Lovely guy, but in rebound and no sex... Yet.

  • Suetonius

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    Jan 03, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    Now that you've said you've been dating only a month -
    A month is not a very long time to really get to know another - unless you're spending every day or night together. You either grow to really like someone, and be able to put up with their faults, or you don't. No one is fault-free, and you can't change someone's personality. Maybe there are things that you couldn't put up with regardless - like if you discovered he were cruel to animals, perhaps. As someone else implied, there is lots to do in bed besides anal sex. So how important is that kind of sex to you? For some guys, it is very important, but if you have only been dating (occasionally?) for two years, do you really know that it is that important to you? Nobody can give you definitive answers as to your current man-interest, but I would encourage you to follow your heart, wherever that leads you.
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    Jan 04, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    My advice: try to relax and SLOW DOWN.

    2 months or so is not very long. Long enough to know you like each other, but not long enough to make hard calls unless he's acting like a jerk, etc. It sounds like he's a nice guy... a bit on the rebound. You are both testing the waters here. Try not to over-think things especially in regard to sex. That's a mutable topic unless he has said: I will NEVER have anal sex with you.

    Sounds to me like you could do far worse (and many on here have, including myself). Hope that helps. Enjoy and Good Luck! :-)