i dnt feel hot enough for my boyfriend

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    Aug 24, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    Therapy. I don't mean it in a snide way. A lot of gay guys have really problematic self-identity when it come to aesthetics. The aesthetic becomes the entirety of the self-identity, and the perception of how others perceive oneself is skewed as well. Very problematic.

    If I'm wrong, and it's not an issue like that, then you need to identify when it is that you think isn't "hot," and figure out a way to address that which is in your control.
  • d69FF85

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    Aug 24, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Sometimes I feel like I have this problem too. I almost think I subconsciously gravitate towards less good looking people for making friends because the hot guys intimidate me icon_sad.gificon_redface.gif I don't know how to get over it. But I mean also, the hot guys usually act more d-bag-ish in general and maybe my mind just automatically makes stereotypes. Argh. icon_mad.gif
  • NMGUY505

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    Aug 24, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidI looked at your profile..you know you're not ugly..
    You have 10 visible pics and over 170 comments screaming.."YOU ARE SEXY"..(you might be insecure and overcompensating)

    ..If your boyfriend doesn't think your'e hot or is ashamed of you..He could'nt be in his right mind!..He is the one that's making you feel insecure!

    ..If you are with a man that makes you feel ashamed.. He has some work to do !..Sit him down ..Talk to him real firm..Try to work it out....And If not..
    Moar Meat For Us ! icon_twisted.gif
    Boner Hugz???..
    Seriously..Let him have it!



    what he said ha ha ha
  • O5vx

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    Aug 24, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Hey if I am not ashamed of what I look like, you should never be either. You are perfect the way you are made.
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Matt_TO saidRight, but we all have moments of weakness. Those 3am moments where things we never usually say we suddenly blurt out. Perhaps he's just being real and honest because he has no one else he can really talk to about it. That's why I think it's just best that we support the guy. We all need to break down and be honest. Most people have a few sides or facets to their personality, and perhaps tonight he's just showing us his.


    I'm just not buying it. Nearly all of this guy's pics are practically naked showing his body and ass (in several different positions I might add) in every shot. There is no modesty whatsoever.

    He's obviously a showoff.

    People who truly believe they are ugly do not take sexy evocative photos of them with their ass in the air or wearing only a soccer ball to cover their crotch. People who believe they are ugly hide themselves.

    His profile says he's single but now apparently he has a boyfriend. I see inconsistent behavior and the need for attention.

    He's nineteen and you're all being worked.

    By the way, Roger. Is it possible to have an autographed copy of that ass shot with you in your jockstrap? It's my favorite of all your photos. icon_idea.gif




    actually lol to clear my name, i guess i can say, the sexy thing was a joke bc i took the pic to verify my account on realjock but didn't like that it said realjock 123 so i scratched it out. i do that for humor but i dnt really mean it. And i kinda do stuff for attention like one other guy said. Ik some people on here will like my profile and it kinda makes me happy for a little while but i still feel like i have to compete for guy's attention and ill never win bc they are hotter and better than me. and yea i'll def sign anything u want ;)
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    You've just got to learn to have confidence in who you are. If he's with you, it's because you've got something special to you. If you don't like how you look, then set goals, and work to reach them. I'm talking to a great guy, and there was a point where I felt he could do so much better. I just learned that if he's talking to me, it's because he's interested. Just remember to be the best you can be, and not let little things like that worry you. There's a solution to everything!! icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    Shinra_Tensei saidregerfederer,

    Shinra would fuck your little white but until it turned red as a beet and you begged for mercy mkay?


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    mother would not approve of that
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    rogerfederer said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Matt_TO saidRight, but we all have moments of weakness. Those 3am moments where things we never usually say we suddenly blurt out. Perhaps he's just being real and honest because he has no one else he can really talk to about it. That's why I think it's just best that we support the guy. We all need to break down and be honest. Most people have a few sides or facets to their personality, and perhaps tonight he's just showing us his.


    I'm just not buying it. Nearly all of this guy's pics are practically naked showing his body and ass (in several different positions I might add) in every shot. There is no modesty whatsoever.

    He's obviously a showoff.

    People who truly believe they are ugly do not take sexy evocative photos of them with their ass in the air or wearing only a soccer ball to cover their crotch. People who believe they are ugly hide themselves.

    His profile says he's single but now apparently he has a boyfriend. I see inconsistent behavior and the need for attention.

    He's nineteen and you're all being worked.

    By the way, Roger. Is it possible to have an autographed copy of that ass shot with you in your jockstrap? It's my favorite of all your photos. icon_idea.gif




    actually lol to clear my name, i guess i can say, the sexy thing was a joke bc i took the pic to verify my account on realjock but didn't like that it said realjock 123 so i scratched it out. i do that for humor but i dnt really mean it. And i kinda do stuff for attention like one other guy said. Ik some people on here will like my profile and it kinda makes me happy for a little while but i still feel like i have to compete for guy's attention and ill never win bc they are hotter and better than me. and yea i'll def sign anything u want ;)


    In what way are they better than you? What you put out is what you get. I use to be self conscious of my look, but I realized that the way I present myself will tell how people will see me.
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    You're a good looking guy. I like the scruffy look / styled hair in your yellow underwear pic. Maybe your bf doesn't like it though? Either way stop fretting!
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    Aug 24, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
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    S34n05 saidYou're a good looking guy. I like the scruffy look / styled hair in your yellow underwear pic. Maybe your bf doesn't like it though? Either way stop fretting!


