Feminine Gay Men: Yay or Nay?

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    Nov 25, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    I'm not into feminine gay men, but that's just my preference. I like men that are men.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    not_superman said
    charlitos saidThis thread accomplishes nothing but segregation of an already small community. Jeez, some sexual preferences should remain private to you and ur circle of friends. This goes beyond expressing sexual orientation, you are directly targeting groups that already deal with this type of rejection, no need to further emphasize it through a public forum. Maybe I'm just getting old, but come on there's gotta be better things to talk.

    Completely agree.


    I personally was not trying to offend anyone but I can see how someone would think this kind of thread would be unproductive.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Sincityfan saidNo never not in a mil. years.
    Pass next whatever.
    no thank you.
    Move it along.
    gagas to the back of the line, better yet dont even stand in line.
    Not even if they were the last "men" on earth.


    Yet all of your photos are private.

    What are you trying to hide princess?



    Go back to William McKinley High.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    Variety is the spice of life....don't bother me a bit.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    Sincityfan said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Sincityfan saidNo never not in a mil. years.
    Pass next whatever.
    no thank you.
    Move it along.
    gagas to the back of the line, better yet dont even stand in line.
    Not even if they were the last "men" on earth.


    Yet all of your photos are private.

    What are you trying to hide princess?



    Go back to William McKinley High.


    Hey sling whatever you want at me. I'm on here trying to breakdown people's prejudices and you're hating on a part of an already small community yet you don't even show you're own damn face.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Sincityfan said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Sincityfan saidNo never not in a mil. years.
    Pass next whatever.
    no thank you.
    Move it along.
    gagas to the back of the line, better yet dont even stand in line.
    Not even if they were the last "men" on earth.


    Yet all of your photos are private.

    What are you trying to hide princess?



    Go back to William McKinley High.


    Hey sling whatever you want at me. I'm on here trying to breakdown people's prejudices and you're hating on a part of an already small community yet you don't even show you're own damn face.


    That was a three pointer ....LOL
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    not_superman said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    not_superman said
    charlitos saidThis thread accomplishes nothing but segregation of an already small community. Jeez, some sexual preferences should remain private to you and ur circle of friends. This goes beyond expressing sexual orientation, you are directly targeting groups that already deal with this type of rejection, no need to further emphasize it through a public forum. Maybe I'm just getting old, but come on there's gotta be better things to talk.

    Completely agree.


    I personally was not trying to offend anyone but I can see how someone would think this kind of thread would be unproductive.

    There are probably hundreds of threads with the same anti-feminine theme.


    I'm not anti-femme and I didn't start it with that intention but it is interesting that many on this thread showed their true colors. Some of the same men I was going to try and befriend on. It's good to know your enemy.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    Hold up... So if this was a planet of all gay men, would there be discrimination against Feminine gays.... That sounds like a twisted version of that vampire movie Daybreak... Just saying...
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    4nic8tion saidHold up... So if this was a planet of all gay men, would there be discrimination against Feminine gays.... That sounds like a twisted version of that vampire movie Daybreak... Just saying...


    Lol I have never seen that movie but your post made me laugh.

    And it is very sad how people discriminate against feminine men. As I said they do nothing for me sexually but if I met one I truly clicked with I would bite the bullet and give it a shot. Yes sex is important to me but sometimes you've got to go outside of your boarders and see what else is there for you.

    It would be challenge but why not try it if you like the person?

    Also if this was a planet of all gay men I would hope we would invent artifical wombs sometime soon because otherwise.....

    Lol.
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    A family member of mine was a feminine acting gay man. People outside of our family gave him hell. He was a real goof person. I treat everyone with respect.

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    Nov 25, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    4nic8tion saidA family member of mine was a feminine acting gay man. People outside of our family gave him hell. He was a real goof person. I treat everyone with respect.



    That's good to hear.
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    I don't prefer feminine men for dating, but we could be friends... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:10 PM GMT
    Sorry for the spelling errors. I am doing all this on my android phone...
    He was a real good person.....
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    Not really into feminine guys but some have turned me on. It really depends on the guy for me.
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    I like a guy to be himself. If that means he's a big ol' queen, then I'm fine with it. If he owns who he is and is genuine and honest, I'm all about it.
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    Nov 25, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    SF79 saidI like a guy to be himself. If that means he's a big ol' queen, then I'm fine with it. If he owns who he is and is genuine and honest, I'm all about it.


    That is a great attitude to have.

    It's refreshing to see a gay man who looks like you to be so accepting and inclusive of others. That's nice.
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    Nov 26, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    nah not my type though I have one fem gay friend he considers himself "straight acting"
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    Nov 27, 2012 9:43 AM GMT
    Very well said, below, what you said.


