Even an attractive guy can turn me off when he ___________.

  • groundcombat

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    Oct 15, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
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    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    Racism and preference are not exclusive. Clearly the KKK "prefers" white people. Now that's probably a poor example to use because the KKK is easily associated with racism because of their tenants of hate and supremacy as well. Those, however, aren't necessary to racism. Racism is simply discrimination (unequal treatment) based on race. It's that simple. Refusing to entertain the thought of dating/hooking up with someone becuase of their race is unequal treatment based on race. Racist.

    As I mentioned earlier, some people might argue it's fine to be racist in this context but it doesn't change the fact that it's racist. And yes, refusing to entertain the idea of being with a woman is also sexist. I just think science supports sexism in this application because there's been good evidence to suggest that sexual orientation is innate and perhaps even unchangeable. There's no such evidence suggesting racial preference is innate but rather that it is built upon societal influences, past experiences, stereotypes, etc. To me, acting in an exclusory manner based on such factors is shallow, closed-minded, and immature. Note the emphasis on the "in an exclusory manner" as I'm not suggesting that these factors don't shape my tastes and attractions. I'm just saying I won't rule a race out because of those factors.
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    1. Being negative
    2. No ambition
    3. Insecure
    4. Physically Unattractive icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    Nieve
    Stupid
    Arrogant
    Stinky breath
    Acting like he knows when he really doesnt
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:25 PM GMT

    1. Won't even try to fit in my trunk willingly (no ambition)

    2. Smokes
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:28 PM GMT
    Has a girlfriend/is straight
    Has a boyfriend/is unavailable
    Has a tramp stamp
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    1. Brings home a hooker who doesn't speak no good English.

    2. Shoots the guy just because he doesn't hand over the money fast enough.

    3. Can't dance like they did in the 60's

    4. Speaks French with an Arabic accent.
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    1.) is way too into their physical appearance

    2.) Lacks confidence

    3.) Over confident

    lol, yes I know... hypocritical...
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidHas a girlfriend/is straight
    Has a boyfriend/is unavailable
    Has a tramp stamp


    Haha. Love the misdirection here.
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    FLAKES OUT.
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    Oct 15, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
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    Global_Citizen saidEven an attractive guy can turn me off when he...

    ...gets a restraining order.


    lolz...ill vomit on the spot! definitely!
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    ... smokes cigarettes, cigars or a pipe.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    Hates rain cause it makes him sad!

    But seriously, can't control his own emotions or feelings, but insist on controlling mine. Never going to happen.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidEven an attractive guy can turn me off when he ___________.
    Posts a thread about what turns him off.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    89bkbred said
    charlitos said
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    What I was trying to convey in my message for me, if a man is unwilling to date or have sex with another guy because he find's that man to be unattractive as a result of his race. It is offensive and a turn off for me.
    Sure, for some of us we may find one race more attractive than the other. But to be unwilling to date someone of a specific race, there is something really weird about that for me.
    Sure if he was a jerk fine, but because he's white or hispanic?

    I went on a date with an African-American guy who admitted to me that he was not attracted and nor would he ever date someone who was Caucasian or Asian. I was appalled. And did not see that guy ever again.


    I understood what you said or meant. Trust me I know where you're coming from. Did you analyze my answer? You have to think very carefully about what I just tried to explain, so that you can understand why I think this particular cause of "turn off" shows lack of understanding on your part and passes a quick judgment similar to the one straight people pass when they think of same-sex attraction.

    Im not attracted to certain races myself. I realized since I was really young when trying to jerk off to porn, if the guy was from race X I could not get a hard on. There are certain things we can do better when it comes to our personalities and the way we treat others. But when it comes to sexual attraction there is absolutely nothing one can do to change what they are wired to respond to sexually. But maybe you are right, I should just force myself to date someone who can't turn me on, and develop a relationship with no sexual attraction. There is a chance I will like this guy's personality right? That won't be enough to make me want to fuck him but at least we can live comfortable with each others's company. Ironically this is exactly what anti-gay groups expect gay men to do in respect to women.

    It is hard to accept the fact that someone does not find you sexually attractive. That is why it is always better to avoid telling the world you don't like X or Y based on race, height, weight etc. What you are sexually attracted to does not have to be written on ur forehead. It is what it is. But you can't change that, and if a date shares his preferences with you, that shouldn't be cause of a turn off, in the end you're trying to get to know each other.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
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    Global_Citizen saidEven an attractive guy can turn me off when he ___________.
    Posts a thread about what turns him off.
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    Oct 15, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    smokes
    douche
    stupid or a idiot or is it ignorant
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    ....picks his nose while driving and eats it. That particular date ended at the next stop sign. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 15, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    ....picks his nose while driving and eats it. That particular date ended at the next stop sign. icon_lol.gif
    What if he waited till he was at the stop sign to eat it?
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    Oct 15, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
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    meninlove said

    ....picks his nose while driving and eats it. That particular date ended at the next stop sign. icon_lol.gif
    What if he waited till he was at the stop sign to eat it?



    There would have still been time to bail, lol.

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    Oct 15, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    meninlove said
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    meninlove said

    ....picks his nose while driving and eats it. That particular date ended at the next stop sign. icon_lol.gif
    What if he waited till he was at the stop sign to eat it?



