I know I'm not Brad Pitt, but I don't understand why every guy ignores me on grindr

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    Nov 03, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    you're so cute , man

    dont get mad by those douch bags who ignores you
    you know
    someday they will be sorry for what they say
    because they have lost a great case

    they speak from body-parts and you speak from your heart and mind
    this is the diffrence

    and dont feel like you're not good-enough
    becuase you are and you deserve 10x better than those ass-holes

    you were born to be brave baby ! :X:X:X:*:* <3
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    Nov 03, 2012 9:27 AM GMT
    ^

    He was born to be brave ... baby? Non sequitur much? Are you channeling Gaga? What does bravery have to do with finding cock on Grindr? Grow up.

    Grindr is all about allowing body parts to do the speaking. Grindr is not marketing integrity; it sets a standard as one of gay society's lowest common denominators. If you want to find a good man, you are not going to find him on Grindr.

    OP doesn't feel that he's good enough for Grindr because he isn't good enough for Grindr. If he were good enough for Grindr, then he'd have a dilated asshole and several antibiotic-resistant STDs by now.
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    Nov 03, 2012 1:24 PM GMT
    credo said^

    He was born to be brave ... baby? Non sequitur much? Are you channeling Gaga? What does bravery have to do with finding cock on Grindr? Grow up.

    Grindr is all about allowing body parts to do the speaking. Grindr is not marketing integrity; it sets a standard as one of gay society's lowest common denominators. If you want to find a good man, you are not going to find him on Grindr.

    OP doesn't feel that he's good enough for Grindr because he isn't good enough for Grindr. If he were good enough for Grindr, then he'd have a dilated asshole and several antibiotic-resistant STDs by now.


    A bit harsh, man. Grindr is just gay reality. It's about the surface. Most gay men only initiate contact with others based on what they see skin-deep. Hopefully, most gay men outgrow this phase, though many don't. It's up to each man to realize this in his own journey.
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    Nov 04, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    ohboy saidWhen I feel down I go on grindr, upload a topless pic, get the compliments and then ignore everyone, that's it icon_biggrin.gif


    You're like Sally Field's character in "Soapdish."
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    Nov 04, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    Your very handsome dude.
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    Nov 04, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    dexterboi1231 saidLike I really don't get it. It's not like any of these people are Brad Pitt either. I know that people have different tastes, but I feel that I'm at least good looking enough so that NOT EVERY SINGLE PERSON that I find attractive ignores me.

    People will be like..."I'm looking for friends, can I see a pic?"
    I send a pic and I never hear from them again. WTF kind of friends are you looking for then? If you want more than friends or a sex buddy, be honest.

    I really don't get how to meet guys and this grindr thing is hurting my self esteem.

    I'm from Miami and there are very good looking guys there who don't ignore me..I swear it only happens up here in Gainesville. I don't wanna bring race into it, but most of the guys here are white, and like..maybe they come from places where there aren't that many hispanics and they're not used to it? Because white guys don't ignore me in South Florida lol


    OP
    In the one pic on here that you smile, you are not bad looking at all. icon_smile.gif
    And then that's about it. icon_rolleyes.gif
    The other Debbie Downer pics are awful. And you haven't even taken the time in showing enough interest here on RJ to even fill out your profile.
    Plus you have NO body/physique worth looking at period. (Hey, I KNOW I am not the greatest in the body dept either.) But guy, you need to lift. And eat something...anything ....other than the crappy non-nutritional garbage you are eating now. (it's obvious because you are really skinny, yet your face is kind of fat, and it appears you have a bit of a double chin.) So eat nutritionally and workout. You will look better AND feel better about yourself. (Not saying you need to become some built Adonis...just get in shape.) Because THIS ^^ is not working.

