A Keeper: Waiting for Mr. Right.......

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    Dec 26, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    law2013 saidI sure hope there's a Mr. Right. I'm in a relationship yet I'm almost certain this isn't the one yet.

    And dating fucking sucks. It's exhausting.


    U always have to repeat everything u said about urself to the next date.......
  • winwin

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    Dec 26, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    Finding the one is so hard. I have to start all over again from scratch. Where are all the good guys? They are either straight, married or just looking for hookups or just plain creepy. I know he is out there, somewhere.
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    winwin saidFinding the one is so hard. I have to start all over again from scratch. Where are all the good guys? They are either straight, married or just looking for hookups or just plain creepy. I know he is out there, somewhere.


    Like that Disney song "Somewhere out there....."
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    law2013 saidI sure hope there's a Mr. Right. I'm in a relationship yet I'm almost certain this isn't the one yet.

    And dating fucking sucks. It's exhausting.


    Know what sucks more? Looking back 5 years later while you're in the same subpar relationship thinking, "You know I could have been dating for the last 5 years and found something better!"
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    law2013 saidI sure hope there's a Mr. Right. I'm in a relationship yet I'm almost certain this isn't the one yet.

    And dating fucking sucks. It's exhausting.


    I found Mr. Wong!!!
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    Dec 26, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    I definitely would like to find that special someone. Sometimes I wonder if my standards are too high, but I'm not about to lower them and be unhappy. Someday...
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidMy last name is Wright. Close enough! icon_razz.gif


    Please tell me your first name is Phoenix
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    My expectation is it will be more about the right connection, whatever that is, than a standards-based checklist.
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    i think..........we are handed exactly what we need. its great to know what you want but ultimately its important not just what he looks like or acts like or even what you perceive to be your perfect match. Its a more odious and ultimately unfulfilling to push any kind of man away in the hopes that the one will just pop into your life. love isn't perfect, it takes work and dedication and passion and a willingness to understand the other person. the partner, even if you get angry and want to control them or wish they would just go away. at the end of the day they will still be your partner unless that argument is worth more then the time you have and will put into your relationship. in the end only a few things matter, life is rough get used to it. love is hard but worth every moment, and happiness isn't something that can be put on a shelf. you work at it every day you fight for it and if you fight for it and win, well then its worth oh so much more.


    and yes i do think ill meet mister right, at least mr right for me. even if hes not everything on my list he will be exactly what i need.
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    Dec 26, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    I don't really worry about it. Literally guys I like come out of the blue and it is always exciting when you are crushing. Most if not all times it never develops into something but one day it will and maybe he will be Mr. Right. No point in stressing over it.
  • metta

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    Dec 26, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    I'm not looking for either. I'm fine being single with no hookups. icon_smile.gif

    If there was a way to do it without all the drama....I may reconsider....but I don't see that happening.
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    Dec 26, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    metta8 saidI'm not looking for either. I'm fine being single with no hookups. icon_smile.gif
    If there was a way to do it without all the drama....I may reconsider....but I don't see that happening.


    I'm kind of the same really.
    I think that because my perspective on relationships have been what probably most would describe as a little innocent/naive, seeing the reality of it in the gay world has left me jaded enough to not give a shit about relationships anymore.
    Since I'm also not into hooking up, I just have to suffice with being single and leave it at that. Then again, I suppose with that new particular outlook on relationships I have developed it's probably not a good idea to have a relationship since it could likely become a very damaging experience for either/both people.
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    Jan 10, 2013 10:59 PM GMT
    Just have to go with the flow......
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    Jan 10, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    Some ppl stand in there own way of happiness not realizing until it's to late icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    If Mr. Right were easy to find, we'd all be married. It just takes going out there and kissing a lot of toads.
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    Jan 11, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I'm not waiting nor looking icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    I don't regret my last few relationships. They weren't Mr. Right, but they weren't Mr. Wrong. I know how to be single, but I do have a lot of love to give. It would be great to find someone to share it with.
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    Jan 25, 2013 4:56 AM GMT
    winwin saidFinding the one is so hard. I have to start all over again from scratch. Where are all the good guys? They are either straight, married or just looking for hookups or just plain creepy. I know he is out there, somewhere.


    agreed
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    May 23, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    Always happens when ur not looking icon_smile.gif .....
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    Jun 10, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    Wish the frog were a prince.....
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    Jun 10, 2013 7:33 AM GMT
    In order for someone to be Mr.Right you, yourself, are going to have to be their Mr.Right. I don't believe there is just one person out there for everyone, but a plethora of people. In order to become Mr.Right and get Mr.Right at the same time, you both have to want to be Mr.Right for each other, which is in turn mutual work on the relationship..

    And with that, yes I do hope to find him.
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    Aug 04, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidIn order for someone to be Mr.Right you, yourself, are going to have to be their Mr.Right. I don't believe there is just one person out there for everyone, but a plethora of people. In order to become Mr.Right and get Mr.Right at the same time, you both have to want to be Mr.Right for each other, which is in turn mutual work on the relationship..

    And with that, yes I do hope to find him.


    Join the club icon_smile.gif .....
  • BryUSC88

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    Aug 04, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    I think when you're 20's and early 30's, you are thinking "Mr. Right will come along one day". When you're in your 40's or beyond, with a string of failed relationships behind you, you start thinking it may not happen. That's where I am now. I've dated some good guys, but for one reason or another, the relationship didn't work out. And out of all the guys I've dated, I've only been in love ONCE. That's ONCE in my whole life. Seems like the chances of it happening again are kinda slim. So I still keep my eyes open, but I concentrate more on making a happy life...and not worry so much about Mr. Right showing up. But if he knocks on my door, I'll certainly open it. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2013 3:22 PM GMT


    " Are ur standards too high? U want a 10 when u know ur just a 5, are u being realistic? Are u aiming too high? Do u think u deserve the best when ur not the best? U want a keeper when ur a creeper?"

    To all those considering themselves 5s: you are NOT a creeper, in spite of spegm's carefully worded insult; many people are attracted to those they consider better than themselves; it's known as admiration. WHAT qualities you are attracted to in another and how you respond to that attraction determines whether the attraction and your behaviour has merit or not.



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    Aug 04, 2013 3:34 PM GMT
    I always believed that a Mr. Right existed for me, but I never thought he would literally "come along" on his own. That's like expecting to win the lottery without ever buying a ticket. My approach was that if I was gonna meet Mr. Right I'd have to go out and find him, by keeping myself in circulation and being where he might be, too.

    And in the meantime I was having a good time merely socializing, being around other gay men. I still do that, even with a husband, except now we do it together, which is that much more enjoyable.

    Sure I met lots of Mr. Wrongs that way, but I use the fishing analogy, that you must make many casts to get a nibble, many nibbles to get a bite, many bites to land a keeper. Or maybe you'd prefer the panning for gold analogy, but same idea. If Mr. Right is rare, then you need numbers to increase your odds of finding him. See fewer guys and you may never encounter him.

    It can be frustrating & discouraging at times, but I always tried to make the hunt a part of the pleasure. Had good times with lots of guys, took quite a few to bed, happy & grateful just for that experience, and happier still when I found a keeper among them. But never seriously unhappy, even with the Mr. Wrongs, who at least made for a funny story afterwards, and a lesson learned for the next time. icon_cool.gif