I have given up... I can't find a place for me in the gay community....

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    Aug 30, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    dcarm saidoh my!
    I do try, but apparently he escapes my watchful gaze from time to time...


    thanks for caring sunshine.

    but your not very good at your appointment are you.

    But thats OK. All I have to do, is walk past a cake shop, or McDonald's, and his attension is taken away. Food yummy food, and I let him do it.

    look you friend was able to use his own words, and no pictures. Now One is impressed. Yes ma'am.......icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 30, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    ItsMyLife saidSo after doing a whole bunch of thinking crying, bitching kicking and screaming I think I have found my whole problem and it is even what everyone said in these posts. I dont know who I am and that is why I am so uptight and worried. And why I am even judge mental of other people. I know you need to love yourself before you can love someone else, but when you dont even know who you are that is a big problem too. So I need to find out who I am before I can make any more self indulgent ranting posts and make an ass of myself again


    I think every gay man or at least most go through a stage like you have. We I realized I was gay and told my friends I went a little crazy and sleet with many guys. I don't do that now, I respect myself and love me completely. I think I'm the coolest person.

    You just need time to figure somethings out. You'll eventually find your right group of gay friends. I didn't have a nice group of gay friends when I started going out to gay clubs. in fact they were pretty destructive, hence I don't hang out with them anymore.

    Have patience.

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    Sep 26, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    i am well aware of what you are going thru, i read thru the replys you have gotten dont listen to them. i am fully aware and there are a lot of people out there that feel like you do. if you ever want to talk dont hesitate to contact me......
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    Sep 26, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
    josephmovie saidAs much as I agree with all the "think positive" approaches so far, my advice is more practical.

    Save your money, buy a backpack and rail pass and head off overseas for at least three months. You're a young good looking guy. Stay in hostels in dorm rooms where you will meet other people and be almost forced to get along with them. Tell them your gay early on in the piece. They will not give a shit, and you will find lots of young gay men on your travels who aren't all into the scene.

    I think your problem is one of familiarity. You're not into where you live, your parents are bugging you. There is a whole world of people out there. The gay community is a worldwide thing, and varies from country to country. Being on the move will also stop you getting too introspective. Maybe your just not meant for the gay scene where you are.

    Try Europe. I did when I was young and loved it.



    Absolutely brilliant and exactly what needs to be said!!! Get out there and see the world before you base a decision at 20 no less on one place...especially Hollywood Ca!!!