squash1212 saidFor me personally and I'm sure there is going to be a large portion of the LGBT community that disagree with me on this, but if someone was to call me a "faggot or fag", i wouldn't care or take offence to it. I have never associated this term with being gay, that being i guess my experiences growing up. Fag or faggot was just another term used to call someone, "A tool, weird, silly, etc." It wasn't until I started dabbling into the gay community and seeing articles like this, I felt like I was being told "i should be offended" by people using this term.
It's kinda like what my parents taught me regarding bullies when i was younger, "You show that you're offended and you react, they win. If you truly don't let it bug you, they'll move on because they aren't getting the reaction they wanted." That philosophy has worked perfectly for me throughout my life thus far. So are we giving this word "power" to be offensive by calling out every single time its used?
I never felt offended reading his tweets, more so laughed at his ignorance of him saying that he doesn't think people being gay is right, but still saying he's not a homophobe. Pretty dumb and hypercritical statement.
I haven't experienced any homophobia in my life, that even coming out in a small northern community. Maybe my generation is the one where terms like this, do become irrelevant. But just my opinion and its open to change, but I'm curious to see what you guys think.
No not this.
The Stockholm Syndrome within the gay community never ceases to amaze. It is not at all surprising that gays are going the be the last group to get full rights: too many gays are okay with having their balls cut off.
If a non-black NFL player were to tweet "your a nigger for that" and "I don't agree with being black at all" do you think any self-respecting black person in America would be saying "ohhhhh, guys, we should just ignore him, let's not give him power."
Please. What a cop out. To begin, no NFL player would ever do such a thing because they knows the wrath of the world would descend upon his head with the force of ten million tsunamis, exactly how it should be. Black people understand that in fighting for civil rights, you need to be loved yet, but with a healthy helping of fear.
There's a reason racism is so rampant on the anonymous internet: racists are so marginalized that they can only be heroes behind a computer screen. They are afraid to be racist anywhere else (rightly so). They've been driven into their mothers' basements, where they belong.
Contrast that with the gay community, which inspires no fear in homophobes precisely because of the "let's not rock the boat with our straight masters" attitude. Pathetic. Respect is earned not given. Until the gay community learns to respect itself by standing up for itself instead of regurgitating this "faggot" kumbya crap, our freedom and equality is going to remain under threat.
And that's why bigotry needs to be not coddled but loudly and mercilessly confronted. Anybody who thinks that homophobia is going to end by ignoring it is hopelessly naive.
I see where you're coming from with that, but I think you missed my point. I'm not saying "Oh faggot is offensive against gay people, but I'm just going to stick my head in the sand, ignoring it and hoping it goes away." I'm saying that in my life, my experiences; i don't associate faggot with being gay at all, so why should i take offence of it? If i start taking offence of it, when in all my experiences its farther from the truth, then I just gave that word power to be offensive to me.
To clarify further, I correct people on a constant basis when they say "thats gay." My friends have gotten better at not using it since i have come out, but it has become a habit to them. They don't associate this phrase with gay being bad, to them its morphed into something that has nothing to do with being gay, just something negative. But since I am gay, and i associate with that word, i will speak up and stop them. Before any suggests, "Oh they aren't truly accepting, blah blah," these are guys that tell me they will have my back no matter what, and if someone starts to harass me, they'll take care of it.
I haven't had to yet, but if someone is openly mocking me for being gay, i would defend myself. Whether that be just laughing and ignoring it or progressing to get in someone's face, so be it. Each situation is going to be different and each situation will have its own solution. Just because I'm not taking offence to faggot, doesn't mean anything. Like I was saying, since I have never had any negative experiences with that word, no homophobia in my life, etc. isn't that a good thing? Doesn't that mean things are starting to change in my generation? I think so. Your experiences may say different, i get that, but for me it doesn't.