Are you out at work?

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    Nov 06, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    I am out to a handful of associates at work... But not to my directs.
  • NJVetteGuy77

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    Nov 06, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    Yes, 35, and I work at a bank.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    Totally OUT... always been and I'm (gasp!) 46 now. Small high-tech retail store... No issues. I eventually found out numerous times that many co-workers were surprised to find that I was gay(!!) - I just never think about it much. But I don't like most pop music, fashion or celebrity gossip. I guess that makes me 'butch' to most people... icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    Nope. One coworker who became a close friend knows but that is about it. My workplace is a bit homophobic and I am working in Africa most of the time so it isn't a good idea.
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    Yep! Out at every job I've ever had. Well at least with coworkers and supervisors. Right now I bartend, and I'll flirt with the middle-aged women for better tips. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    Out for over 10 years; guess, when I felt to shity about not being able to bitch about or praise my man, both in Heath Care; hells' yes I flaunt it.

    Got a little rough when after moving, I took a job at a small town convenient store, but I did get a kick out of the number of frequent customers, who mistook male coworkers asking: "Are you the gay guy?"
    Pretty proud at some of there responses ass well.
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    Nov 08, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    Having been fired once after my news came out about my sexuality, I'm only out to close friends in work situations. Once bitten - twice shy.
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    Nov 08, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    Fuck yes, i'm out at work and can't imagine it otherwise. Everyone around me loves the fact that I'm queer and it make for a much more fun and safe environment.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 08, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    Yes. Have worked for the same business for over 35 years. It is a small, family owned business but has about a dozen or so employees. I've worn just about every 'hat' in it at one time or another and am currently the Graphics Manager. Although the owners are straight with children who are now part of the business, many of the employees over the years have been gay and lesbian. Interestingly, several LTR's and marriages have evolved out of it, too.
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    Nov 08, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    SourceFour said100% out. I work in education & event management. My husband and I set the "good example" for our community, in a very conservative area of a very conservative state.


    I love it that you're out in a conservative area, but I sure as hell don't want to set a good example! I'm not up to being a role model, but I wouldn't mind a role with a model.


    Thanks! It's a chore, believe me. Luckily, we're only a couple of hours away from two major population centers. We just go there to get our freak on.
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    Nov 08, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidIf you are, how old are you and what kind of work do you do?


    I am not. I work in MIS/IT for healthcare - emphasis on short/long term rehab. We have other employees, now and past, who have been openly gay. I choose not to be.

    The company I work for has a strong Christian affiliation which does make things a bit challenging at times. I would rather not deal with the politics and religion and just do my job. I am close with my coworkers and we laugh and joke etc., but we tend to keep the majority of our personal lives separate from the business side. A dinner or lunch every now and then or drinks on a Wednesday night, but I am not best friends with my coworkers (particularly because I am a bit younger and less devout than most of my coworkers). The majority of their lives involve going to church and, when not going to church, going to church sponsored functions.

    Most of the conversations I have with coworkers tend to focus on the things we do have in common. I mention I saw I movie last night, but leave off the part where I made out with a guy after. It's worked for the past 5 years, so no plans to rock the boat. Plus, I will be leaving the company within the next two years so...
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    Nov 08, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    Yep, I'm a server.
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    Nov 08, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    Yup, solutions architect and strategy in the information management space
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    Aug 19, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    no, not out to anyone, 22yo, job is marketing manager for a food manufacturing company
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    Yep! I'm in healthcare and I work with a bunch of women. They love getting a relationship perspective from a gay guy. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    Out at work, but only because it came up with the few people I've made friends with and then spread as a sort of "interest" then died down. I'm a finance guy in an academic setting, and I've been here since the beginning of November. It's no big deal whatsoever. Whatever interest or notoriety I got from it at the beginning has waned. Now I'm just another hamster in the farm. icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:10 AM GMT
    I was til I relocated. People seemed fine with it and it was never really broughtup except for some joking around between my coworkers and I. I did have a long conversation with one of them as his son was gay and he never had the opportunity to talk to someone about it. He seemed to appreciate the insight.
  • Whipmagic

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    Aug 20, 2013 1:15 AM GMT
    Yes, but I don't wear it on my sleeve. I work in academia.
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:20 AM GMT
    yup, been out at every place I have worked at. Im a Senior Software Developer. Generally people find out in the following order:

    1 - The HR girl asks me about my marital status or someone to add on my benefits. I tell her Im common law with my boyfriend and blah blah blah. Now she knows Im gay and she will probably tell a few other girls.

    2 - Buddies at work start talking about their girlfriends and I start talking about my boyfriend/fiance. Thats how they find out Im gay and they look a bit surprised but they keep going with the conversation. I ended up making good friends at work and we make fun of each other because why not.

    3 - I bring my fiance to my first work party and then I introduce him to everyone as my fiance. At this point every single person knows Im gay and quite a few of them ask my fiance for business cards(he is a contractor).


    I have been lucky to live in a way that I have never felt discriminated by anyone, my family supports me my fiance's family support us as well, we all get along and it does not feel like it really is a topic of conversation. Unfortunately I know not everyone has had it that easy as a gay guy...and that sucks

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    Aug 20, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    Not really, but people probably know. I easily could be at my job, nobody would care, but I don't feel like making an announcement. If someone asked I would tell them.
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    For those that haven't already suspected it - Yes
    As for the ones that treat me weird and talk behind my back because they don't know - No. Fuck them. Stay clueless.

    I don't hide it. I'm pretty masculine but my goofiness gives it away I think. Especially if I get really comfortable around someone. I like to see people smile and know that everyone is comfortable and having a good time. So I can relate to both genders mentally and blend well.
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    dc0776 saidNot really, but people probably know. I easily could be at my job, nobody would care, but I don't feel like making an announcement. If someone asked I would tell them.


    I feel the same way. I'm a private person and don't like people making a big deal over me. If someone asks then yes I will tell them -- If I haven't told a friend or two already. But you wouldn't announce that you had cancer.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Aug 20, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    no i am not. i am not friends with anyone at my job so need to share my sexual history with them
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:43 PM GMT
    No. I'm an intern in a corporate NYC office for the second consecutive summer and no one knows. It hasn't come up, so I haven't talked about it. I have nothing to hide, but I do like that no one in my office knows about my personal life. Unless they're on RJ, that is. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 20, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    yes.