Anyone get written out of a will because you were gay?

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    Dec 28, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    My bf's assholular father disowned him by email then left him ten bucks in his will. None of the other brothers stood up for him, they were more interested in the extra money they got. Good times.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    not yet. But I would be more than happy my sisters get it. That mean they can provide my nieces and nephews a better life.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    I feel sad for anyone that has lost the connection to their birth families due to their sexuality. It is the loss of the family.

    I am blessed by a family that loves me unconditionally.

    There may be opportunity in your predicament.... love them regardless of their choice over the inheritance; tell them you love them with or without an inheritance.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    That is rediculous that your stepmonster did that to you. My sister had my Mom written out of her our great-grandmonster's will by going behind our Mom's back. I feel that money is tainted since everyone who got it has had health problems. Her husband has heart issues, my sister has COPD, her son is a meth addict and her other son has had some issues.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    Narciso saidPeople can do whatever they want with their money. Which is fine because any normal functioning independent person should make their own living and be in control of their own future.


    You KNOW I love YOU...but that is really not the point.

    Being able to fend for Yourself and being intentionally cut out of a family for completely ridiculous reasons are two VERY differnet issues.

    There are MANY very accomplished people who still inherit things.

    And keep in mind...if the fortune is more than two generations old, NO ONE really owns it anymore.

    If the money is still so new that the ink is wet, well....then that's different. Whoever makes it first gets to BURN it if they want to.

    But in the case of old money...it is about honoring the wishes and hard work of whomever had the foresight and vision to not only build it but hoped to provide for future generations.

    I recently told this story to another RJ Buddy:

    When Husband #1 died the family lined up in our living room and asked what I intended to take from the apartment (I spent a small fortune on antiques and artwork).

    I took the ceramic pig He made at Summer Camp when He was 6.

    I left the 17th Century Burlwood Armoire.

    I wanted the pig.

    They were welcome to the rest of the crap.

    Value has different meaning to everyone.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    Heart....sinking
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    BTBruce saidYour profile states you're 43. I guess I don't understand why you'd think you should be entitled to anyone else's property. Anyone who isn't a minor, should be reliant on themselves only and not banking on what someone should be leaving them in their will. Value your family / friends ... not the material things they own.


    You are missing the point.

    No one has asked about "entitlement" actually.

    It is a question of being denied something because of Your orientation.

    It is no different than someone refusing to wish You a Happy Birthday because You are Gay.

    It is not about the arbitrary monetary value of something or the ability of someone to be independant.

    It is a question of the spirit in which the act is being carried out and why.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    no, and being assholes to me because I amgay is what got everyone else written out. Granted I dont care I got the Dog. Mr. Snickers is the coolest.
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    Dec 28, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    braddomo saidI guess this for those that were disowned from a family too. Just wondering how many others have gone through this. About 20 years ago when my parents were discovering that I was into guys, a living trust was drawn up around that time....where my younger sister pretty was due to get everything. Not that I was expecting anything since most goes to the surviving spouse first. I was just hurt as well as my older siblings even though they are well off now anyway. I presume much of the problem is that I have a step mother, and so my step sister is her only real daughter. But she is the only mother I've known.


    That's really fucked up....I'm sorry that happened to you icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 28, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    Tangental question:
    If you were the straight sibling and all the inheritance went to you, would you then override the deceased's bigoted will by splitting it with the gay sibling? Or would you keep it for yourself?
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    Dec 28, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    I'm iffy on that. On one hand, it's an injustice to get treated differently for being gay. But on the other hand, it was what that person decided to do with their estate. It's not respecting the wishes of the deceased when they aren't around to give their money to they want it to go to.

    If I didn't want my money given to certain people and it was given anyway, I'd be one livid ghost.
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    Dec 28, 2012 8:54 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidTangental question:
    If you were the straight sibling and all the inheritance went to you, would you then override the deceased's bigoted will by splitting it with the gay sibling? Or would you keep it for yourself?


    Your question is flawed Buddy.

    Once an estate is passed on to YOU it is YOURS.

    What YOU choose to do with what is now YOURS... is YOUR decision.

    You are free to spend or share as You wish.

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    Dec 28, 2012 8:58 AM GMT
    But then you know the deceased wouldn't have given it to you if they knew you'd give it to someone else, and then it wouldn't have been yours at all. Hmmm.
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    Dec 28, 2012 9:10 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidBut then you know the deceased wouldn't have given it to you if they knew you'd give it to someone else, and then it wouldn't have been yours at all. Hmmm.


    Unless specified...FALSE.

    Once they are gone, it is YOURS to do as You wish.

    Here in NYC We once had a rather incredible Woman named Brooke Astor. She was the 3rd Wife of the (then) amazingly wealthy Vincent Astor.

    After Her Husband's death She dedicated Her life to Philanthropy.

    She always said, "Money is like manure. It is useless unless you spread it around."

    She believed that the Astor fortune should be spent in NYC because THAT is where it was made.

    She supported MANY causes Her late Husband would have been appalled by.

