ASIAN and the issue about interracial relationship...

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    Apr 11, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    Isugemi said
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    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    You didn't get what I meant. I remember living in Japan and when I got rejected, I thought it was because I was a foreigner. But now, when I think about it, there can be 1000 other reasons that I got turned down.
    It's easier to think "it's their fault, they are a bunch of racist assholes" (and it might be the case sometimes) than to think the problem comes from you and you can improve it.


    I think you living in Japan is a different context because it may be something you did or you are not accustomed to their way of life. People there are not scanning you as a potential sexual relationship partner. They didn't really socially reject you based on the way you look... it may be the way you act (like you said).

    In the gay community, which almost always have the potential of a sexual relationship, they think me as a foreigner, and beyond that, no matter what other redeeming qualities I have, I am already rejected. Conversational topics very short, if any at all.
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    Apr 11, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
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    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    Everyone have preferences... we all have one. It may seem racist but its true. I would never go out with a woman but that doesn't make me sexist. Just saying.


    You said it yourself... most asians are not as genetically diverse physical-wise. If that's not your preference then yes it is racism.

    You mean you can have a conversation with a woman but you can't date them, that's not sexist at all.
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    Apr 11, 2013 7:20 PM GMT
    OP, maybe this is because you've already gone and shot yourself in the foot by projecting yourself as the foreigner. I know this woman who's so pessimistic about how she thinks others think of her that it kind of made her obviously insecure and unattractive. Get some self-confidence, try to disregard the opinions of others, and maybe try to live with the reality that the world isn't fair.


    Also, consider the fact that the problem you're raising isn't just limited to asians or the gay community, it's even bigger for straight couples. You rarely see brown girls with non brown guys. I know plenty of asian girls who would only date a white or asian guy. My bf claims that he heard 2 brown guys talking to each other where one said that he would never date a girl who didn't wear a burka. Pretty sure that takes out more than 90% of the female population. And the list goes on and on and on. It's not just a gay thing or an asian thing, it's a cultural thing.
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    Apr 11, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
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    Isugemi said
    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    Everyone have preferences... we all have one. It may seem racist but its true. I would never go out with a woman but that doesn't make me sexist. Just saying.


    You said it yourself... most asians are not as genetically diverse physical-wise. If that's not your preference then yes it is racism.

    You mean you can have a conversation with a woman but you can't date them, that's not sexist at all.


    Lol you misunderstood. Whether someone choose to date woman, latinos or whatever its their preference. Racism to me is when someone goes out of their way to degrade another race.
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    Apr 11, 2013 9:46 PM GMT
    Me, I love Filipinos; they're Asian but not cocky about it .
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    Apr 11, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
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    Isugemi said
    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    They reject fat people because of their physical appearance...tell me if that isn't weightist
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    Apr 11, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
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    Isugemi said
    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    Everyone have preferences... we all have one. It may seem racist but its true. I would never go out with a woman but that doesn't make me sexist. Just saying.


    You said it yourself... most asians are not as genetically diverse physical-wise. If that's not your preference then yes it is racism.

    You mean you can have a conversation with a woman but you can't date them, that's not sexist at all.


    Lol you misunderstood. Whether someone choose to date woman, latinos or whatever its their preference. Racism to me is when someone goes out of their way to degrade another race.


    So you are saying degrading a group of people based on their physical appearance that comes with their ethnicity, by means of rejection, is just a preference....
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    Apr 11, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
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    Isugemi said
    One last thing, do you assume they always reject you because you are asian? Or are you sure of it?


    They reject asians because of their physical appearance... tell me if that isn't racist.


    Everyone have preferences... we all have one. It may seem racist but its true. I would never go out with a woman but that doesn't make me sexist. Just saying.


    You said it yourself... most asians are not as genetically diverse physical-wise. If that's not your preference then yes it is racism.

    You mean you can have a conversation with a woman but you can't date them, that's not sexist at all.


