Dec 04, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
spgem saidIn the long run, does it pay to be the good guy at all times or be the player lookin out for his best interests who does whatever it takes to get ahead in life? Does it pay to be cutthroat or be a team player?
I don't think you have to be an altruistic martyr if you choose not to be completely selfish. I would look for synergies and mutually beneficial exchanges: apples for oranges. Also, think ahead, what will you be able to do in 5, 10, 15, years from now vis-a-vis the other people in your life and what they will be able to do. If you see potential for mutually beneficial and/or synergistic future associations, then keep in touch and let them know you care.
With everyone else, you want to be civil and cooperative: especially if it is necessary for a bigger mission (e.g., a work team or colleagues). But, do not be a door mat, know where to draw the line and to be firm with people if they are being unfair. The pillars of a successful relationship (in work and in personal life) are trust and reciprocity (synergistic and/or mutually beneficial) that is sustainable or has potential to develop or grow. Those people with whom you have no synergy with now and don't expect to have one in the future or you cannot trust them to be reliable and/or honest, you should avoid.
You define success (it can be material or subjective) nonetheless so long as you are not deluding yourself and you derive actual utility (subjective or material) from the association that is success. However, society's view of success may not coincide with your subjective utility. So, the principles above will not necessarily lead to economic success.