Even an attractive guy can turn me off when he ___________.

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    Oct 15, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Lights a cigarette! No thanks! I don't care how attractive.

    macho%20man%20hair%20smoking%20chest?__S

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 15, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    I would say... 1) Lacks ambition 2) Negativity 3)Lacks consideration
    4) Dishonesty
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    smoking for some reason turns me off te most. In the past I always had issues with kissing a guy who smokes. My boyfriend obviously doesn't smoke.
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Meddles in your personal affairs without knowing you, through people who don't know personally, manipulates your situation, lies about things in ways that just aren't cute, and has his associates stalk you at your work... it's pretty damned pathetic and uncalled for...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    bburg34 said1) Votes Romney
    2) Smokes Crack in my Bed
    3) Dies Suddenly on our 1st Date at Starbucks
    4) Shouts Out his Own Name During Sex
    5) Uses Garlic as Aftershave


    All reasonable
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    Doesn't reply to my friendly message or nice photo comment on RJ.


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    Oct 15, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    Disrespectful
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    Oct 15, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    BOOM! Best.answer.ever.

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    Oct 15, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    groundcombat said
    Ariodante said
    89bkbred said

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    It's actually a Catch 22. Anyone can be attracted to any specific race/races they want and not be racist, they just can't ever disclose that to anyone anywhere or they will immediately be labeled as racist. Kind of backwards but that's pretty much how it works.


    Well I can't speak for everyone who has ever spoken on the topic, but its a little more nuanced than that. You're not racist for only liking white guys or even saying you've only liked white guys, for example. Its racist when you refuse to entertain the thought of being with someone because of their race. Some think all is fair in love and war so its okay to be racist in this context but that doesn't make the act any less racist than refusing to hire someone because of their race, for example.


    You summed it up pretty well.
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    No matter how attractive you are, if you are

    1. Narcissistic

    2. Smoker

    3. Super Clingy/Jealous

    4. Lack of Ambition or Goals

    then I have to say NO DEAL!
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    JR_RJ saidMeddles in your personal affairs without knowing you, through people who don't know personally, manipulates your situation, lies about things in ways that just aren't cute, and has his associates stalk you at your work... it's pretty damned pathetic and uncalled for...icon_rolleyes.gif


    Who the hell have you been dating? Pls post their name pic and ddress so i can avoid him.
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    Oh I have one for ya... guys who think they're owed something for being alive, then turn around while you're in the ER and F*** up your next tax schedule by writing themselves a paycheck and zapping you into a higher tax bracket.
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    What I was trying to convey in my message for me, if a man is unwilling to date or have sex with another guy because he find's that man to be unattractive as a result of his race. It is offensive and a turn off for me.
    Sure, for some of us we may find one race more attractive than the other. But to be unwilling to date someone of a specific race, there is something really weird about that for me.
    Sure if he was a jerk fine, but because he's white or hispanic?

    I went on a date with an African-American guy who admitted to me that he was not attracted and nor would he ever date someone who was Caucasian or Asian. I was appalled. And did not see that guy ever again.
  • HottJoe

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    Oct 15, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    These threads make me so glad I already have a boyfriend.

    Let's see:

    My bf drinks more than I would like him to.
    I'm ALWAYS cleaning up after his messes.
    His resentment toward his mother is palpable.icon_confused.gif
    He doesn't always put out when I want him to, lol.

    But:

    He's so thoughtful,
    And intelligent,
    And beautiful (inside and out).
    We share the same goals and dreams.
    We're both writers.
    He would stand up for me no matter what,
    And protect me to the death.
    We're better together that we are when we're apart.

    I could go on and on, but the point is, I love this man dearly, despite a laundry list of flaws. And he loves me, despite my equally long list of flaws.

    No one is perfect. Lists like these will only limit you. Just look for someone who you click with and go from there. Who gives a shit if he smokes? (Someday, he'll quit. They all do. icon_wink.gif )
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    He would stand up for me no what,
    And protect me to the death.
    We're better together that we are when we're apart.


    Awwww. I talked about just these points with my my bf yesterday. We were both sniffling a little. icon_biggrin.gif

    That's the essence of what makes a relationship worthwhile, IMO.
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
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    JR_RJ saidIf... anything, we're all beautifully flawed to our own unique specifications... I try to accept the flaws, until the flaws reject me first.


    aww icon_cry.gif

    I'm trying to imply that I will overlook superficial beauty for quality of character. Also saying I'll walk away from character traits that are in conflict with my own.
    Why so sad?


    I cried cause it was said beautifully , yes I understood.icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:49 PM GMT

    Can I add one more :

    a.. Cant dance!. icon_wink.gificon_redface.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    bburg34 said1) Votes Romney
    2) Smokes Crack in my Bed
    3) Dies Suddenly on our 1st Date at Starbucks
    4) Shouts Out his Own Name During Sex
    5) Uses Garlic as Aftershave


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    Oct 15, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThese threads make me so glad I already have a boyfriend.

    Let's see:

    My bf drinks more than I would like him to.
    I'm ALWAYS cleaning up after his messes.
    His resentment toward his mother is palpable.icon_confused.gif
    He doesn't always put out when I want him to, lol.

    But:

    He's so thoughtful,
    And intelligent,
    And beautiful (inside and out).
    We share the same goals and dreams.
    We're both writers.
    He would stand up for me no what,
    And protect me to the death.
    We're better together that we are when we're apart.

    I could go on and on, but the point is, I love this man dearly, despite a laundry list of flaws. And he loves me, despite my equally long list of flaws.

    No one is perfect. Lists like these will only limit you. Just look for someone who you click with and go from there. Who gives a shit if he smokes? (Someday, he'll quit. They all do. icon_wink.gif )


    YES!!! THIS ^^^^ We all have flaws.
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    1.racist

    2.smoke(u can but not in my house)

    3.fem(not hateing just not my cup of tea)
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
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    Global_Citizen saidEven an attractive guy can turn me off when he...

    ...gets a restraining order.


    ROTFL That would definitely turn off anyone.icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    is a negative, angry person who treats others badly
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    Oct 15, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    If he is really religious, ugh
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    1. Tells me he likes to be punched and slapped in the face
    2. Goes to AA meetings 4-5 times a week
    3. Listens only to 80s new wave music still
    4. Likes DIVAs
    5. Says he doesn't kiss