    Lol you misunderstood. Whether someone choose to date woman, latinos or whatever its their preference. Racism to me is when someone goes out of their way to degrade another race.


    So you are saying degrading a group of people based on their physical appearance that comes with their ethnicity, by means of rejection, is just a preference....


    Yes it's a preference because women, being big boned, someone with long hair these are all traits of physical appearances. So base on your theory gay men are sexist because they don't date women.
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    Just so you know, I don't like Jews because I find their tradition foreign and they dress and look weird. Next time when I see them I'll ignore them from my dating pool. Not an antisemitic, just a preference.

    See how ridiculous that sounds?
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    jtz03932 saidJust so you know, I don't like Jews because I find their tradition foreign and they dress and look weird. Next time when I see them I'll ignore them from my dating pool. Not an antisemitic, just a preference.

    See how ridiculous that sounds?


    Lol if that is your preference then why not. If you really dislike who Jews dress and their traditional and the way they look why should you be force to date them? But honestly just saying if you feel like you should dictate who people should date... you might as well go to one of those churches that hate gays and join their I hate gay banters.
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    allexxy saidWe, Asian guys, all assume that Caucasian never show interest in us except aged gentlemen seeking for young Asian. The issue might be related to the culture or whatever shit that i dont know but hey if we're just into having fun or hooking up sometimes then is there any problem with races?

    Plz let me know and we can discuss bout this further...


    so is it safe to say..from all those "asian and white men not being into them" threads...does it imply that asian men are only seeking white men to date? lol...right...asian guys only want a white man to date and white men dont want them for potential LTRs but only for a fuck.. lol...right...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
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    jtz03932 saidJust so you know, I don't like Jews because I find their tradition foreign and they dress and look weird. Next time when I see them I'll ignore them from my dating pool. Not an antisemitic, just a preference.

    See how ridiculous that sounds?


    Lol if that is your preference then why not. If you really dislike who Jews dress and their traditional and the way they look why should you be force to date them? But honestly just saying if you feel like you should dictate who people should date... you might as well go to one of those churches that hate gays and join their I hate gay banters.


    Yea OK... I couldn't care less about other redeeming qualities they have. I'll just ignore them and pretend they don't exist. Right....
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:52 PM GMT
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    allexxy saidWe, Asian guys, all assume that Caucasian never show interest in us except aged gentlemen seeking for young Asian. The issue might be related to the culture or whatever shit that i dont know but hey if we're just into having fun or hooking up sometimes then is there any problem with races?

    Plz let me know and we can discuss bout this further...


    so is it safe to say..from all those "asian and white men not being into them" threads...does it imply that asian men are only seeking white men to date? lol...right...asian guys only want a white man to date and white men dont want them for potential LTRs but only for a fuck.. lol...right...icon_rolleyes.gif


    Lol don't put oil on the fire. This thread is full of drama queens who whine about not getting what they want. Obviously bad attitude and no self esteem attract lonely older men.

    Everyone just need to respect themselves. Just like in the straight world where guy prefer blonds or brunet. The beauty of the person varies with each individual. Get over the fact that not everyone you like isn't interested in you. There is 7.078 billion people in the world. So there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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    Apr 12, 2013 12:14 AM GMT
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    jtz03932 saidJust so you know, I don't like Jews because I find their tradition foreign and they dress and look weird. Next time when I see them I'll ignore them from my dating pool. Not an antisemitic, just a preference.

    See how ridiculous that sounds?


    Lol if that is your preference then why not. If you really dislike who Jews dress and their traditional and the way they look why should you be force to date them? But honestly just saying if you feel like you should dictate who people should date... you might as well go to one of those churches that hate gays and join their I hate gay banters.


    Yea OK... I couldn't care less about other redeeming qualities they have. I'll just ignore them and pretend they don't exist. Right....


    Well if they don't find them attractive enough to sleep with then yes. Go ahead and ignore them sexually. I didn't say they couldn't be friends, acquaintances or whatever.