WHAT IS THIS?!?!?!

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    Well

    1. I understand we never talked about being exclusive. This is my first gay "relationship" and in the past with women, it's been automatic exclusivity. Now I know... Thus I will not be holding any of this against him but I feel a talk about being together in our near future.

    2. I didn't go into his phone because I wanted to read his texts. The message preview came up from the text on the iPhone, which was right there on the bed. If you were in a bar and you overheard someone say "I slept with X" and X is someone you thought you were dating, would you not either go talk to that person or eavesdrop on the conversation? Or would you immediately go up and potentially start a fight with the guy you're "dating"? I'm NOT saying what I did was right. But that being said having seen ONLY those texts (the ex was the same preview type message the iphone has, I didn't pry into those) you can't make the "it shows you don't trust him" argument when I obviously had reason not to.

    3. HE'S the one that doesn't seem like he's into "labels."

    4. I'm always up for doing things during the week but either he's still at work, tired, or I'm asleep because I work wicked early. I wouldn't mind getting less sleep to see him each night.
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    Dec 04, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    Have you had a talk with him? You really need to. You got advice. Time to take action and get this resolved face to face with him.
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    Dec 04, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    This sounds like a "telenovela"....
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    Dec 04, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    You and the guy you're seeing have not defined your relationship, nor have you established any rules. He has no obligation to you, nor do you to him. Expect the worst, and hope for the best.