Breaking up because of chic fil a, right or wrong?

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    Mar 06, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    winwin saidI felt he was very lonely and needed my companionship. He is still in the closet, was married to a woman with kids (for some reason I always end up with guys who were previously married to women)


    this right here is your problem more than anything. Yes, very religious gay guys don't mesh well with non-religious ones, but this is your problem right here. A relationship based on pity.

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    Mar 06, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    You didn't say one good thing about that relationship man, so it sounds to me this chic-fil-a argument was a good escape. Personally, dating closeted men who are highly religious and used to be married are BIG red flags. It doesn't sound as if he is the type to compromise in a situation and relationships sometimes involve compromising. Also it does t sound as if the man will ever leave the comfort of his closet because its convenient to stay in there. You made a solid decision move on and try to avoid those situations. It is better to be alone or lonely then with someone who isn't in touch with reality (aka bitch is cray cray)
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    Mar 06, 2013 4:15 PM GMT
    Chik-fil-a has withdrawn funding from anti lgbt groups after the founder reached out to the president of Campus Pride, a college LGBT organization.

    May be a publicity stunt, but he says he won't fund those organizations now that he has seen what they really do to people.


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    Mar 06, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    tigrisblue saidReligion aside, this seems more like an issue of mutual respect. If he's degrading you with generalizing comments about 'those people who hate CFA,' then he needs a reality check, or you need to move on.

    Likewise, if you're not being fair to him and his opinions, the same applies.

    Personally, I would have communicated my frank feelings to him on the matter and state that if we can't peaceably agree to disagree, then the relationship is over. Especially if he continues to flagrantly eat there knowing my/your feelings about that restaurant chain.

    Then again, you've only been dating a month and change. This is that point when you figure out if it's a good fit, which it seems not to be. So don't torture yourself and stay if it's going to require so much work. There are an abundance of other options.


    Dude is spot on. Most people that I know who are "opposites" respect each other's ideologies and are respectful to each other. This man was not. To call them idiots knowing your position is really an affront on you.

    Also, I'd recommend meditating on why you seem to attract men like this. If it's a pattern, then seeking out the root causes can help break the pattern so that you're not continuously cycled into finding the fucktards. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 06, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    winwin saidI'm (or was) dating this guy for about a month or so. He is very religious which to me was a little odd from the very beginning since he is gay but I still continued to date him. I felt he was very lonely and needed my companionship. He is still in the closet, was married to a woman with kids (for some reason I always end up with guys who were previously married to women). Like I said he is religous and as long as he does not shove it down my throat that was fine with me until last night when we started talking about chick fil a. We got into an argument (nothing big) but in the end he lost and all he could say was "I still disagree" and said he will continue eating there which is his right to do whatever he wants.

    I decided not to see him anymore knowing he supports chic and quite adamant about it and even called the opponents idiots which I felt like he called me an idiot as well. Am I doing the right thing or the wrong thing?

    Thanks!


    U B trolling, gurl "He is still in the closet, was married to a woman with kids"
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    Mar 06, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    It is just an example of being gay and being religious coming into contact.

    Chik-fil-a has a strong christian and religious message, they tend to hire christian employees and are closed on Sundays.

    However, their CEO has expressed a strong anti-gay message.

    So, it comes down to ignoring something. Either your religious beliefs or your beliefs about being gay.


    If you really do want to help him, you need to understand that he is going through a very hard process and needs to find a way to reconcile his religion, his life and his homosexuality.
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    Mar 06, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    Im sorry- you're asking whether it was right or wrong to break up with the guy over eating chic- filet...If you are such an idealist... have you considered the moral implications of fucking a married man?
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    Mar 06, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
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    winwin saidI felt he was very lonely and needed my companionship. He is still in the closet, was married to a woman with kids (for some reason I always end up with guys who were previously married to women)


    this right here is your problem more than anything. Yes, very religious gay guys don't mesh well with non-religious ones, but this is your problem right here. A relationship based on pity.


    You beat me to it. You should be with him because you want to, not out of obligation or the sense that you're doing him a favor.
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    Mar 06, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Are these Chic-fil-a sandwiches that good?! There must be something in them that make people so devoted. Maybe the same ingredient that Starbuks puts in its coffee to make people behave like crackheads for the stuff. Can you believe the lines in the drive-thrus in the mornings?!

    I think the government should launch an investigation.

    (Wendy's makes a better chicken sandwich. IMHO)
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    Mar 06, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    catchy_screen_name saidIm sorry- you're asking whether it was right or wrong to break up with the guy over eating chic- filet...If you are such an idealist... have you considered the moral implications of fucking a married man?

    I thought the OP said the guy was already divorced by the time he met him?
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    Mar 06, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
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    catchy_screen_name saidIm sorry- you're asking whether it was right or wrong to break up with the guy over eating chic- filet...If you are such an idealist... have you considered the moral implications of fucking a married man?

    I thought the OP said the guy was already divorced by the time he met him?


    He said was married. It implies divorce; however, he didn't use that word. I guess he could be either just separated or divorced.
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    Mar 06, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    Think maybe he figured it out five months ago? icon_question.gif