    Tristan
    - and please...all of the bleeding hearts on here that are about to start in on me? Save it. HE put the question out there for honest opinions. I only offer what I hope is taken as the constructive criticism it was meant to be.
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    Nov 04, 2012 11:04 PM GMT
    Grindr in a nutshell: Please be white...white/latino, ddf, hwp. No blacks, not into blacks.

    You're really better off talking to people on here.
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    Nov 05, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    credo said^

    He was born to be brave ... baby? Non sequitur much? Are you channeling Gaga? What does bravery have to do with finding cock on Grindr? Grow up.

    Grindr is all about allowing body parts to do the speaking. Grindr is not marketing integrity; it sets a standard as one of gay society's lowest common denominators. If you want to find a good man, you are not going to find him on Grindr.

    OP doesn't feel that he's good enough for Grindr because he isn't good enough for Grindr. If he were good enough for Grindr, then he'd have a dilated asshole and several antibiotic-resistant STDs by now.


    A bit harsh, man. Grindr is just gay reality. It's about the surface. Most gay men only initiate contact with others based on what they see skin-deep. Hopefully, most gay men outgrow this phase, though many don't. It's up to each man to realize this in his own journey.


    Not harsh at all. If Grindr is gay reality, then we're all fucked. It's merely the worst parts of gay reality. Anyway, most gays watch a ton of porn, and OP's bespectacled pic looks way too ethnic for cocks accustomed to certain kinds of stimulations.

    World24 saidI ignore 99% of people that contact me. It's a game, learn how to play it.

    Mutal attraction = messages. What kind of game are you playing?
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    Nov 05, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    dexterboi1231 saidI've been using different pictures lol.


    http://i.imgur.com/0uoPf.jpg
    http://i.imgur.com/Is6lp.jpg

    ^^ first tried those, but since they didn't help anything I tried to have a smiling pic:

    http://i.imgur.com/FXuIH.jpg

    Again, I'm not trying to say that I'm super good looking and everyone should be begging me to hang out with them, but when EVERY single guy that I find attractive ignores me, it kinda sucks


    OK the sluts on GrindR are obviously blind.
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    Nov 05, 2012 7:07 AM GMT
    eb925guy saidYour best photo is the one where you're smiling. You're an attractive guy, don't be afraid to smile more, it does you well!


    +1

    And the nasty app, it's not for friendship in my opinion, it's configured in a way to encourage speedy meetings, spacial quickies and puts an accent on minimal carnal pictures instead of on true personalities!
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    Nov 05, 2012 7:11 AM GMT
    You're probably better off being ignored by those grindr creeps

    To be honest I only physically met 1 guy from it, seemed ok but turned out to be sketchy in the long run. I'm not saying I still don't 'look' on it, but I wouldn't expect meeting something entirely special on it
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    Nov 06, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
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    dexterboi1231 saidLike I really don't get it. It's not like any of these people are Brad Pitt either. I know that people have different tastes, but I feel that I'm at least good looking enough so that NOT EVERY SINGLE PERSON that I find attractive ignores me.

    People will be like..."I'm looking for friends, can I see a pic?"
    I send a pic and I never hear from them again. WTF kind of friends are you looking for then? If you want more than friends or a sex buddy, be honest.

    I really don't get how to meet guys and this grindr thing is hurting my self esteem.

    I'm from Miami and there are very good looking guys there who don't ignore me..I swear it only happens up here in Gainesville. I don't wanna bring race into it, but most of the guys here are white, and like..maybe they come from places where there aren't that many hispanics and they're not used to it? Because white guys don't ignore me in South Florida lol


    OP
    In the one pic on here that you smile, you are not bad looking at all. icon_smile.gif
    And then that's about it. icon_rolleyes.gif
    The other Debbie Downer pics are awful. And you haven't even taken the time in showing enough interest here on RJ to even fill out your profile.
    Plus you have NO body/physique worth looking at period. (Hey, I KNOW I am not the greatest in the body dept either.) But guy, you need to lift. And eat something...anything ....other than the crappy non-nutritional garbage you are eating now. (it's obvious because you are really skinny, yet your face is kind of fat, and it appears you have a bit of a double chin.) So eat nutritionally and workout. You will look better AND feel better about yourself. (Not saying you need to become some built Adonis...just get in shape.) Because THIS ^^ is not working.

