking for answers, meets gay Prior Walter for the first time, and bluntly asks him:

    "Are you a homosexual?"

    "Is it that obvious? Yes, I am. What's it to you?"

    "Would you say you are a typical... homosexual?"

    "Me? No, I'm STEREO-typical. What do you mean, like, am I a hairdresser?"

    "ARE you a hairdresser?"

    "It would be YOUR lucky day if I was, because frankly..."

    [The mother blushes]


    That exchange always cracks me up.
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:13 AM GMT
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    volsfan315 saidThis above all: to thine own self be true,
    And it must follow, as the night the day,
    Thou canst not then be false to any man.

    Be true to yourself, thereby you can not be false to anyone.

    You do realize that Shakespeare was making fun of that old windbag Polonius, yes?

    In addition to which, the OP was being false to a woman, not to a man. In Shakespeare men can always be false to women, and vice versa, it comprises half his plots.
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:24 AM GMT
    we all have to come out again and again.

    shame really it shouldnt matter. but it can lead to good things, meeting people ect
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:35 AM GMT
    Boland92 saidEarlier today I was down at student services taking care of some things. I was talking to this girl as I was waiting for my counselor. Straight up out the blue she asks me "Are you gay?!" mid-conversation. I was floored, so my voice got a little shaky. I told her no, but that was a lie. I don't know why I lied it just caught me off guard. I'm not used to people asking me that.icon_redface.gif


    Why would she ask that?

    Maybe she's a gay guy trapped in a woman's body....and was flirting with you icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:47 AM GMT
    josephmovie saidAn easy reply to remember in this situation is:

    "Yes. Are you?"

    It always throws 'em without being too confrontational, and I've always found adult woman to be the worst at trying to embarass gay men about their sexuality. Older men don't seem to care much at all.


    Best answer.

    And anyway, they may have someone in mind to set you up with.
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    Aug 23, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    I can do anal intercourse with you in either case, yo sl*tty b*tch
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    Aug 23, 2012 10:30 AM GMT
    jammer11 saidSome things you don't ask complete strangers. icon_twisted.gif

    During cocktails before a private dinner I was engaged in a very pleasant conversation with this matronly woman I hadn't met before. She'd also been introduced to my partner, and I suspect had been told beforehand that the host's gay friends (us) would be present, everyone else straight.

    I forget what we were discussing, but then she asked me how long a time it was before gay men got AIDS. icon_eek.gif Not only a highly personal question, implying I might have AIDS by now in my 60s, but obviously a very ignorant one.

    But I concluded she was a well-meaning, clueless wealthy woman, of which that area has more than its share, so I kept my composure. (BTW, El_Crankodor now lives there, so he may have run into some) And I tried my best to politely correct her misunderstandings about HIV, AIDS, and gay men in general. I even got her interested in donating to a particular HIV/AIDS non-profit agency, though I don't know if that came to anything.

    You'd think that supposedly cultured, sophisticated, and mature adults wouldn't ask a question on the same level of this girl in a waiting area. But I find social clumsiness in all social strata nowadays, and perhaps more so regarding gay issues. Maybe we're the cocktail topic du jour which excuses such poor manners, that I still find disconcerting even if not embarrassing per se.