tmac saidSo what have you gained? are these homophobes really afraid to approach you or speak in your presence?
like i said, I could care less about what anyone says about me, words do not threaten me. but I would never let someone physically harm me homophobe or not..
if my friends say fag or w.e i just say "that's not cool bro" and that's the end of that. as least while im around lol.
my point is, if people can push your buttons and get a rise out of you just for saying a word. THEY have power over YOU. screaming, cursing, threatening them wont really mean anything. because if they wanted to get under your skin they'd know what to say.
In fact, people DO know better than to speak that bullshit in my presence. It's easy to tell when meeting me that I am proooooobably not the one toward whom you want to be using "faggot" and "nigger" as a derogatory weapon. I can issue an almost 99.9% guarantee that anyone who did to my face would not be saying it twice. The other .01% would be in for reconstructive surgery.
But my "personal gain" pecadilloes are more. It's not about me. 1) In an age wherein young gays are killing themselves due to bullying, it's important that gay adults role model that verbal terrorism is not to be minimized, ignored, or tolerated especially when we are are on the verge of full equality. This is not the time to cede ground on offense and start playing prevent defense. 2) More importantly, confrontibg hatred is just the right thing to do, period
. From that moral standpoint, who cares about gains and losses?
If someone punches you do you just say "that's not cool bro" lest they think they got a rise out of you? If someone steals your care do you just say "that's not cool bro" less they think they can push your buttons? Silly. Actions need to have consequences.
Newflash: If you refuse to stand up for yourself against hate to show that THEY cannot get a rise out of you, guess what? THEY are still controlling your behavior. They are forcing you not to do what's right and tolerate the intolerable just to put up some weak sauce from about how cool, collected, and superior you allegedly are -- when in fact you are just disrespecting yourself and showing how weak and gutless you are.
Thank goodness the Civil Rights Movement was not run by homos. "Guys, guys, let's just continue to sit in the back of the bus: we don't want these rednecks to think they can get a rise out of us niggers." What?