Dating But He No Longer Wants To Have Intercourse

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    Sep 19, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    rnch saidHills & Valleys, good times, bad times.

    Although there has been several times when one/both of us was ready to kick the other to the curb; we still manage to mentally claw our way back to the other.

    All considered, he's still worth keeping around.

    Today, that is.

    Now, ask me next week......


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    Yep, can't build a home with someone without those Hills & Valleys...
    You can in Florida. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
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    Egro_Nadley saidstandard intercourse is pretty vanilla anyway....maybe you should just skip right into fisting and public prolapses..... you know.....keep the spark alive... icon_twisted.gif
    How about public asphyxiation? That's always a party favorite. icon_biggrin.gif


    semi-public.... with just enough of a line of site for the cameras
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    ....Yep, can't build a home with someone without those Hills & Valleys... You can in Florida. icon_lol.gif[/quote]



    watch out for those Florida sink holes icon_exclaim.gif




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    Sep 19, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    yeah it seems like he just doesn't want the anal part. . . maybe he's embarrassed to say it to you for fear of u no longer wanting to be with him?

    Is anal a deal-breaker for u? If not, perhaps gently bring it up to him and let him know it's all good if he's not into anal.

    Keep us posted
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    rnch said....Yep, can't build a home with someone without those Hills & Valleys... You can in Florida. icon_lol.gif


    watch out for those Florida sink holes icon_exclaim.gif




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    Bottomless pitfalls?
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    Sep 19, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    rnch said....Yep, can't build a home with someone without those Hills & Valleys... You can in Florida. icon_lol.gif


    watch out for those Florida sink holes icon_exclaim.gif




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    Bottomless pitfalls?
    Sounds like trying to find a date at a tops only convention.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 19, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    dude, what's the problem? i mean he did not cut you off forever. he just wants to wait a while before you do it again. obviously, you two care about each other. if you like him as much as you claim than you should be able to wait. i mean you guys are doing everything else so i do not see the problem
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    Sep 19, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    You've been dating a month... why are you freaking out about something like this already?
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    Sep 19, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    It's over. Prepare his bill for checking out.
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    Sep 19, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    After I started dating my ex bf he got an std test and wouldn't touch me for a couple weeks until he got the results back. He didn't tell me for months afterward why he was being distant.
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    Sep 21, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for your various opinions, but as of tonight I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He has chosen not to respond to my general texts or calls. We had previously scheduled plans for tonight and not a word from him. So I guess I have my answer for the most part. Thanks again.
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    Sep 21, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidHe says he has never experienced so many emotions like this so soon, he has never met someone he wants to say "I love you" to this soon but knows logically that its too soon for him to feel that way. Neither of us have said the "L" word...yet.


    Say it! Say it! Say it!
    ((Aside: now I wanna go watch Rocky Horror))

    This might be his hangup. Might "loosen him up" a bit if he knows you love him as much as he does you.
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    Sep 21, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidThanks guys for your various opinions, but as of tonight I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He has chosen not to respond to my general texts or calls. We had previously scheduled plans for tonight and not a word from him. So I guess I have my answer for the most part. Thanks again.


    Whoops, I didn't read far enough! No matter, though!

    2 days after a month of intimate connections isn't a long time. No need to rush things. Give him some space to get out from under whatever he's working on (this might be part of his hangup as well... may need to sever a prior relationship), and make sure you drop the L-bomb on him at every opportunity (not every sentence, no need to freak him out, just every time you communicate) when he's ready to get back in touch with you.
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    Sep 21, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidThanks guys for your various opinions, but as of tonight I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He has chosen not to respond to my general texts or calls. We had previously scheduled plans for tonight and not a word from him. So I guess I have my answer for the most part. Thanks again.

    Sorry to hear that. I'd try to confront him to at least get some closure or try to work things out one last time. Maybe try to communicate if he's confused also. I don't see how he could just leave you when it seemed like you guys had something special. But I don't know the full story so there could be other things left out.
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    Gay guys come up with all kinds of creative and novel reasons when they're no longer interested in having sex with their partner or bf.
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    You screwed!!!


    Figuratively at least!
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    Sep 22, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidThanks guys for your various opinions, but as of tonight I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He has chosen not to respond to my general texts or calls. We had previously scheduled plans for tonight and not a word from him. So I guess I have my answer for the most part. Thanks again.

    Told you so.
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    Sep 22, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidGay guys come up with all kinds of creative and novel reasons when they're no longer interested in having sex with their partner or bf.


    It's not just limited to gay guys...

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    Sep 22, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidAny insight, similar shared situation, etc. would help. Thanks.

    Two things immediately occurred to me, and that others here have already mentioned. One, he has an STD. Alternatively, that anal is not his favorite sex, but he obliged you at first, and now he'd prefer to do it infrequently, if at all. You might ask him about the latter, but the former is a touchy subject that could spoil your relationship if mishandled.
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    Sep 22, 2012 7:52 AM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidThanks guys for your various opinions, but as of tonight I haven't talked to him in over 2 days. He has chosen not to respond to my general texts or calls. We had previously scheduled plans for tonight and not a word from him. So I guess I have my answer for the most part. Thanks again.


    Very sorry you're having to go through this. It's hard to have a relationship with anyone who won't talk with you and at least give you some answers. Not answering your calls or texts, and then blowing off plans for a date............not good. Sorry. I've been in your shoes several years ago. The guy didn't want to end things............but I did, because he wouldn't talk. He was a quality guy and was great in many ways, but frigid sexually.
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    Sep 22, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said....Two things immediately occurred to me, and that others here have already mentioned. One, he has an STD. Alternatively, that anal is not his favorite sex, but he obliged you at first, and now he'd prefer to do it infrequently, if at all...




    Yes, my thoughts also.



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  • aznduderocks

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    Sep 22, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    Communication. No one here on RJ knows what's on his mind. icon_idea.gif
  • LJay

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    Sep 22, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    Ayuh.

    And the OP is where?
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    Sep 22, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    WTF!!!


    Lets go have dinner to a Restaurant but lets do not order anything....

    Sir.... please find a man who wants it all
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    Sep 25, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Just take ur time!....I see ur really feelin this guy but don't rush it bc there mite be some hidden things that you don't knw.....its only been 4 weeks+some change.....love slow