Dec 28, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
meninlove saidtmac saidStevieB0402 saidAn interesting phenomenon of this question is that most of the posters who say to do nothing or mind your own business are over 30. In the glory days of gay bars, there was an unwritten rule that if you saw someone you knew out in the clubs, you kept it to yourself in "real life". There was always that shroud of anonymity we used to protect each other, especially considering how many of us were in the closet back then. Could their advice be a leftover reaction to not wanting to be outed?
I find that putting things in a personal perspective makes the decision easier. If this girlfriend were your sister, or even your single mom, what would you do? The actions you would take to protect your family should be the actions you would take with anybody. Let's face it, you're worried that he will break her heart or worse, bring something back to her that nobody wants to contract, like HIV. Remember: all that is needed for evil to prevail is for one good man to do nothing. A bit melodramatic, I agree, but the core remains true. Bad things happen when good people do nothing.
Personally, I would talk to him. Throwing around accusations rarely yields positive results and if he's innocent, he deserves to know that pic is out there. If he's guilty, he needs to know that he's caught and hopefully he will do the right thing.