Gay men and Game how are they turning you on?

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    Aug 26, 2007 7:47 AM GMT
    Hey Studs,

    What has a guy done to turn you on? Made you want him? Most gay guys I have met have no game. It’s like they don’t know how to talk to you to get your attention. Most men who have tried to talk to me were drunk, lame, boring, or a bit too sexual.

    For myself if I like a guy who will try to go the extra mile for me to show that he interested in me. Guys who are bold and not afraid to make the move are first on the list!

    If a guy’s game is good you just want more!

    So I wonder why are so many gay men passive aggressive? If you want it get it!

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    Aug 26, 2007 8:08 AM GMT
    "Most men who have tried to talk to me were drunk, lame, boring, or a bit too sexual."

    Do you think you may have a bit of attitude? Perhaps guys back off once they get the sense you are judging their behaviour.
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    Aug 26, 2007 8:32 AM GMT
    Well I'm not judging guys I'm just noticing. For myself If I meet someone I put my best foot foward.

    I'm never rude to a guy. I talk to everyone.

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    Aug 26, 2007 8:56 AM GMT
    For me it got to be the attention he give me. Some guys have the way to make you feel important, sexy, and attractive. I know most of the time they just doing that so you go to bed with them (hey, I do that trick when I want to bed someone). But yes , the way they look into your eyes, hold your hand ,kinda refuse to let it go and show concern about you. But of course if it go to the point of stalking and annoying , that is a major turn off.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 26, 2007 11:38 AM GMT
    I like men who are forward...

    But it is what it is
    If you're interested you're interested
    If a cute guy is shy about approaching me that's cute too

    I'm an equal opportunity employer for cute guys :)
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    Aug 27, 2007 1:15 AM GMT
    Yeah dreamdrop, I agree that some gay are that way. But don't forget to factor in age.

    Show me a older guy acting like a kid, and that's someone who's afraid to live.

    GQjock, "shyness is nice but shyness can stop you..." LOL!
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    Aug 27, 2007 4:03 AM GMT
    A really interesting question, mostly because when I first read it I thought, oh, how simple. And then I tried to think of some examples, and couldn't. I realized it was one of those things that I think I know, but don't really know.

    I'm assuming we are not talking about initial contact. So what I have done is rather than buy a guy a gift or something to show that I am enjoying getting to know him, I made this one guy a video. It was a commercial on how we should continue getting to know each other.

    It does seem that beyond sex and clubbing or just going out, there is little to courtship these days. I think that to our determent we are not actively participating in our attractions. The same goes for what happens after we get someone's attention. We confuse letting something happen to being passive.

    Being passive, I think, happens when one doesn't orchestrate in a wise way the soulful interaction of getting to know someone. Like the unfortunate habit of calling and emailing too much. Or just not attending to who the person in front of you really is.

    For a friend, I tried this scavenger hunt for a date, I wrote a spy mystery, and then they had to solve it by going around the city figuring out what the renamed places were and talking to people I had cajoled into the game, like a security guard or one building and a secretary at a random office. At the end I set up a picnic in a park.

    For someone to get my attention they have to be interesting, be passionate about something in life, and in some way be adventurous, promise by their very living to show me the world in a way I had not seen it before. As they talk to me these things come out. It's the quirky and different things that grab and woo me.

    I try to show someone something about me that connects to them by listening to what they have to say about themselves. Oh don't know if that gets to the question.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 27, 2007 10:49 AM GMT
    Yeah I agree...
    If they're too shy I'll never know
    but there's something about a guy who blushes
    or a guy who's not a typical player
    and stumbles on his words
  • phill

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    Sep 06, 2007 7:18 PM GMT
    dear mad apollo please be my friend for wacky endevors. I think sometimes that i would like to do those things but i am pragmatic. All though i have an air of im down for anything.

    I think someone is attractive who can be extreamly silly yet erudite. I find knowledge attractive more so than looks but that doesnt hurt either. I have never really had anyone approach me in a game kinda way.

    I think with the advent of the online dating world its not about game because it seems that you get one or two responses. hey your hot. or your profile is interesting lets chat, which is greek for hey your hot but you wrote alot in your profile so i assume you like to talk about yourself.

    The first two boyfriends i had i just kinda met and there wasnt any games. Back then i was working in the ambiguous relm of things. I would never implicedly state that i was looking for male companionship but i would be friendly in general. So those were weirdly friendship non game moments.

    The current boyfriend i have i met on NYE at a house music event. When i go out dancing it is about the love of the music and the vibe of the party. I saw him dancing off to the left of the dj booth and he just has this open style that made me want to dance with him. It was really strange because i went over to him and danced with him each feeding the others movement. I didnt even know what his face looked like. So after midnight i left because i had work at 6:30am. he came up as i was leaving and said dont leave me hanging like that. I said goodnight. Didnt even get a name. Still didnt know what his face looked like. But he caught my attention at two other functions.

    The third time he made a joke about his ancestry and i followed suit. Then i invited him out on a date latter that week. So again i have never had the game thing. just casual conversation that lead to greater things.

    I know for certain that i would not be able to be smooth enough to go up to someone and say a line or try to solicite sex somehow based on my personality. And if it was done to me it would most likely embaress me to no end.

    Until recently i made it a point to not notice that men exist. Much to my social detriment.