Need Help please :D

  • Musicman91

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    Sep 24, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    So I am currently in my junior year of college and I still have no idea what I wanna do in life. Like at all. I came to school majoring in secondary education and English but it wasn't for me so I dropped education but stuck with English. Then I realized I hate writing and I also kind of suck at it so I switched to Hotel/Restaurant/Tourism because my friend raved about it. I didn't like that either so I switched back to English but I am just not happy at all. I contacted the head of the Leisure/Recreations department at my school and I am going to meet with her tomorrow. I have been looking into it and it seems cool but so did all of the other majors lol. I just don't know at all. Everyone else I know is set in their major and doing their thing I am just just taking up time and space. Money is also a big issue so who knows if I am going to make it through the semester.

    I have been looking into massage therapy it has always been something I've been interested in and there is a business/technology school that has a good program near me. I sent them my info on their website and the guy called and left a message on my phone. I don't know if I should call them being that I am still in school. I really don't know lol I love the friends I have made at college but everything else has just been blah. I have just not been happy lately and a big part of it is not knowing what I am going to do if I am paying all of this god damn money for a education I want to be happy with what I am learning/doing but I am not. I want to do something where I can help people and not be stuck in some office 9 to 5 everyday. I want to LIVE not just exist ya know. And so far I feel like I have just been existing and taking up space and that is not how I wanna feel. I always just wanna cry everyday and that is not me so something is up.

    I don't know sorry for the long pointless rambling but I am a lost soul. Thanks for reading icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    If I were you I'd probably consider taking a year off to travel, volunteer, get some practical work experience in a field that interests me, etc.

    You don't have to follow the common path, there's more to life than settling down immediately. Just try to find someone you are passionate about and.. indulge!

    my 2 cents
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Hmn.. I think I'm in very similar shoes. icon_smile.gif A good professor and mentor to me told me once, "80% of college students end up going to a completely different field than what their focus was in." If that's true, you're right where you should be. +D

    That said, you have to ask yourself-- what makes you happy? What are you REALLY passionate about in life? If you could have it your way, what would you be doing now? I had the hardest time answering this personally too just because I have A LOT of things that I am interested in but nothing which made me seriously passionate-- except, well, cooking. I had my reservations about being a chef mostly because there's a high risk of failure, most chefs do not get jobs, plus my family's views. But if it's something you really and truly want, you will work at it and do whatever it takes to have it. Can you say, with a mind, heart, and eyes wide open there is something in this world that interests you equally so?

    You do know what you don't want-- basically the same thing that I don't want-- the 9 to 5 GRIND. BLECH. I don't want that. I want happiness, enjoyment, fulfillment. I don't live to work, I work to live. I do enjoy working but it's not because I want it in order to live life.

    So here's my advice:

    1) Identify your strengths/skills/talents. Can you think of a time when you really enjoyed doing something? Be honest with yourself!
    2) Identify your weaknesses. What did you really hate? What do you want to avoid and, if possible, supply why you want to avoid it.
    3) If you cannot do either or, try to find a "Career Center" where they help you build resumes and take an assessment test that may help you identify your strengths/weaknesses. See if they are true. Does any thing catch your attention?
    4) Ask your friends/family-- at least the ones that really know you. What do they see you doing really good at?

    See what that does for you. icon_smile.gif Hopefully it may generate a thought or a springboard for you to leap off of. Good luck! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 24, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    My advice:
    Find what you like and stick with it.
    My Story:
    I love video games. Always have always will. I knew if I could get a job making games my life would be perfect. So I tried a few areas, and found a couple that interest me. As long as i love what I'm doing, I feel like I can do my best.
    Think about what you like. Hobbies, various recreational activities. Anything. If you like massage therapy, see if you can get some hands on experience. Only by trying something do you truely find out if you like it. It definitely is a long road, but the end is definitely worth it.
    Also try taking one of those career tests. They aren't always accurate, but maybe it'll give you some more ideas or point you in the right direction.
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    Sep 24, 2012 11:36 AM GMT
    What do you spend your spare time doing? What are you passionate about? What could you easily have a long conversation about?

    Your screen name suggests you like music. Perhaps you could do something like sound engineering or audiovisual studies....
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    Sep 24, 2012 12:44 PM GMT
    Have you tried using the cluster disgramming technique to do a brain dump.? You know, where you put "what I want to do in life" in the center circle. Then just let you mind go and write chains of related circles for whatever comes to mind. Eventually, you have an "Ah ha!" moment and your answer is captured in the diagram.

    Looks like this:
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    Sep 24, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    Your decision does not need to be so complicated!

    You are seeking either a Liberal Arts (writing) or Business degree. Just decide one path or the other. And finish it without question.

    Don't worry about your concentration or major. Don't worry about knowing what you want to "be." If it doesn't fulfill your deepest needs don't worry about that either... it's not supposed to. The goal of undergraduate studies is to OPEN your options, not close them.

    Finally, understand that if you transfer to another school you are surely adding both time and money toward your total degree cost... is the geographic change really necessary for you to complete your study?

    If you're really right for a job, no employer will refuse you simply because you have the wrong undergraduate major. (Except if there are licensing requirements, ex: teachers and nurses...). However, an employer will not even consider your interests if you don't hold the minimum required credential.

    Just get'er done.