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    He's attention whoring


    Yeah I know but I'm bored just giving my 2 cents.
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    Aug 24, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    northoz said
    waccamatt saidThe dude's playing you guys. He's one of the hottest guys on RJ and he knows it.


    Exactly some of you really need to start thinking witht he big head not the little one icon_rolleyes.gif


    Especially since that crawdad ain't fresh: Caked and Nasty: A Tale of Unclean Swamp Ass

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    OP: You're right. Your boyfriend is probably too hot for you. Don't worry. He'll figure it out soon enough when he pulls his dick out and makes you experience the Dirty Sanchez up close and personal.

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    Matt_TO said


    Quite the opposite actually. If someone feels they aren't that attractive, one way of dealing with that is to vie for the attention of others. Its the need to have others validate them. It's often a sign that they aren't getting the attention and validation from important people in their life (family, bf, etc). This stuff can be rather deep seeded and it's not something that a comment on a profile can change.


    I agree, I feel the same way.
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    What boyfriend? Your profile says you're single.
  • metta

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    rogerfederer said




    actually lol to clear my name, i guess i can say, the sexy thing was a joke bc i took the pic to verify my account on realjock but didn't like that it said realjock 123 so i scratched it out. i do that for humor but i dnt really mean it. And i kinda do stuff for attention like one other guy said. Ik some people on here will like my profile and it kinda makes me happy for a little while but i still feel like i have to compete for guy's attention and ill never win bc they are hotter and better than me. and yea i'll def sign anything u want ;)


    Well, the first think you need to do is stop comparing yourself to others. It is not really a healthy thing to do. Try just comparing yourself to you. All that you can do is work on becoming a better you. You can never become someone else so it is not worth trying to or even concerning yourself about that.

    If you are ever with someone that would drop you for 'someone better' (notice that is in quotes)...thank them for dropping you because that is not the type of person you should want in your life in the first place. Why would you want someone that would treat a person like that to be a part of your life?
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    Real relationships don't last solely on physical attraction. That is called a fuck buddy. People have more to offer than their looks.
  • MadeinMich

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    you"re fine
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    Aug 25, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    Boo fuckin hoo.
  • Kromethius

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    Aug 25, 2012 4:56 AM GMT
    but why does it say you are single??
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    Aug 25, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Dear RogerFederer, my child

    You have been and will always be fine. You go and find the light and love within your heart and embrace the peace within. Everything will be just fine. Follow that love and light and all of us in the spirit dimension is awaiting your spiritual awakening and wishing for your eternal happiness.

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    Aug 25, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    get confident, stupid.
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    Aug 25, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Matt_TO saidRight, but we all have moments of weakness. Those 3am moments where things we never usually say we suddenly blurt out. Perhaps he's just being real and honest because he has no one else he can really talk to about it. That's why I think it's just best that we support the guy. We all need to break down and be honest. Most people have a few sides or facets to their personality, and perhaps tonight he's just showing us his.


    I'm just not buying it. Nearly all of this guy's pics are practically naked showing his body and ass (in several different positions I might add) in every shot. There is no modesty whatsoever.

    He's obviously a showoff.

    People who truly believe they are ugly do not take sexy evocative photos of them with their ass in the air or wearing only a soccer ball to cover their crotch. People who believe they are ugly hide themselves.

    His profile says he's single but now apparently he has a boyfriend. I see inconsistent behavior and the need for attention.

    He's nineteen and you're all being worked.


    You and Matt are both right: he clearly does not *really* believe he is "ugly", but he is also highly insecure. It sounds contradictory, but it is possible to hold both views of oneself. This is, in fact, epidemic in Gay Nation. Many perfectly fine looking dudes, and even super hot dudes, know they're not capital-U ugly but are still insecure. (Guilty.) Some of these also seek validation in immature and annoying ways. (Not guilty, thank goodness.)

    He may never grow out of the insecurity, but hopefully he'll grow out of the attention-whoring and compliment-fishing. It's hella annoying.
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    Aug 25, 2012 11:13 AM GMT
    The only nice thing about you is your ass.. Be grateful I give you that much.. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 25, 2012 11:57 AM GMT
    Lacking confidence or attention whoring are equally unattractive!
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    Aug 25, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    Shinra_Tensei saidstfu bitch


    OMG! I find myself agreeing with a sock.
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    Aug 25, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSorry, but I'm not buying it.

    The level of extreme confidence in your photos suggests something totally different....

    Allow me to present exhibit A, B, C and D......

    Does someone who truly think he's not attractive go around posting signs under his face with the word "SEXY" written in bold letters for the entire internet world to see?
    00523c4758165a8998c5a47bb449cc56.jpg I didn't think so either.

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    I think you're a fishing for compliments. But you're young so we'll let it slide this time.


    Agree, knock it off! It diminishes you, paints you as insincere!