    Including many Gay causes.

    So what???

    We are all a little richer for it.

    And Her Husband was in a better place to understand...



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    Dec 28, 2012 12:52 PM GMT
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
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    BTBruce saidYour profile states you're 43. I guess I don't understand why you'd think you should be entitled to anyone else's property. Anyone who isn't a minor, should be reliant on themselves only and not banking on what someone should be leaving them in their will. Value your family / friends ... not the material things they own.


    Get real or get lost. Normal people (a) don't like to be cheated, (b) don't want sibs getting more than them, (c) don't like to be discriminated against 'cause their gay, and (d) don't need to have a parents death or divorce used against them.

    Congrats, fool, you get the award for least emphatic guy of 2012.


    Hey swimguychicago ... in your version of "normal", you state people don't want to be cheated. Cheated of what? Nobody is obligated to leave anything to anyone in a will. You're only "cheated" if you're banking on receiving something which isn't yours to begin with. You state that people don't want sibs getting more than them. Really? I say grow up. Your parents brought you into the world. If they provided guidance, food and shelter to you while you were growing up, consider yourself fortunate. You aren't entitled to their wealth upon their death. Thanks for the award. I hope you won't now plan on me leaving it to you in my will ...
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:27 PM GMT
    My dad said over a year ago that when he dies he isn't going to give me the house that we live in because he doesn't want me doing batty man stuff and that it would bring shame to him after he has died or something like that.
    But I'm not too fussed because I don't want to keep this shitty house anyway. All I want was my parents to accept me for who I am but they don't.
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:27 PM GMT
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    BTBruce saidYour profile states you're 43. I guess I don't understand why you'd think you should be entitled to anyone else's property. Anyone who isn't a minor, should be reliant on themselves only and not banking on what someone should be leaving them in their will. Value your family / friends ... not the material things they own.


    Get real or get lost. Normal people (a) don't like to be cheated, (b) don't want sibs getting more than them, (c) don't like to be discriminated against 'cause their gay, and (d) don't need to have a parents death or divorce used against them.

    Congrats, fool, you get the award for least emphatic guy of 2012.

    Actually BTBruce was all too (wrongly) emphatic. What he wasn't was empathetic.
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    I've heard of things like this. I am sorry.
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
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    swimguychicago said
    BTBruce saidYour profile states you're 43. I guess I don't understand why you'd think you should be entitled to anyone else's property. Anyone who isn't a minor, should be reliant on themselves only and not banking on what someone should be leaving them in their will. Value your family / friends ... not the material things they own.


    Get real or get lost. Normal people (a) don't like to be cheated, (b) don't want sibs getting more than them, (c) don't like to be discriminated against 'cause their gay, and (d) don't need to have a parents death or divorce used against them.

    Congrats, fool, you get the award for least emphatic guy of 2012.

    Actually BTBruce was all too (wrongly) emphatic. What we wasn't was empathetic.


    ... Umm let's remember that the point of the original post, was not to mourn the loss of a loved one ... but, instead to mourn the loss of their wealth passing to someone other than the poster.
  • seafrontbloke

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    Dec 28, 2012 1:42 PM GMT
    I don't understand your families.

    My parents split when I was 16 and have both remarried. I have younger sisters. My parents have been more than generous to all of us with no discrimination and I have reason to believe that their wills are similar. My stepfather has no children of his own, my stepmother has but again, we're all treated appropriately.

    Neither of my parents are particularly religious and though my mother had a few qualms about no "heir" grandson (my sisters have five daughters) she and my father both consider that I'm intelligent and mature enough to not "be gay for fashion" but because it's the way I'll be happy. They were both at our wedding in the summer (as were the step parents).
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    Dec 28, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
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    BTBruce saidYour profile states you're 43. I guess I don't understand why you'd think you should be entitled to anyone else's property. Anyone who isn't a minor, should be reliant on themselves only and not banking on what someone should be leaving them in their will. Value your family / friends ... not the material things they own.


    Get real or get lost. Normal people (a) don't like to be cheated, (b) don't want sibs getting more than them, (c) don't like to be discriminated against 'cause their gay, and (d) don't need to have a parents death or divorce used against them.

    Congrats, fool, you get the award for least emphatic guy of 2012.


    Hey swimguychicago ... in your version of "normal", you state people don't want to be cheated. Cheated of what? Nobody is obligated to leave anything to anyone in a will. You're only "cheated" if you're banking on receiving something which isn't yours to begin with. You state that people don't want sibs getting more than them. Really? I say grow up. Your parents brought you into the world. If they provided guidance, food and shelter to you while you were growing up, consider yourself fortunate. You aren't entitled to their wealth upon their death. Thanks for the award. I hope you won't now plan on me leaving it to you in my will ...


    I personally think that favoring one child over another, simply because of one's sexual orientation, is a lot less mature than expressing sadness, irritation, or anger over it. And while one certainly isn't entitled to any amount of money from a will, one SHOULD be treated just as well (or poorly, depending on the family) as his or her fellow siblings.