    Tristan
    - and please...all of the bleeding hearts on here that are about to start in on me? Save it. HE put the question out there for honest opinions. I only offer what I hope is taken as the constructive criticism it was meant to be.


    Like I said a little earlier, I put a shirtless picture up and suddenly people started messaging me so I kinda stopped caring lol. I'm happy with my body though so I'll keep my fat face icon_biggrin.gif Thanks for your input though!
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    Nov 06, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
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    ohboy saidWhen I feel down I go on grindr, upload a topless pic, get the compliments and then ignore everyone, that's it icon_biggrin.gif


    You're like Sally Field's character in "Soapdish."

    Guilty as charged. I've gone as far as drive a little out of my way to let the comments pile up. icon_redface.gif

    Though I've since exhausted my options around here so it doesn't work as well anymore.
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    Nov 06, 2012 5:47 AM GMT
    You can't use Grindr as a way of propping your self-esteem. Life on Grindr is very skewed.

    Trust me, you're a good-looking guy.
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    Nov 06, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    vacuumfun said
    UglyAmerican saidI would lose the dorky 1950s glasses in the smiling pic.


    I feel like the glasses can be a nice accent to your look. They work for you, so don't listen to him.


    I agree with Vacuumfun, the glasses aren't dorky and you look good with the smile, too.
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    Nov 06, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
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    vacuumfun said
    UglyAmerican saidI would lose the dorky 1950s glasses in the smiling pic.


    I feel like the glasses can be a nice accent to your look. They work for you, so don't listen to him.


    I agree with Vacuumfun, the glasses aren't dorky and you look good with the smile, too.

    I do agree that the OP is an attractive guy with the glasses BUT....

    I know if a guy can't accept you for who you are then ditch him but the glasses can make you look like a dirty hipster. And I know personally, hipsters in general aren't attractive. I can imagine other guys feel the same.
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    Nov 06, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    I can't see without glasses and these still work fine so I don't wanna spend money if I don't have too haha

    I definitely made wayy too big of a deal of this..grindr really shouldn't matter, although that's a lot easier to say when I actually am getting attention now icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 06, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    Haha...I just had a better look at the glasses. I was expecting the huge thick rimmed ones that hipsters wear when instead they are nearly the exact same pair that I wear when I'm too much of a lazy fuck to put in my contacts. Please disregard everything I just said about glasses. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 09, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Yeah man you're a great looking guy! I wouldn't put so much thought into grindr. Along with the technical difficulties of most people not receiving messages, most of the guys there are stuck up and won't even wait for you to send more pictures. Especially in a college town ..

    I'll say hey a couple of times so that I know they got it. Wait a week, send a shirtless pic and all of the sudden they're responsive.

    And that's why I deleted it haha.
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    Nov 09, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    1) grindr? *spit*

    2) Don't rely on anyone else to validate your level of attractiveness. Learn to be happy with yourself, for yourself. First and foremost. Everything else is secondary!

    Good luck!
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    Nov 12, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Not going to lie..I ignore a majority of the people that message me on Grindr, but mostly because Grindr can get so time consuming. I use it mostly out of boredom. At first I would take time to talk to people and chat and trade pics, but then I realized that you waste so much time talking to people one or two times and then never again. You look cute though, so I would definitely talk to you. Could something about your profile be off-putting?
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    Nov 12, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
    19Chris91 saidMaybe you're just unapproachably attractive.


    THIS

    You're REALLY cute man (:
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    Nov 12, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    Brad Pitt looks like a heroin bum.
    You are handsome.
    Grindr is garbage.
    You're only 21. You still give a shit. LOL. One of the great things about getting older..