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    Dusk_Moonlight saidDating wise, I don't think I could date a feminine guy. I mean, with the few feminine guys I have talked to in my life, I had nothing in common with them except the fact that I like to take time in creating my outfits. Yeah I'll admit that I have fun coming up with new wardrobe ideas but as far as that goes, I really don't have anything in common with them to base a relationship on.

    However, I also don't think I could date the most masculine guy in the world neither. Guys who try so hard to "act straight" to fit in with normal society are just as much a turn off to me as the overly stereotypical flamboyant acting guys. I think a balance of both masc and fem is the perfect balance to me. Like they like to get down and dirty but aren't afraid to show that they have feelings as well. That's the perfect kind of guy to me.

    But yeah, I think that you should be yourself. If you do have fem qualities and aren't afraid to show them, then continuing being the guy you are. Because even if you meet a guy who doesn't like who you are, there will be another guy who will.


    It partly depends on what you define as "fem." Are you fem because you are sensitive or submissive (another word with various meanings or connotations) or bottom? It seems to me there can be many variations. BTW, after looking at how you dress in your photos I would probably conclude that you have a strong fem side. I think it looks great too and I would have no problem with that. Maybe if somebody else dressed the same it wouldn't connect with me. It's complicated and that's fine.


    Yeah I understand what you are saying and now that I think about it, I think I might have more fem traits then masculine traits. I just don't act like the stereotypical fem guy with the "hey girl!" mentality. I'm just a bit more sensitive I suppose. My dress style, it is somewhat androgynous. But I also don't mind getting dirty or sweaty when I'm exercising or standing up for myself when it is appropriate.

    But eh whatever, if a guy thinks I am too fem for him (and I'm sure people have made that assumption about me) then I'm just indifferent about it. I mean it sucks but what can you do you know? And I suggest the same for other fem guys who feel they are being put down.
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    Nov 27, 2012 10:54 AM GMT
    account_92 saidnah not my type though I have one fem gay friend he considers himself "straight acting"


    Eeeeveryone thinks they're "straight acting", but we don't look so straight acting with a dick in our mouth/hands do we?. So let's cut the crap, you can't decide who you fall in love with, it just happens.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    A lot of silly anger in this thread.

    - Some of you need to quit being willfully stupid by squawking "Y u hav 2 Act Str8!?" We all know what "Str8 Acting" means. It's not "pretending to be heterosexual". Let's not act like we just learned English, ok?

    - Having a sexual preference for masculine or feminine does not indicate some deep insecurity any more than being gay indicates some deep psychological problem.

    - People need to stop taking sexual preferences as an attack. If a guy isn't into you - for any reason - it isn't automatically an attack on you. Lots of guys don't think I'm attractive. Lots of guys do. If I'm not someone's type, it doesn't translate into an attack on me personally. I have my own tastes as well.

    - It isn't "self hating" to be irritated by some behaviors. If I'm irritated by "total bro just chillin with my bros" behavior, it isn't because I hate myself for being a man. If I'm irritated by "Oooo gurll, you bettah WERQ" behavior, it isn't because I hate myself for being gay.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:36 PM GMT

    Honestly, check out "The Way of Men" by Jack Donavon. It has some really interesting theories as to why gay men -- and I think it's more effeminate gay men -- are cast out by the group. It has to do with showing signs of weakness and being a liability to the group, rather than being a team member and contributing. No one wants to pull anyone else's weight. In my opinion, men should be leaders. I understand that dichotomy -- Nobody wants to respect the queen who complains, plays the victim and demands other people respect them. If you want respect you have to earn it -- you can't demand that people accept you. If you act like a fag, you will be treated like one.

    I also think there are masculine and feminine sides to all of us and if you pretend their aren't, you're just kidding yourself.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    Capn_A said
    Honestly, check out "The Way of Men" by Jack Donavon. It has some really interesting theories as to why gay men -- and I think it's more effeminate gay men -- are cast out by the group. It has to do with showing signs of weakness and being a liability to the group, rather than being a team member and contributing. No one wants to pull anyone else's weight. In my opinion, men should be leaders. I understand that dichotomy -- Nobody wants to respect the queen who complains, plays the victim and demands other people respect them. If you want respect you have to earn it -- you can't demand that people accept you. If you act like a fag, you will be treated like one.

    I also think there are masculine and feminine sides to all of us and if you pretend their aren't, you're just kidding yourself.



    If it weren't for a bunch of outwardly femme "FAGS" two-bit wanna-be's like you wouldn't have the ability to sit on-line looking at Men way out of your league in their underwear.

    Yer psuedo-macho posturing makes you look incredibly weak btw.

    What exactly does somebody like you "contribute?"

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    Yay~

    Masculine = no feelings.

    Ask the straight guy?

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:01 PM GMT
    bottomasianboy20 saidYay~

    Masculine = no feelings.

    Ask the straight guy?



    So masculinity is a turn off for you? That's interesting.