Dec 03, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
MadeinMich saidrondan saidMadeinMich saidrondan saidIm just going to say this, I have read this thread from the original post. OP, you will always find what you seek. If you seek out the whole race thing or some other negative aspect of the gay community you will find it. You should never be envious of anyone because you are unique to YOU!
Dammit I sound like a PBS special!
Trust me. You don't "seek" out race based sexual discrimination man. It finds you when its the last thing on your mind. You find it in an internet message, in approaching someone at a bar or clubs.
It finds you because you look for it. I have rejected some people because I was not attracted to them. That other person is the one that turned it into race, weight, height or whatever. Why? Because, that is what they were looking for something that they are self conscious about.
When I get rejected, the way I see it is they did me the favor. Now I do not have to put up with what ever bullshit criteria they feel I do not meet. But do I let that bother me NO thats their business not mine. In my eyes I do not care why.
Trust me. I don't make this up in my mind. As well I'm sure others don't. Allow me to explain. I have been told point blank when I ask guys to give me an honest reason for their rejection of me...."Well, I'm not into black guys" "Not into blacks, sorry". And this has been said countless times to me.
I ask them this so that I may be better educated on dating and mating trends so that when I make a point like I did above I know what I am talking about. So it goes well beyond them not being interested in me but their REASON for not being interested.
Its very easy for you to dismiss this type of occurance when you are high up on the food chain...white - looking, young, and muscular. I'm sure you have been rejected (we all have). What I am not sure of is that you share the same frequency of rejections as blacks or asians.
I agree with all of this. Its easy to say someone else is wrong when you're in a system that benefits you.