Breaking up because of chic fil a, right or wrong?

  • winwin

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    Nov 10, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidI'm sensing dissatisfaction in general from the OP in his relationship and that the chic-fil-a was merely the straw that broke the camel's back. Honestly you'll be fine moving on as long as you admit to yourself that you were just dissatisfied with the relationship and not that the reason you broke up was because of what you told us.


    You are absolutely right. The whole chic thing finally did it for me. I always treated him as a friend but he wanted more and thought that we had a relationship thing going on. After more than a month, I feel that I have led him long enough and the chic thing was the final straw.
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    Nov 10, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    I can see your point winwin. Personally, I think you may both be in the wrong here.

    He has the right to have his own views, and support them however he feels he wants to.
    Even if you won't admit it, I think you want him to change his view for you, (based on the way you described it) something no one should expect of anyone else.

    I know you feel like he called you an idiot, but face it words mean nothing these days. I'll just bring up this "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" This ring a bell?

    I can understand how you feel, but come-on, he just called a group of people idiots. Something everyone does on the news every like 5 minutes.
    My friends used to call be the two "b's" (female dog, and mastered, but with a b instead of an m) as well as the f bomb. I didn't even flinch because it means nothing.

    There is no real "right" or "wrong" thing here, its all about you. Should he have called your "group" an idiot? No. Should you have done something so drastic over such a simple (in my opinion stupid) conversation? No.
  • winwin

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    Nov 10, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidI can see your point winwin. Personally, I think you may both be in the wrong here.

    He has the right to have his own views, and support them however he feels he wants to.
    Even if you won't admit it, I think you want him to change his view for you, (based on the way you described it) something no one should expect of anyone else.

    I know you feel like he called you an idiot, but face it words mean nothing these days. I'll just bring up this "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" This ring a bell?

    I can understand how you feel, but come-on, he just called a group of people idiots. Something everyone does on the news every like 5 minutes.
    My friends used to call be the two "b's" (female dog, and mastered, but with a b instead of an m) as well as the f bomb. I didn't even flinch because it means nothing.

    There is no real "right" or "wrong" thing here, its all about you. Should he have called your "group" an idiot? No. Should you have done something so drastic over such a simple (in my opinion stupid) conversation? No.


    I learned a long time ago that people never change so I never expected him or anyone to change just to accomodate me, that doesn't work. People are people and they have every right to their opinions no matter how ridiculous they maybe icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 10, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    In time you'll realize that Chic Fil A was not the reason you two broke up....
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    Nov 10, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    Myol saidIn time you'll realize that Chic Fil A was not the reason you two broke up....


    To me it is not a big deal, like I said before there could have been a bigger issue than just chic fil a but he takes his religion way too very seriously and I'm not compatible with him. He seems to think we are compatible until last night which I so hope for so he would leave me alone.
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    HA!! You are dating a married man and then have the nerve to lecture him on morals???? Is this a troll thread????
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    Nov 11, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    winwin said Breaking up because of chic fil a, right or wrong?
    The upper echelon of that company has exhibited almost explicitly a death wish upon the entire LGBT population. In politically correct terminology, they have a personal belief that they don't impose on the their clientele or employees, but they'll sure donate money to organizations that share their hateful beliefs.

    Without a blink of an eye, I can tell you for certain that I won't even contemplate dating someone that is willing to give money to people determined to get rid of us.
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    Nov 11, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    Good on you for walking away from that mess.

    Anyway questions you could have asked him (for future reference):

    If you guys grew old together as a couple would he not have come and seen you if you got admitted to hospital?
    If you died before him would he be okay with having to leave the house you lived in together?
    Not to mention a bunch of stuff with pensions etc that straight people are entitled to. Even if he would never admit to being gay in public a private ceremony would still be an option and would have given you the same rights as straight people. If gay marriage was legal in your state and recognised by the federal government.
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    Nov 11, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    You should not break up with a man for wanting a chicken sandwich. That's just silly of you.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
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    winwin said Breaking up because of chic fil a, right or wrong?
    The upper echelon of that company has exhibited almost explicitly a death wish upon the entire LGBT population. In politically correct terminology, they have a personal belief that they don't impose on the their clientele or employees, but they'll sure donate money to organizations that share their hateful beliefs.

    Without a blink of an eye, I can tell you for certain that I won't even contemplate dating someone that is willing to give money to people determined to get rid of us.


    Do you bike everywhere? Do you require that all your boyfriends travel by bicycle or horse and buggy?

