I know I'm not Brad Pitt, but I don't understand why every guy ignores me on grindr

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    Nov 01, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Okay, so Grindr isn't for making friends. Also, you shouldn't let something like Grindr bring down your self esteem. I will say that you look best in your second picture.


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    Nov 01, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    Sample about 100 listings on grindr. Make a quick note of what strikes you as you see the listing. Modify your posting accordingly.

    Grindr is location based, right? Try moving around to some different locations.

    And don't put too much into it and get disappointed. It is definitely a surface thing.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    dexterboi1231 saidLike I really don't get it. It's not like any of these people are Brad Pitt either. I know that people have different tastes, but I feel that I'm at least good looking enough so that NOT EVERY SINGLE PERSON that I find attractive ignores me.

    People will be like..."I'm looking for friends, can I see a pic?"
    I send a pic and I never hear from them again. WTF kind of friends are you looking for then? If you want more than friends or a sex buddy, be honest.

    I really don't get how to meet guys and this grindr thing is hurting my self esteem.

    I'm from Miami and there are very good looking guys there who don't ignore me..I swear it only happens up here in Gainesville. I don't wanna bring race into it, but most of the guys here are white, and like..maybe they come from places where there aren't that many hispanics and they're not used to it? Because white guys don't ignore me in South Florida lol


    You look great so don't even give it another thought. I can understand your frustration because I have the same experience, the guys i'm attracted to don't respond to me. The ones that respond to me I'm not attracted to generally. It's an age old problem and I think alot more common than you think. There was a recent post on RJ asking guys when they last had sex and I was shocked at some of the responses. many said months and years
    and these are hot, attractive guys.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    I would lose the dorky 1950s glasses in the smiling pic.
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    Nov 01, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    Vaughn saidInternet hook-up sites are like clothing catalogs. People's expectations become highly unrealalistic. Fantastic actually.


    Nailed it.
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    DR2K saidWhen they say pics they mean dick.


    OMG this answers so many questions for me haha. why not say it like it is?
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    Nov 02, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    They are probably stuck up assholes like a lot of guys are. You are totally hot and im sure worth the time.
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    My bitching was based on weeks of experiencing this lol. People on here bitched at me because I didn't respond to their messages within the hour. Come on now..
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:25 AM GMT
    Real world = shallow
    Gay world = super shallow
    Grindr = Be white or go home
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    nevz saidReal world = shallow
    Gay world = super shallow
    Grindr = Be white or go home


    This is not true. I am not white and I get messaged quite often. icon_redface.gif too much sometimes icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    I'm old and ugly, and I get hit on in Grindr. Maybe it's your attitude?
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    Nov 02, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidI'm old and ugly, and I get hit on in Grindr. Maybe it's your attitude?


    In the gay world you are only old and ugly in your 30's....you have a rebirth in your 40's LOL
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    My guess is most guys out there aren't looking for anything but "fun." meaning if you are more emotionally available than you are physically, you're not going to get much traffic. My advise is decide what type of relationship you're interested in having and go to where that sort of relationship can develop.
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Writrboi said
    DR2K saidWhen they say pics they mean dick.


    OMG this answers so many questions for me haha. why not say it like it is?


    Some guys like the foreplay.
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    :sock: same thing happens to me
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    Jrbr said:sock: same thing happens to me



    Alright, I retract what I said, grindr is just broke.
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    Nov 02, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    Dude, you have nothing to worry about. You're cute and sexy - at least from your pics. I doubt it's the Hispanic card, b/c you look ambiguously caucasian. Don't doubt yourself, man. So many guys would date you!
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    Nov 02, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    When I feel down I go on grindr, upload a topless pic, get the compliments and then ignore everyone, that's it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 02, 2012 6:16 AM GMT
    nevz saidReal world = shallow
    Gay world = super shallow
    Grindr = Be white or go home


    Oh please, that couldn't be further from the truth, everyone knows that some and/or a huge amount of gay white men are into *Ethnic/Foreign men* well the ones in California and New York anyway. icon_evil.gif Why else would they have all-Latin, Black or Asian nights at some big cities? For Ethnic men and white men to *get their grooves on. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 02, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    Grindr is not the best place to find self worth~
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    Nov 02, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    nevz saidReal world = shallow
    Gay world = super shallow
    Grindr = Be white or go home


    There's a hint of truth to this.. the first two statements at least. Not the last one, though. There's also an 'exhaustion' factor with Grindr when you use it too much. When I lived back in Baltimore, I had used Grindr so much that after a while there wasn't anyone to meet nearby.. lol! I refuse to pay for the app, too. Many friends simply block anyone nearby that fails to catch their interest to get to new prospects.

    I uninstalled Grindr and other apps sometime ago after getting tired of the repeating dissapointing pattern of the apps. Just wasn't meeting anyone of quality. Maybe I'll give them another chance again.
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    Nov 02, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    Personally your approach on Grindr may be all wrong.

    For one, remember, it is Grindr. Dont take it too seriously, not a whole lot of guys do.

    Second, I find that when I put a pic face up I dont get a lot of responses. When I put a shirtless pic up, well...now thats different. It is for men to network, but we tend to get a little randy about it, so remember that.

    Last, my best Grindr advice is to try to find someone who seems nice and interesting and set a drink date with them. Attraction is 50% looks 50% attitude. They can see the looks on Grindr, but the attitude needs to be in person. Ive met a lot of people who told me that they wouldnt hook up with me on Grindr, but by meeting in person they absolutely changed their mind.

    So yea...take it with a grain of salt and use it sparingly. Best... advice...ever.
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    Nov 02, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    I feel bad cuz I ignore tons of almost everybody on grindr.
    Lol, well I'd answer you.
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    Nov 02, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
    UglyAmerican saidI would lose the dorky 1950s glasses in the smiling pic.


    I feel like the glasses can be a nice accent to your look. They work for you, so don't listen to him.
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    Nov 03, 2012 8:12 AM GMT
    World24 said
    barriehomeboy saidI'm old and ugly, and I get hit on in Grindr. Maybe it's your attitude?


    In the gay world you are only old and ugly in your 30's....you have a rebirth in your 40's LOL




    Finally...something to look forward to!!