Finding Purpose

  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:36 AM GMT
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    SkinnyBitch saidIt's hard to offer advice without the details, which you may or may not want to put on the Internet. But if hugs help, I send a fresh batch attached to this message.

    This is me standing in a hallway. I don't know where to go, or what to expect next. I see people's habitual misery and can't think of any other solution other than love. But how do I show love to townspeople I don't know and encourage them to act with love towards themselves in turn?


    If you are standing at that spot on the hallway, you already know where you are, that in essence is knowing where to go!! being lost is an expectation in itself, that you created because you are not aware where ever you are is a good place to start. Perhaps not this very moment but when you become lost for a while sooner ot later you will find your way out of it. You know, I know a lot of successful and accomplished people, that even with all that they still have not found a purpose in life. I know of people who while still struggling to become successful and accompished, they did found a purpose in life. Finding a purpose is as easy as finding inner peace with yourself and the world; DO NOT EXPECT same through or from people or the world; unless of course if you are the compassionate type who is able to find purpose by giving and sharing the love and appreciation you have of life in general!
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    Jan 03, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    I found another porpoise!!

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    Jan 03, 2013 6:43 AM GMT
    Have you read Siddharta by Herman Hesse?
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    Jan 03, 2013 8:51 AM GMT
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    One of my favorite books, if not my favorite. Life changing, IMO.

    I recommend you to read it icon_biggrin.gif, hope this helps and cheer up, life has great expectations for you!


    I second this recommendation!

    Perhaps looking into Taoism?


    The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff is a lighthearted approach to its meaning and message.
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    Jan 03, 2013 11:16 AM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:24 PM GMT
    _menz0 said Anyone ever struggled to find purpose for their lives when circumstances weren't in in your favor? I've got support and a caring family, but somehow I'm convinced whatever task I'm meant to in the place I live is impossible. I'm here for some purpose. There has to be some purpose I'm meant to fill. I just need to know what... if any. icon_sad.gif

    I've been feeling the same thing in my life here lately.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidNo being funny at all but by any chance are you a Leo?

    I'm a Cancer grazing the cuspe of Leo.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
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    _menz0 said Anyone ever struggled to find purpose for their lives when circumstances weren't in in your favor? I've got support and a caring family, but somehow I'm convinced whatever task I'm meant to in the place I live is impossible. I'm here for some purpose. There has to be some purpose I'm meant to fill. I just need to know what... if any. icon_sad.gif

    I've been feeling the same thing in my life here lately.

    Think its biological. Certain states of mind for certain stages of life. Can't be a total self-serving slut-hoes all our lives.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:31 PM GMT
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    Amen.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:32 PM GMT
    tanlejos said
    A_X91 saidmans_search_for_meaning.jpg

    One of my favorite books, if not my favorite. Life changing, IMO.

    I recommend you to read it icon_biggrin.gif, hope this helps and cheer up, life has great expectations for you!


    I second this recommendation!

    Perhaps looking into Taoism?


    The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff is a lighthearted approach to its meaning and message.

    Another pair of reads for the kindle.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    Narciso saidI found another porpoise!!

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    Its a fem! =o
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:35 PM GMT
    _menz0 said
    JamieJfromtheA saidNo being funny at all but by any chance are you a Leo?

    I'm a Cancer grazing the cuspe of Leo.

    May be if you divert your energy towards other things this feeling can stay away for a bit of more time.
    Are you done with your career aspirations? Have you achieved your personal ambitions?
    At the moment I can hardly relate as I am focusing on building my career and moving towards certain goal which I want to achieve 4-5 years down the line. Yeah its all related to my career and shit.
    Have you ever read stuff related to concept of Spiritualism in Hinduism/Buddhism? I am no expert either but I see a lot of people who do spend time in such kind of things. There isn't anything as such religious here.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:43 PM GMT
    LEANDRO_NJ said
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    SkinnyBitch saidIt's hard to offer advice without the details, which you may or may not want to put on the Internet. But if hugs help, I send a fresh batch attached to this message.

