I know I'm not Brad Pitt, but I don't understand why every guy ignores me on grindr

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    Nov 01, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    You know, being ignored on Grindr could be worn as a badge of honor.
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    Nov 01, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    Your best photo is the one where you're smiling. You're an attractive guy, don't be afraid to smile more, it does you well!
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    Nov 01, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    I wouldn't ignore you. Im a latinophile, I cannot help it. But grindr is primarily a hookup app, so expect to find a lot of superficial guys.

    Building confidence is key. You can practice on me if you like... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    Larkin saidWait, so you contact them then send them a picture?

    I can't say I've ever had the patience to talk to someone who didn't already have a pic up. I ignore all of them.


    Sometimes they message me first, which is the weird part.

    But yeah, sometimes I do have a picture up and they still ignore me. But lately I've just left it dark and then I send pictures.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidI thought grindr was not about face pics at all anyway. Get real, show your butt.

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    Nov 01, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    No one ever talks to me either...but whatever, I just check it out to kill some time.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    This happens to the best of us... even the hottest guys get ignored... many reasons why, but none of them worth worrying over. I just talk to who is worth talking to, and forget the rest... wait, I deleted my Grindr. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the nice comments guys.

    I put up a picture of myself shirtless at the pool lol and now I'm getting a bunch of messages (which is surprising since I'm really skinny). Oh well...
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:16 PM GMT
    ive tested guys in a way when i put a shirtless pic i got bunch of messages with a a shirt i got like none, so its all just people into body i guess
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    Take a photo of yourself (and maybe a friend with you) making a funny face and then throw some kind of instagram type effect on it and BAM!! 20 messages.
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    Montague saidTake a photo of yourself (and maybe a friend with you) making a funny face and then throw some kind of instagram type effect on it and BAM!! 20 messages.

    Ha! You can try that...(!) - but I tend to patently ignore those (not on Grindr though).

    To the OP: there's other/better apps out there. Don't over-read into what you're getting or not. It happens to EVERYONE. Even me. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    Montague saidTake a photo of yourself (and maybe a friend with you) making a funny face and then throw some kind of instagram type effect on it and BAM!! 20 messages.


    instagram, man, you hit the nail on the head
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    WAT!!! ignore yoU!? you are so charming!

    hmm well listen to those wise ones here trust their words and have patience .
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    i dont have a grindr for one simple reason. My ex has one and anything his gross, whore self does, i do not wanna partake in.
    You are very attractive and if u messaged me i would so reply icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    I can totally agree with others that you are good looking guy. I am sure there would be many who would like to date you (I am in a waiting list ;) ) From my point of view it is better that those guys ignore you on grindr. At least you do not end up in some dushbags bed who would dump you after one night stand. unless you seek for that icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    I figured how grinder works.. Do an experiment and try different pics around your area Let it sit for a whle and write down the type of guys you get.. try fat, older, younger, musclular, black asian.. etc.. that will give you an idea.

    this guy told me he doesnt talk to people he waiting for guys to hit hi cos he is hot!!! terrible
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    To OP:
    Seriously, at least in my opinion, you are not ugly in the slightest so it might not be your look that they are ignoring.
    I don't know much about grindr but (and I mean this in the most complimentative way ever) in the pictures that you posted especially the smiling one you come across like a really nice and decent guy, enough that people may automatically view you as ltr/boyfriend material and not so much hook up kind of guy.

    Again not that I'm saying that as a negative because it's really not at all, but I'm just trying to think of some kind of a reason why.
    Anyway, don't feel so down about it. As you can see, there are alot of people here who posted saying that they wouldn't have ignored you so that's definitely a plus in some way.

    At least with this kind of a start, you know that it can only go up from here.
    Wish you all the best mate.
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    get rid of the smiling pic and take off your shirt
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    McQueen saidget rid of the smiling pic and take off your shirt


    + yes listen to him he knows, by far the 2 pictures you are so kissable! get rid of that smile cause I just saw and Im likeicon_eek.gif want to run away! icon_eek.gif..Nah joking, is not that smile I guess is that orangeicon_confused.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    Seems like a bunch of people on this site wouldn't ignore u so why don't you just try Realjock instead of Grindr?

    Btw, I met my bf on Grindr 2 years ago. I'm Latino so race ain't the issue, Grindr worked for me just fine when I used it.
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    starboard5 saidYou know, being ignored on Grindr could be worn as a badge of honor.


    Yeah it is, careful with that app, lots of wackos, drug addicts, etc, and often they aren't what they look like in their photos,

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    Nov 01, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
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    McQueen saidget rid of the smiling pic and take off your shirt

    + yes listen to him he knows, by far the 2 pictures you are so kissable! get rid of that smile cause I just saw and Im likeicon_eek.gif want to run away! icon_eek.gif..Nah joking, is not that smile I guess is that orangeicon_confused.gif


    Really? I liked the smiling one lol.
    You know there are some people (aka me) who don't have a nice 'smiling' face so maybe it's just the envy talking lol.
    Fair enough though maybe the orange was a tad bit strong, but I mean it's just a casual shirt I didn't think clothes would matter that much.
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    Nov 01, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    postyork saidEver had a good friend look at your grindr pictures? When I did, my friend said none of them were conveying how I looked very well. he took a quick, very natural picture of me and my responses soared. Sometimes we don't see ourselves in pictures they way they actually look!

    Good advice. On and app like that people make decisions if they want to communicate with you based on a pic or two. You want them to be the ones that make you look good. Not too good as then they will look fake and draw suspicion.

    Of the 3 pics you posted I like the first two. Yes you are smiling in the 3rd one but you look nicer in the first two.

    If you are messaging a shirtless hottie, then make sure you have a shirtless sexy pic to send in return. If he has a shirtless and sexy pic and you send him regular pix it wont be what he expected and unlikely will be interested.

    Also don't get upset that you are getting ignored. Look at it this way, if the hot guys always got who they wanted all the time, they wouldn't be regularly online, would they?
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    You have a bunch of private pictures. If you went to a gay pool, would you cover up with a blanket? Of course, not. Get a clue here.

    You're too lazy to complete your profile. All those actions (or lack thereof ) are very telling about you without a conversation, nor pictures.

    You like to portray yourself as a victim, but, make not even a minimal effort in your presentation.

    Folks are attracted in various ways: looks, kindness, fun, common interests.

    You're done a HORRIBLE job of selling yourself.

    If you want to attract hot guys, you yourself need to be hot. Most hot guys are not attracted to fat guys, or faceless, guys, etc., but, of course, there are exceptions.

    E.g. if someone smokes, I have nothing to do with them. Period. It's a deal stopper.

    E.g. I pre-block pictureless. It could be they are lazy, paranoid, closet cases, cheating, low esteem, but, it's a huge red flag for underlying issues that I choose not to deal with.

    To meet real people, you need to go in The Real World with real faces, a first and last name, a handshake, and a smile.

    Quit whining, and get to work.
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    I also get ignored by everyone - glad to hear that I am not the only one -