I know I'm not Brad Pitt, but I don't understand why every guy ignores me on grindr

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    Nov 01, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    I used to tell myself it was defective and I wasn't getting my messages.


    Turns out it was defective and I wasn't getting messages.



    ...Thank god. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    I hope the app crashes and burns because it is garbage. try the other ones.

    Scruff, jack3d, growlr, mister are all better. Grindr eats messages, is not accurate in the GPS dept and the moderators will wipe your "about section" if they do not like one word.

    they are GARBAGE.
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    Everybody ignores me on Real Jock. icon_mad.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    Sorry, I've got no explanation for you. You look fine to me.
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    Phoenyx saidI wouldn't ignore you. Im a latinophile, I cannot help it. But grindr is primarily a hookup app, so expect to find a lot of superficial guys.

    Building confidence is key. You can practice on me if you like... icon_biggrin.gif


    Latinophile! That makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    Grindr etiquette 101:

    . Put up a picture of yourself showing your face, prefer smiling, best if you're shirtless showing your abs, pec, arms and FACE.

    . Put down on your profile what you're looking for, friends, dates, fwb, tell them to put up a face, age-range you prefer

    . Don't put down race preference

    Reasons to ignore or block guys (for me anyway)

    . Headless, no pic or just ass, pec pictures

    . *Hi, wassup or entertain me* or * do you wanna come over and fuck* first message

    . *Troll/Weirdo guys who hit on me - who obviously out of their league and didn't read my profile

    . I don't send picture to them, they have to send to me in order to even get a reply.

    . I personally like Latino guys, lots of them here in L.A., if they don't like you bc of race, move on, it's not you, it's them *syndrome.

    OP, I think you're cute, maybe a little young for me though, you should never feel less than just because of a dating app like this. Keep trying, there are other guys out there who like you for you.


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    Nov 01, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    BRoss said
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    McQueen saidget rid of the smiling pic and take off your shirt

    + yes listen to him he knows, by far the 2 pictures you are so kissable! get rid of that smile cause I just saw and Im likeicon_eek.gif want to run away! icon_eek.gif..Nah joking, is not that smile I guess is that orangeicon_confused.gif


    Really? I liked the smiling one lol.
    You know there are some people (aka me) who don't have a nice 'smiling' face so maybe it's just the envy talking lol.
    Fair enough though maybe the orange was a tad bit strong, but I mean it's just a casual shirt I didn't think clothes would matter that much.


    I don't think everyone is as (Aka) like you with a "don't have a nice 'smiling' face " everyone's smile is just as priceless and beautiful. Then again in this world we tend to perceive things by first impression as is, so as the say Never judge a book by its cover will never be applied in the commercial world if your putting yourself on a shelf (alike as he's using grindr), for his approach, subject to the OP how is he, how does it take him if we can help out on certain angle why not.icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    You're look absolutely fine to me. I do however read the what profiles have to say.

    If they say looking for masculine I just move on because in my mind, they are simply looking for other jocks.

    Also I get ignored a lot even if I do make the initiation. Now I just use grindr just for amusement.
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    Nov 01, 2012 7:42 PM GMT
    because you are more handsome than Brad Pitt maybe ? icon_confused.gif
    and ohhh please shut up , you look very fine icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Beeftastic

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    Nov 01, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    I'd grind ya. Just saying icon_smile.gif I think it's true that guys like very direct questions and answers on Grindr. If you aren't getting their dick hard, they won't respond.
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
    I wouldn't base my self-esteem on an app called Grindr.
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    Nov 01, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    you answered your own question. Because you're not Brad Pitt! all you have to do is become him and date Angelina Jolie and no one will ignore you ever again!
  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 01, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Like everyone else said, I think you look just fine so don't beat yourself up over this.

    When I had Grindr, I had the same experience (I'm sure people who see this comment aren't surprised lol). I only had like one person where I had a brief chat with (we were getting to know each other but he stopped chatting so I guess he lost interest fairly quickly). But anyway, I get how frustrating it can be where it seems like almost every guy you think is attractive ignores you constantly but there is really 1-3 options you can really do... One, keep trying. 2, show nude pictures. Or 3, just delete the app. I ended up deleting it since I felt I just didn't need it since I kept feeling discouraged by the ignoring and ever since then, I have felt a bit more confidence in myself.

    But I do think you have a lead since you have the rough, scruff look lots of men desire. icon_smile.gif And since you say you have no problem offline, that gives you another edge.

    I hope you feel better dude and seriously, like the others said, you look fine so don't sweat it. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    Internet hook-up sites are like clothing catalogs. People's expectations become highly unrealalistic. Fantastic actually.
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    being ignored has happened to me in here....
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    I say you should try guyspy
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:31 PM GMT
    JustTheTip saidI hope the app crashes and burns because it is garbage. try the other ones.

    Scruff, jack3d, growlr, mister are all better. Grindr eats messages, is not accurate in the GPS dept and the moderators will wipe your "about section" if they do not like one word.

    they are GARBAGE.
    Scruff sucks unless you pay. Jack'd is probably the best.

    But I get ignored like the OP on all of them so, eh whatever.icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    It's a sad commentary on the average iPhone user. I've used android apps and had better experiences even for just meeting people for friendship.
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    Nov 01, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    kevmoran saidI found out that even though I haven't used Grindr since like last Christmas and it's not even on my new phone (only the old one I lost months ago) I still show up on Grindr pages. Maybe that's the issue, because I had pages and pages of messages from guys once I logged on.


    I'd love to have your problem of pages and pages of messages:icon_cry.gif
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    FlexandJack saidI wouldn't base my self-esteem on an app called Grindr.

    +1
    Solution: Use Brad's photos.
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    Funny thing is you probably ignore people too
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    It must be the pics you are using because you are a cute. It is Grindr though, you better be showing some stuff if you want to go anywhere.
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    You look fine dude, please don't take Grindr personally. Seriously.
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    josh995 saidFunny thing is you probably ignore people too


    I ignore 99% of people that contact me. It's a game, learn how to play it.
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    Nov 01, 2012 10:45 PM GMT
    maybe you are being ignored because you are being an attention whore who keeps fishing for compliments....


    ok bye xxxicon_twisted.gif