Would you dump a bad friend before or after New Years?

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    Dec 21, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 said
    GAMRican saidJust wean him out of your life. Don't call him. Don't text him. If he asks you to hang out, "you're too busy". He'll eventually go away.

    No need to tell him off and create an enemy.


    Terrible advice, yet the typical gay thing to do. Be a man and tell him up front.


    I concur. I greatly dislike passive aggressive approach to by people. If you don't want to be his friend, then tell him so. If he asks why, then tell him the following reasons.

    A former close friend this to me, never once kept up contact and gave various excuses. He was already a recluse but his behavior was very rude.
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    Dec 21, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    GAMRican saidJust wean him out of your life. Don't call him. Don't text him. If he asks you to hang out, "you're too busy". He'll eventually go away.

    No need to tell him off and create an enemy.


    This works until he flat out asks, "Why are you avoiding me? What did I do?" Or worse, "What's wrong with you you're acting weird?"


    I agree with GAMRican

    If he flatly asks "why are you avoiding me" and stuff like that, just tell him that your life has been crazy lately and how your boss riding ya and stuff.

    No need to create an enemy
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    Dec 21, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidJust wean him out of your life. Don't call him. Don't text him. If he asks you to hang out, "you're too busy". He'll eventually go away.

    No need to tell him off and create an enemy.

    I think this is the sensible thing to do. No need to be too harsh. It sounds like you have feelings for this guy. You never know what the future entails. Why create a bad situation?
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    Dec 21, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidSo I'm planning to break it to my friend tomorrow that I no longer want him in my presence. I don't want to be with a friend that can't choose whether he wants to just be friends with me or something more. In addition, he's turning out to be a controlling, manipulative sociopath who wants to monopolize all my time and call it 'just friends' and I am sick of people thinking we're together.


    Did my former BF appear at your doorstep to play this game with you? Dump him, don't do the neglect thing. He needs to learn a lesson and if you neglect him and his messages the sociopath in him will find ways to constantly link you together. You can dump him in a kind way, but if he's really manipulative it might be therapeutic to do it dramatically so that he gets the picture and stays away for good. The good news is that you recognize all of this and aren't swimming in denial. Juat make sure that you break the ties completely and don't fall for his manipulative tricks after you do the deed.
    Best wishes to you.
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    Dec 21, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    You can't stand him, yet you wanna spend new year with him? What's up with that?
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    Dec 21, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Glad you talked with him. Too bad it didn't seem to do any good I don't think I would have done the tow truck thing. I would have had the Final talk when he showed up to get it.
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    Dec 22, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    bri_66 saidGlad you talked with him. Too bad it didn't seem to do any good I don't think I would have done the tow truck thing. I would have had the Final talk when he showed up to get it.


    Actually..this story (sorry to sound like a drama king) had an alternate ending.

    I called off the tow truck after he called me and told me the people whom he sneakingly ditched me for ended up totalling their truck hitting a parked car on the other side of town. He didn't know these people from a hole in the wall remind you. WHY THE FUCK would you hop in the car with 2 people you don't know who are likely DRUNK? He begged and begged for me to come pick him up, or else he would get taken to 'detox' aka spend a night in jail. I was like dude, I'm not drinking and driving! Shouldn't of hopped in the car asshole.

    So honestly at this point...I had no words for him. Some people in the world can't help whom they are. They thrive off of being in dangerous situations and pissing people off. Atleast I got a set of new computer speakers for Christmas out of it icon_rolleyes.gif