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    No "almost" when we're pumping gas into our cars. The death wish is real, and it is happening.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    Stop playing the victim and get your shit together.
    You were seeing someone you weren't even physically or mentally attracted to. Futhermore, you had no interest in pursuing his sexual advances and you criticize his religious beliefs to the petty extent of feeling uncomfortable when he says his grace before a meal. From that you should already know it's a bad mix.
    It doesnt make sense as to why it takes whatever religious hypocrisies you saw in him, to make you end a relationship when you weren't interested or forced to pursue it.
    Next time, don't put yourself in a situation where everyone's time is wasted and moral values have to be debated, when you've already decided the outcome. It's as if you were sticking around just so you can exert your beliefs and create some drama into your life.
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    Nov 11, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    TotalTopJock said...

    In closing, don't date closeted men and especially don't date religious closeted men.


    This. They tend to live duplicitous lives filled with fear that the two lives will commingle and all of their lies will become known to all.
  • winwin

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    Nov 11, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidHA!! You are dating a married man and then have the nerve to lecture him on morals???? Is this a troll thread????


    Read carefully, I said he got a divorce a few years ago, NOT MARRIED ANYMORE. Did you miss that part?
  • Medjai

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    Nov 11, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    Breaking up due to Chick-Fil-A? Terrible ad shallow. Breaking up because of numerous other moral conflicts? More understandable.
  • winwin

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    Nov 11, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    Update, he finally emailed me last night and he wrote a loooooooooonngg boring message on how he would still support chick fil a no matter what and then at the very end, he says he still wants to see me and spend the weekend with him so he can cook breakfast for me or have breakfast served in bed. I know he is lonely and I hope that he finds the right guy who can or willing to mould into however he wants.
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    Nov 11, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    agreed, stay away from anyone religious
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    Nov 11, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    You are breaking up with him for more than Chic-fil-a. It sounds like he is insecure about his sexuality and needs time to process those feelings before he can have a significant relationship with another man.
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    Nov 11, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    winwin saidThank you all for the replies! I have decided not to see him any more.


    Yeah, the Chik Fil A thing, just the icing on his homophobe cake. I wouldn't have broken up with someone over it, but it sounds like the two of you are just incompatible.

    However, if he enjoyed your company and wishes to do so, you may want to engage him again. Tell him you believe God made him gay, and that it's a gift. The children he has are a gift. You are a gift. Tell him to stop ignoring God's gifts.
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    Nov 11, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
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    Myol saidIn time you'll realize that Chic Fil A was not the reason you two broke up....


    To me it is not a big deal, like I said before there could have been a bigger issue than just chic fil a but he takes his religion way too very seriously and I'm not compatible with him. He seems to think we are compatible until last night which I so hope for so he would leave me alone.


    See there's your actual problem. Growing up, I was told never to discuss religion and politics with some (okay most) of my extended family. Given the fundamental differences between our faiths and between you and your boyfriend's, it probably was for the best because your levels of spirituality are different from one another as well as your faith, which can really REALLY wane down a relationship.
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    Nov 11, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    Shitty food for stupid people.
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    Nov 11, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    I don't think this was ever a relationship, it is not one unless you start giving them the Nookie ! You said that you guys never had sex, you are not sexually attracted to him.....lol Why are you hanging on to this guy for so long again?

    I think you just wanted to make an excuse of *Chick Fil A/his religious beliefs where in fact deep down you never had any feelings in the first place. Yeah someone said it best before.

    Let him be *he needs to find and accept his homosexuality, let yourself be, let freedom come to both of you.

    just some FYI: 2 biggest red flags in dating that you stumbled across.

    1/ Religious dudes (like VERY religious)

    2/ Married closeted dudes with children.

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    Nov 11, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    you should respect his boundaries and limitations. he obviously loved you if he was comfortable enough to share his feelings about things with you. h e probably didnt think you would break up with him. being religious is not a bad thing. i eat at chick-fil-a because it tastes good and they actually do treat everyone with respect so it isnt a bad place necessarily. he shouldnt have to stop eating there just because it maes you uncomfortable. that isnt tright
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    Mar 06, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidI think the worst thing is you are dating a married man. It doesn't matter what he is or how he feels...you shouldn't date someone who is married and wants to hide it from his wife and his kids!...

    And who cares about Chic-Fil-A, if people want to eat it, let them.. Theyll only get fat


    This! +1
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    Mar 06, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    calibro saidi'd say a chicken sandwich is the least of the reasons to break up with the guy

    This, but replace chicken sandwich with cray cray.
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    Mar 06, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    winwin said
    jmusmc85 saidHA!! You are dating a married man and then have the nerve to lecture him on morals???? Is this a troll thread????


    Read carefully, I said he got a divorce a few years ago, NOT MARRIED ANYMORE. Did you miss that part?


    OP, you need to say he was once married, instead of he was married in your original post. Saying he was married without including the word once makes it sound like he was married when you dated him.