    This is me standing in a hallway. I don't know where to go, or what to expect next. I see people's habitual misery and can't think of any other solution other than love. But how do I show love to townspeople I don't know and encourage them to act with love towards themselves in turn?


    If you are standing at that spot on the hallway, you already know where you are, that in essence is knowing where to go!! being lost is an expectation in itself, that you created because you are not aware where ever you are is a good place to start. Perhaps not this very moment but when you become lost for a while sooner ot later you will find your way out of it. You know, I know a lot of successful and accomplished people, that even with all that they still have not found a purpose in life. I know of people who while still struggling to become successful and accompished, they did found a purpose in life. Finding a purpose is as easy as finding inner peace with yourself and the world; DO NOT EXPECT same through or from people or the world; unless of course if you are the compassionate type who is able to find purpose by giving and sharing the love and appreciation you have of life in general!

    Thanks for depth of insight, Leandro. Success in school and business has always eluded me. Not that I worked in an places I never had passion for. To be honest working in restaurants used to excite and challenge me, but now the same drive is leading me to seek success for myself elsewhere. But that's something else entirely from looking for a purpose where I'm at now.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:47 PM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2013 1:08 PM GMT
    I always ponder that too. I'm always introspective, always examining the things that happen. In one's journey, one has to have a purpose, a goal to strive for, to feel like u've accomplished something. That u were put
    on this earth for a reason, not just fade into oblivion.......
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    Jan 03, 2013 1:10 PM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    I love having existential discussions in the morning. My mind is fresh and clear.

    I've struggled with purpose for a significant portion of my short years. I have asked so many questions that remained unanswered. I focused on my failures and shortcomings. I did not practice vision.

    I resolved about 7 months ago that I would be better today than I was yesterday. Every day.
    It'd be cool to be able to say I had the revelation and I changed instantaneously. That was not the case.
    One of the barriers I discovered was that I found fulfillment in some wrong areas.
    I had a defeatist mentality. I was actually comforted by my lack of accomplishment. It's revolting as I glance back....

    Anyway

    I don't think you can go wrong if you make each day better than the previous. I have my spirituality as a filter in determining what better is.

    Hopefully my rambling is decipherable and possibly helpful.
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    Jan 03, 2013 1:49 PM GMT
    Have you heard the saying 'as ye sow, so shall ye reap"?

    Its something I believe in firmly.

    Have a firm belief that the good energy you put out will be returned to you.

    If you want to have friends - do things for others that a friend would do.

    Do this selflessly, not expecting reward.

    As Gamrican said - give of your heart.

    Be there for others, contribute to charities, allow your mind some peace - before long all will fall in place, not because you strove to find it, but because you were ready for it to find you.

    *Hugs*
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    A huge part of finding purpose is finding your happiness... When a person is truly happy its spreads to those around you. Figure out what truly brings joy in your life and do it GRAND! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    Sometimes we never get the answers nor are we entitled to them, but slowly the questions will go away.
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    When I got back home from a 1.5 year overseas tour with the army (my contract expired while I was activated), I had no idea what I was going to do with my life. I knew I couldn't be satisfied back in my small home town. I felt restless, lost, and frustrated. I felt like life was over - kinda like spiderman after he lost all his super powers.

    So the first thing I did was get addicted to Guild Wars for about a month. Like non-stop 20-hr raids. Then when I couldn't see straight anymore, I started driving around aimlessly. This led me to go on the most epic road trip of my life. For about 4 months, I drove down route 66 and meandered across America. I even won 7k in Vegas. By the time I hit Santa Monica, I felt like a new man. I came back home, applied for a new job in a field I had never done, and moved to Boston. And there, I had my first gay relationship.

    So I guess you never know how life will really work out. Good luck. *Hugs
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    Well, chances are your purpose is going to be different from another's....when I occasionally feel I'm without purpose, I like to listen to this (I also like to dance around to it, but that's another entirely embarrassing topic):


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    Jan 03, 2013 3:55 PM GMT

    I also like to use this:

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