Apr 11, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
Isugemi saidjtz03932 saidIsugemi said
One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?
They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.
You didn't get what I meant. I remember living in Japan and when I got rejected, I thought it was because I was a foreigner. But now, when I think about it, there can be 1000 other reasons that I got turned down.
It's easier to think "it's their fault, they are a bunch of racist assholes" (and it might be the case sometimes) than to think the problem comes from you and you can improve it.
I think you living in Japan is a different context because it may be something you did or you are not accustomed to their way of life. People there are not scanning you as a potential sexual relationship partner. They didn't really socially reject you based on the way you look... it may be the way you act (like you said).
In the gay community, which almost always have the potential of a sexual relationship, they think me as a foreigner, and beyond that, no matter what other redeeming qualities I have, I am already rejected. Conversational topics very short, if any at all.