Starting to want a hot face AND a hot body in a guy

  • HottJoe

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
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    MidwesternKid saidIt's your personal preference. Never think you are shallow because of it. We should go for the things we want. Never settle.

    Yes, we should never be realistic about what we can achieve. Always believe we're deserving of the best the universe has to offer. icon_lol.gif
    I'm afraid of people significantly more fit than myself, because I'm afraid of rejection or being accepted then rejected again.


    You're a lot cuter than you seem to realize. Your face is ADORABLE!!!icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    So, you're gaining self esteem, good. Now, you'll have to learn to see passed those top Alpha Male superficial qualities and find more to a guy than his looks. Its really back and forth, but you will find that even though this is an important step for yourself, it is just a step back, before you get further. XP
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    Dec 20, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Fuck guys with both. A) It's grossly unfair to 90 % of the population and B) 9 times out of 10 it ain't nothing but wallpaper man. Those bitches are as deep as fuckin puddles.

    They think they are gods gift and put out like theres no tomorrow. Your likely to catch any sort of bad shit from their assess, they are classless over manicured hoes.

    Fake Abercrombie, Tom Cruise wanna be lookin muthafuckers ! icon_lol.gif

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    Dec 20, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidFuck guys with both. A) It's grossly unfair to 90 % of the population and B) 9 times out of 10 it ain't nothing but wallpaper man. Those bitches are as deep as fuckin puddles.

    They think they are gods gift and put out like theres no tomorrow. Your likely to catch any sort of bad shit from their assess, they are classless over manicured hoes.

    Fake Abercrombie, Tom Cruise wanna be lookin muthafuckers ! icon_lol.gif



    Even wallpaper men can get their feelings hurt...icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    You're 24 years old. There's nothing wrong with wanting a guy to have a hot face and body. In ten years you'll want a guy with a hot body, a hot face and a hot personality.
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    You are just as likely to end up with a guy who has a bad personality that has below average looks. A bad personality does not have anything to do with looks. Some of the hottest guys have the best personalities. And some of the below average have the worst personalities. Some studies indicate that you are born with the personality you end up with. So if you are going to look and have to weed through all the bad personalities, you may as well weed your way through the better looking guys. I've been in relationships with more then one below average looks guy and trust me, they have some major hang ups. The really hot ones didn't have any hang ups and had better outlooks on life.
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou are just as likely to end up with a guy who has a bad personality that has below average looks. A bad personality does not have anything to do with looks. Some of the hottest guys have the best personalities. And some of the below average have the worst personalities. Some studies indicate that you are born with the personality you end up with. So if you are going to look and have to weed through all the bad personalities, you may as well weed your way through the better looking guys. I've been in relationships with more then one below average looks guy and trust me, they have some major hang ups. The really hot ones didn't have any hang ups and had better outlooks on life.


    I've met a lot of beautiful nutjobs. I've met some men because they've good looking for so long they never really understood what less good looking people go through
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    Dec 20, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidWell everyone has standards. You might actually just be widening what you are into.


    narrowing
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    Dec 20, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    And before anyone starts a thread saying "y no musclz guys no lovez me", please remember this: live upto your own expectations, physically and otherwise. icon_razz.gif
  • groundcombat

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    Dec 20, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    When it really comes down to it, I have a really wide range of guys that can get the job done. Of course I like guys with amazing bodies and great faces but is that a must have? No.

    Personally I think your perspective has a lot to do with it. Of course I'm just speculating, but I suppose you weren't THAT disgusted by him physically but probably just thought you deserved better. Many guys choose guys based on how being with that person makes them feel about themselves rather than what is really attractive to them.
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    Dec 20, 2012 9:58 PM GMT
    I think high expectation in both just leads to disappointment. No wonder so many gay guys (and straight) are single. They are looking for perfection and are blinded by what is right in front of them
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    Dec 20, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    Narciso said#7'swhothinkthey're9'slookingfor11's


    ...I'll have you, Mr. 11 . . .
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    Dec 20, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    Unless you connect WITH A HUMAN BEING you will always be dissappointed.

    If this OP wasn't so divinely broken and sad I would say MUCH moar.

    Talk to the Guy and look into His eyes.

    Worry less about His bodyfat.

    And take a GOOD look inthe mirror before ya pass judgement on some random dude ya met 3 hours ago and whose name ya quite can't remember.

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    Dec 20, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    calf saidRead the book Velvet Rage. Even if just the first 2 chapters.


    ^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^
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    Dec 20, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    Cash saidUnless you connect WITH A HUMAN BEING you will always be dissappointed.

    If this OP wasn't so divinely broken and sad I would say MUCH moar.

    Talk to the Guy and look into His eyes.

    Worry less about His bodyfat.

    And take a GOOD look inthe mirror before ya pass judgement on some random dude ya met 3 hours ago and whose name ya quite can't remember.

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    ^^^^^^ & THIS TOO ^^^^^^
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    Dec 20, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidHave I been watching too much porn? Assuming 80% of gays and 98% of the general population don't have gym bodies, how do they get off with each other??


    Are you sure none of the guys you've dated only dated you for the lack of a better option? Are you sure you never did this yourself?


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    Dec 22, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    Why are you guys taking this so seriously? At least the OP is honest enough to express what attracts him or not. Most of you are just a whole bunch of hypocrites we ALL have physical preferences, whether you are willing to compromise looks for feelings is completely beside the point. He is just having some random sex he aint planning a wedding.
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    Dec 22, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidFor a long time, I thought that I can be turned on by a cute guy with just a beautiful face, and not care about his body as long as it isn't fat. But the other day I was fooling around with this hipster who is exactly that (had a small skinny-guy belly). I was happy just making out with him, but he wanted more, and when we started stripping I didn't want to take his clothes off... I was barely touching his body. I felt like such a stereotype...

    Have I been watching too much porn? Assuming 80% of gays and 98% of the general population don't have gym bodies, how do they get off with each other??


    Yes you've been watching too much porn. Quit it and join the real world
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    Dec 22, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    It's okay to sexually desire a sexy face and body, but when you get older, a sexy personality and kind heart will trump all. Oh, and when you start dating seriously, be prepared to deal with the other guy's baggage. They all have baggage.
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    Dec 22, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    Narciso said#7'swhothinkthey're9'slookingfor11's
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    Dec 22, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidFor a long time, I thought that I can be turned on by a cute guy with just a beautiful face, and not care about his body as long as it isn't fat. But the other day I was fooling around with this hipster who is exactly that (had a small skinny-guy belly). I was happy just making out with him, but he wanted more, and when we started stripping I didn't want to take his clothes off... I was barely touching his body. I felt like such a stereotype...

    Have I been watching too much porn? Assuming 80% of gays and 98% of the general population don't have gym bodies, how do they get off with each other??


    Perhaps, but I think it's because you were making out with a hipster. I'm surprised you were able to get that far. My whole body would have revolted long before that point.

    I do have a few questions for you though...
    1. How skinny were his jeans exactly?
    2. Were his horn rimmed glasses officially licensed by the Buddy Holly Society, or were they cheap knock offs from the Rivers Cuomo Collection?
    3. How many times did he trash something by saying, "I'm over it"?
    4. Did he spend his entire day scrounging around yard sales looking for jean shorts?
    5. Does he play guitar? If so, does he only play with his non-dominant hand to be non-commercial?
    6. Lastly, did his mustache make him look like a bad caricature of a Tom of Finland cartoon?