Gay love is hard to come by

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 02, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    Cash said
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    It's all in the eye of the beholder.

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    You are correct ... guess I am hanging the sigh around my own neck ... time to chuck it and burn it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    Claystation saidgay


    lol You're responses kill me everytime Clay
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    sonicpower19 saidI don't look for love. I don't even think I look for potential dates icon_eek.gif

    I was raised to be an independent person.


    well hoooraaaayyy for youuu.......


    got a problem? I got a 24/7 complaint desk I can get you in contact with icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    KKim11 said
    GigoloAssassin said
    sonicpower19 saidI don't look for love. I don't even think I look for potential dates icon_eek.gif

    I was raised to be an independent person.


    well hoooraaaayyy for youuu.......


    I think he's just speaking on behalf of all the gay guys who may not be all that bothered about "finding love" and acting desperate.


    But how about some of us who were too busy with their lives that they held off seeking relationships, until they unexpectedly meet somebody who would've been a potential partner but didn't work out?
    They get heartbroken again, and the walls go up again.
    Loneliness isn't necessarily desperation.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:56 AM GMT
    Co-dependence is not love.

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    I find it makes me cum harder.
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    Jan 02, 2013 6:04 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said

    But how about some of us who were too busy with their lives that they held off seeking relationships, until they unexpectedly meet somebody who would've been a potential partner but didn't work out?
    They get heartbroken again, and the walls go up again.

    Loneliness isn't necessarily desperation.


    MyolCo-dependence is not love.


    I didn't even need to justify this one... Myol did it for me icon_smile.gif
    But honestly, I get lonely too and I get desperate but a good friend reminds me that those times are when you focus more on your career.

    I just think, that if I keep doing what I do and workout and study hard then eventually someone will come along and I'll be perfect for them.
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    Jan 02, 2013 6:07 AM GMT
    Any fulfilling loving relationship is hard to come by. But being a minority in the overall population yes that limits your/mine/our choices and chances at finding love a bit.


    But there should still be enough men to go around icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    Love isn't hard to come by but like is......
  • MadeinMich

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidJust wait until you are my age ... you may as well hang a sign around your neck
    "Property Condemned"


    Thats not true boo. You're pretty handsome. I would rehab you and put you back on the market icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    OP, You should be careful. Some people on RJ may bash you for "generalizing" the gay community.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    Oh hahaaa
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:15 PM GMT
    When you do find real gay love, it's totally worth it.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    AMoonHawk saidJust wait until you are my age ... you may as well hang a sign around your neck
    "Property Condemned"



    I thought you were smarter than to buy into that crap. icon_mad.gif

    This* cause, life is too short.
  • rnch

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidWhen you do find real gay love, it's totally worth it.






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    Jan 02, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    JOOU saidOh ha--haaa!! Don't make fun of the title the pun is intended

    So my point is that gay love is difficult to find. Gay sex is easy but I think it's because of the sex and stigma of being whorey and shit, the fear of STD, the fear of being alone, the fear of not looking the best, not being the youngest, not being the most in shape, and the fear of other gay guys in general more slutty, that makes a true gay love very hard to find.

    What thinkst thou?

    Stop trolling yourself out of a life worth living. Have the terrorist really won? You must have stored up pension for living?
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    JOOU said^

    No. Just no.

    This is not a straight like problem. This is a gay specific problem. Okay so true love is hard to come by in straight world

    But it's especially difficult to come by in gay world.


    It's really not. This just your way of trying to justify your problems by making it a gay problem. If it's a gay problem and not an every person problem it might explain your issues with finding love. The fact that you deny this fact is kinda hilarious.

    Also, "What thinkst thou?" Really?
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    Jan 02, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    JOOU said^

    No. Just no.

    This is not a straight like problem. This is a gay specific problem. Okay so true love is hard to come by in straight world

    But it's especially difficult to come by in gay world.


    Psychologically abusive people hiding behind pictures if coconuts and butterflies can probably offer a lot more insight into this problem than any of us can......
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    I don't believe there is such a thing as "gay" love or "straight" love. When you are in love with a partner, it is the same type love, no matter the sexes.

    With that said, the OP is once again being defeatest or homophobic. It is no harder to find love as a gay man than it is as a straight man.

    Some people just like to whine and blame their insecurities and failures on anything or anyone other than themselves.

    P.S.
    The problem, in my opinion, is that we now have an entire generation (or two) that have no concept of what it is to date, or court another. Today's young people have no idea of how social interaction works, especially in the dating realm.
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    PaulNKS saidI don't believe there is such a thing as "gay" love or "straight" love. When you are in love with a partner, it is the same type love, no matter the sexes.

    With that said, the OP is once again being defeatest or homophobic. It is no harder to find love as a gay man than it is as a straight man.

    Some people just like to whine and blame their insecurities and failures on anything or anyone other than themselves.

    P.S.
    The problem, in my opinion, is that we now have an entire generation (or two) that have no concept of what it is to date, or court another. Today's young people have no idea of how social interaction works, especially in the dating realm.



    No offense but you sound bitter..

    It always kills me how the "young generation" don't have this and that...but while you are saying that, where are the older generation...aka the parents.

    Looks like someone dropped the ball

    If you older ones did your job then maybe the young ones would not be the way they are. Last time I checked children didnt raise themselves...or maybe they did, hence the issues these days.

    Morals and Ethics, and other good behavior and qualities are learned not ingrained, and if us youngins don't know about it, it's cause you guys didnt teach it.

    as for everything else said..i think it is harder. Gay people are a minority, so as such you would have a harder time finiding the "one" it's math really...

    you have to find other gay people, where they go, and what they do etc etc etc..as a guy from Alabama....it's hard just finding other gay people who arent even in the closet.

    Now the thing about love being equal...Agreed.
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    Love is Love is Love.

    But what kind of Love do you wish to experience with another?

    More importantly, are you already the kind of Love you seek?

    Sometimes, I wonder if expectation some have surrounding Romantic Love are fair and honest over the fantasy we can often create and get distracted with.

    There is no "Harder than" or "Easier than" or "Right way" or "Wrong way" to create and experience Romantic Love.

    Who do you want to see show up? And who are you willing to be to make it happen?

    There are no victims or heroes in Love, only the Stories we choose to get caught up in.
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    Jan 02, 2013 10:55 PM GMT
    I gay love this thread.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 02, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    While there is truth to that, it is still attainable. Not all guys are the same even if it does feel like it (seriously lol). But you just have to keep trying because things don't stay the same forever.
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    Jan 02, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    It is hard to come by. There's much truth in the phrase: Love happens when you least expect it.

    Everyone has expectations. What is hard, is practicing not having them. We all expect things in life we are not entitled to; we all attach to fantasy outcomes that haven't even happened yet. My ego loves fantasy and is driven by fear; I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in that.

    When I finally started having no expectations and realizing the reality that tomorrow is just another gift given to me, I found that Love already existed all around me. There was no longer any reason to search for it.

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    Jan 02, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    cuz 30 below are hookersicon_cry.gif