    There would have still been time to bail, lol.

    If that ever happens again, pretend to be mad at him for not sharing it.
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    Oct 15, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidHe doesn't have at least four STI's.


    You just made my toes curl up in a rictus of horror. icon_lol.gif


    "Even an attractive guy can turn me off when he ___________."

    .....thinks it's cute to splish splash his dick in the toilet bowl while sitting on it.

    My response? "Oh gosh, look at the time. See ya."

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    Oct 15, 2012 10:12 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    89bkbred said
    charlitos said
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    What I was trying to convey in my message for me, if a man is unwilling to date or have sex with another guy because he find's that man to be unattractive as a result of his race. It is offensive and a turn off for me.
    Sure, for some of us we may find one race more attractive than the other. But to be unwilling to date someone of a specific race, there is something really weird about that for me.
    Sure if he was a jerk fine, but because he's white or hispanic?

    I went on a date with an African-American guy who admitted to me that he was not attracted and nor would he ever date someone who was Caucasian or Asian. I was appalled. And did not see that guy ever again.


    I understood what you said or meant. Trust me I know where you're coming from. Did you analyze my answer? You have to think very carefully about what I just tried to explain, so that you can understand why I think this particular cause of "turn off" shows lack of understanding on your part and passes a quick judgment similar to the one straight people pass when they think of same-sex attraction.

    Im not attracted to certain races myself. I realized since I was really young when trying to jerk off to porn, if the guy was from race X I could not get a hard on. There are certain things we can do better when it comes to our personalities and the way we treat others. But when it comes to sexual attraction there is absolutely nothing one can do to change what they are wired to respond to sexually. But maybe you are right, I should just force myself to date someone who can't turn me on, and develop a relationship with no sexual attraction. There is a chance I will like this guy's personality right? That won't be enough to make me want to fuck him but at least we can live comfortable with each others's company. Ironically this is exactly what anti-gay groups expect gay men to do in respect to women.

    It is hard to accept the fact that someone does not find you sexually attractive. That is why it is always better to avoid telling the world you don't like X or Y based on race, height, weight etc. What you are sexually attracted to does not have to be written on ur forehead. It is what it is. But you can't change that, and if a date shares his preferences with you, that shouldn't be cause of a turn off, in the end you're trying to get to know each other.


    Well sexuality and preference seems to be very complex. I respect your opinion and I'm trying to understand it. But at the moment I don't understand it. Perhaps further down the line. I think we can respectfully agree to disagree.
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    Oct 15, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    Confuses you for some guy named Maubs, and won't date you cause you're not. Then insists on you in the head to find out!
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    Oct 15, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    1) talks like a girl
    2) dances like a peacock
    3) wheres bikini type underwear ugh
    4) stupid tattoos
    5) is super hairy
    6) gossips


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    Oct 16, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    groundcombat said
    charlitos said
    SpikeyAidan said
    89bkbred said1. Arrogant

    2. Judgmental

    3. is only attracted to a specific race but will say I'm not racist it's just a preference...


    +1


    There's nothing wrong with being attracted to a specific race. You have no control on what you like or desire. Would you say straight or gay guys are dicks because they are attracted to a specific gender?

    Now I'm aware this guy also has to say "I'm not racist is just a preference" so that it can qualify as a turn off. But is this the answer to a pre-judgment? If I say I'm only attracted to white guys with dark hair and black eyes, to which someone says: dude ure racist. I should be allowed to say "I'm not racist, it's just a preference. The problem here is not the person with the preference but the one passing an ignorant judgement on preference. Calling someone racist over race attraction is like calling a gay guy feminist over gender attraction, it is simply stupid.


    Racism and preference are not exclusive. Clearly the KKK "prefers" white people. Now that's probably a poor example to use because the KKK is easily associated with racism because of their tenants of hate and supremacy as well. Those, however, aren't necessary to racism. Racism is simply discrimination (unequal treatment) based on race. It's that simple. Refusing to entertain the thought of dating/hooking up with someone becuase of their race is unequal treatment based on race. Racist.

    As I mentioned earlier, some people might argue it's fine to be racist in this context but it doesn't change the fact that it's racist. And yes, refusing to entertain the idea of being with a woman is also sexist. I just think science supports sexism in this application because there's been good evidence to suggest that sexual orientation is innate and perhaps even unchangeable. There's no such evidence suggesting racial preference is innate but rather that it is built upon societal influences, past experiences, stereotypes, etc. To me, acting in an exclusory manner based on such factors is shallow, closed-minded, and immature. Note the emphasis on the "in an exclusory manner" as I'm not suggesting that these factors don't shape my tastes and attractions. I'm just saying I won't rule a race out because of those factors.


    Judging someone based on the assumption that the cause of his sexual preference is a social factor rather than a true preference is just wrong. Yes there are people out there who wouldn't date someone based on racial stereotypes but the appropriate response is not to accommodate everyone with a racial sexual preference under a stereotype and judge them as such. You wouldn't be any better. Like I said, I'm not sexually attracted to certain races, there's no social factor to it, I just can't get a hard on just like I can't get a hard on with a woman. Calling me racist for having a racial attraction and sexist for having a gender attraction is not only inaccurate but also misleading, since i have not in any way implied superiority between the genders or races in question. It is 100% sexual attraction and nothing else.