Sep 19, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
After many years of dating guys, this is a first for me so I need some insight or something.
Situation: I have been dating this guy for about a month now. Our mental and spiritual connection is amazing. We laugh, sing together, etc. Our intimacy (communication, cuddling, kissing, holding each other, etc.) is excellent. Our foreplay and physical connection is is unbelievable based on the way he makes me feel and how he shivers during and after I touch, kiss him, etc.
So now on to the issue. We have had sexual intercourse twice now, however recently he has said he no longer wants to have intercourse for an unspecified time period, however he is OK with continuing with everything else, foreplay, oral, etc. He says he wants to avoid our relationship becoming just about sex as it had been for him in his past relationships. He says he has never experienced so many emotions like this so soon, he has never met someone he wants to say "I love you" to this soon but knows logically that its too soon for him to feel that way. Neither of us have said the "L" word...yet.
I could totally understand if all we did was have sex, but it's not. We do so much outside of the bedroom. There have even been times where we have slept together with no foreplay or sex and just held one another.
I'm starting to feel he is slowly pushing me away out of his own fears or whatever else he may have going on outside of us dating. It's almost like issues are being "created" so that we won't proceed. I'm so confused. I'm starting to regret having intercourse with him now. I guess I'm so use to things just happening naturally, versus someone wanting to put breaks on or wanting to maintain control over certain aspects of a relationship. How does one want to "act" like a couple, but doesn't want to have sex.
Any insight, similar shared situation, etc. would help. Thanks.
Situation: I have been dating this guy for about a month now. Our mental and spiritual connection is amazing. We laugh, sing together, etc. Our intimacy (communication, cuddling, kissing, holding each other, etc.) is excellent. Our foreplay and physical connection is is unbelievable based on the way he makes me feel and how he shivers during and after I touch, kiss him, etc.
So now on to the issue. We have had sexual intercourse twice now, however recently he has said he no longer wants to have intercourse for an unspecified time period, however he is OK with continuing with everything else, foreplay, oral, etc. He says he wants to avoid our relationship becoming just about sex as it had been for him in his past relationships. He says he has never experienced so many emotions like this so soon, he has never met someone he wants to say "I love you" to this soon but knows logically that its too soon for him to feel that way. Neither of us have said the "L" word...yet.
I could totally understand if all we did was have sex, but it's not. We do so much outside of the bedroom. There have even been times where we have slept together with no foreplay or sex and just held one another.
I'm starting to feel he is slowly pushing me away out of his own fears or whatever else he may have going on outside of us dating. It's almost like issues are being "created" so that we won't proceed. I'm so confused. I'm starting to regret having intercourse with him now. I guess I'm so use to things just happening naturally, versus someone wanting to put breaks on or wanting to maintain control over certain aspects of a relationship. How does one want to "act" like a couple, but doesn't want to have sex.
Any insight, similar shared situation, etc. would help. Thanks.
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