A Keeper: Waiting for Mr. Right.......

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    Aug 04, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    Well, lets say you find Mr. Right but Mr. Right doesn't want you back...
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    Aug 04, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Nouveau_Debut saidWell, lets say you find Mr. Right but Mr. Right doesn't want you back...


    Then he obviously and painfully isn't Mr Right. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 04, 2013 3:52 PM GMT
    I don't know why people still buy this silly high standards argument. What's the point in pointing out you're not supposed to like this or that, when there is nothing you can do to change your taste? The only thing left to change is yourself, which is why bodybuilding is so popular: it's where resides our hope to measure up to those we desire.
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    Aug 04, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    Theoretically, if we play the numbers game there are many potential people one could be compatible with... However, even people that are compatible don't always work out... timing, distance, life circumstances all play a big part in it. Most importantly one has to know that all relationships whether they be platonic or romantic are built and not found. Relationships take work and both parties have to be mutually invested. And yes, of course recognizing that nobody is perfect or 100% compatible helps- you have to do a cost/benefit analysis and accept the whole package good and bad.

    so....long story short... im optimistic, ill take chances, I think the mr. right scenario will happen eventually... but when.. who knows?
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    Aug 04, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    I feel like physically I am a 4.5
    personality about a 15 ...maybe more - If I had never hooked up with plenty guys who I consider 8s and even twice 9 and a halfs I would have given up
    I just accept now that fate has decided I will never meet one who is not already involved or married or leaving the country or not in the country ...so plenty rights but just as many wrong times places and life times

    I still believe that


    I know that


    and will probably end up with

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    Aug 04, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    Don't forget Katy Perry's Not Like The Movies.....
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    Aug 04, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    Nouveau_Debut saidWell, lets say you find Mr. Right but Mr. Right doesn't want you back...


    Lord, I've been there. I think there's a line in a song..."Love hurts when only one's in love".
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    Aug 04, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Most don't have the patience to wait for Mr. Right so they go for Mr. Right NOW...The key is to have the self esteem to let your mind rule over your cock.
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    Aug 04, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    mybud saidMost don't have the patience to wait for Mr. Right so they go for Mr. Right NOW...The key is to have the self esteem to let your mind rule over your cock.


    I like that---Mr. Right Now icon_smile.gif .....
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    Some folks need to have a little chat with Mr. "Reality Check". Most do indeed seek Mr. Perfect instead of Mr. Right (I'm guilty here). There is a chance you will stay ALONE for the rest of your life. Saying "I will not look, he will come knocking the door" is self-reassuring bullshit.

    I firmly believe that relationships among men is inherently more difficult due to evolutionary reasons, we are best matched with women, again from the evolutionary perspective. This is why so many gay relationship fail miserably. Mostly are due to the inherit nature of man.

    For most folks, yes the standards are indeed too high and unrealistic.
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:11 AM GMT
    mybud saidMost don't have the patience to wait for Mr. Right so they go for Mr. Right NOW...The key is to have the self esteem to let your mind rule over your cock.


    But how do you know that Mr. Right Now isn't Mr. Right?
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    BryUSC88 said
    Nouveau_Debut saidWell, lets say you find Mr. Right but Mr. Right doesn't want you back...


    Lord, I've been there. I think there's a line in a song..."Love hurts when only one's in love".

    Or maybe you find Mr. Right, but he found his Mr. Right the week before. . . so he's no longer available. BryUSC has it right when he says his aim is to live the happy life. One can't control when a Mr. Right or Mr. Almost Right comes along, if he ever does. But you can live a happier life in the meantime. Maybe if while you are waiting for Mr. Right, you meet Mr. Almost Right. Someone who does not meet all the items on your checklist. Perhaps let things develop. Maybe love will grow. Those instant loves (infatuations) - the "I have often walked down this street before - but the pavement always stayed beneath my feet before" guys - almost never last.

    Wildsky360 had a great tip: "There are lots of keepers out there, though you may not recognize them as such at the time. It's a magical moment when you are suddenly in awe of the beautiful soul you've been blessed to cross paths with...someone who doesn't add up on your check list. It's not settling. It's realizing the gem that was hidden. -Love the one you're with."
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    Aug 05, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright said
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    Oct 31, 2013 7:57 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidOy, who wants? Men are annoying.


    Mae West got it right! Where are the gay Paul Novak's of the world?! icon_smile.gif .....
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    Oct 31, 2013 9:18 AM GMT
    it's trite to say, but you're not going to find it if you're actively looking for it.

    that's the case with me, anyhow. everyone is entitled to his own opinion. just live your life, learn to love yourself and be happy, and that should attract positive attention.
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    Oct 31, 2013 9:24 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    secondstartotheright said
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    Thanks, my laugh for the day. icon_lol.gif
    ugghh, i feel this way all the time. lol not even
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    Oct 31, 2013 9:56 AM GMT
    well, i guess it's hard to understand for such perfect people like myself what's that like to want someone who doesn't want you back? icon_lol.gif now go figure if i'm being serious...
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    Oct 31, 2013 10:06 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    ART_DECO said
    secondstartotheright said
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    Thanks, my laugh for the day. icon_lol.gif
    ugghh, i feel this way all the time. lol not even

    This made me lol
    Ha haa!

    I'm barely 24, I shouldn't worry about such things at this point in age but I would Love to marry one day.
    I want a man that will make me happy and I will make him happy and I'm more than capable to sustain a life-long relationship. =]
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    Oct 31, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    vitaliyvloan saidwell, i guess it's hard to understand for such perfect people like myself what's that like to want someone who doesn't want you back? icon_lol.gif now go figure if i'm being serious...


    Things have to be mutual, a give & take.....
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    Old JR Post said
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    JRaRJ saidI used to believe that I should be just like the kind of person I wanted to attract, in order find the "right guy". Than, I realized that I should love myself for all my good and bad points. So, that fact, flipped, I should learn to love someone else for all the good or bad points they have, as long as they're the right kind of flaws and perfections I like; cause knowing someone for who they are personally is something I think we all love. icon_razz.gificon_surprised.gificon_wink.gif


    So true icon_smile.gif
    Makes me wonder if we're all just conditioned to want to have the absolute BEST, and not accept the other optional thinking^^^?


    Isn't it ironic how the majority of us want the best for us when were not the best ourselves?!

    Even we all could have what we wanted, would 2 distinct bests really work out?
    I think yourname and intensity both have it worked out... it takes lots of work, no matter who you're in love with.
    In terms of Want, yes I everyone wants more than they deserve, for the sake of they are who they are; but when it comes to Needs, like Love, we all struggle to get passed what we're hoarding for ourselves, and limit others and in turn ourselves. There is something to be said for "Free Love", but its pointless to give it away, if you're giving it to the wrong people/circumstances. Like pearls to swine, sometimes.
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    I spent 20 years with 3 Husbands, had 154 Boyfriends and dated (non-sexually) a little over 600 Men.

    The next one BETTER be Mister Right.
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    What really makes a Mr.Wr0ng in the first place?
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    ForgeetMee saidI am Mr Wrong icon_biggrin.gif I just believe that there's a guy on a donkey that will arrive one day icon_biggrin.gif


    I am afraid he is no longer with us.
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    Oct 31, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    I thought I had met Mr Right recently... he's all I could've asked for. It was going very well, but very fast. I did nothing to slow him down, and he did a 180 on me, and said he wanted to take it slow... I haven't seen him since, and he pretty much just ignores me.

    It sucks.